Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

after 11 years... it's probably not about the weed, TBH. guess that's a dick thing to say, but c'mon 11 years is a long time to live with someone who uses and manufactures a schedule 1 narcotic, to one day all of a sudden be all... "that shits not cool" my experience tells me that bitches need excuses to make moves in their life. they can't do it themselves they need something to push them in whatever direction they think they should be traveling. my 2 cents.

i agree most male and females look for excuses to justify

angrygranola said:

after 11 years... it's probably not about the weed, TBH. guess that's a dick thing to say, but c'mon 11 years is a long time to live with someone who uses and manufactures a schedule 1 narcotic, to one day all of a sudden be all... "that shits not cool" my experience tells me that bitches need excuses to make moves in their life. they can't do it themselves they need something to push them in whatever direction they think they should be traveling. my 2 cents.

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So i havent posted on here in awhile but saw this and wow.Is this me?Im going thru the same thing right now.Was married for 4 years to a lady i thought to be the nice most caring hot girl that didnt smoke."My bad wont do that again."Ive been smoken for many year befor i met her and had told her that up front.well i got medical 2 year into it are marriage and she was all about it because im in pain all the time due to alot of broken bones.She went to school and got a job she wanted as a vet.Then one day she came home and was like you must stop smoken or im gone.I truely thought she was just in a mood.WELL I SAID IM NOT STOPPING I AM WHAT I AM.TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT.she left it.I actullay help the bitch pack and move.I couldnt believe someone that says they love you could ask you to stop something that help you so much.She was like take painkillers.Thats what everyone else does.Wow right.Well i have nerve issues and pain meds dont work very good nor are they good for you.so im very stoned so dont mind the spelling.i hope the guy that started this is doing good.he didnt need that lady.

I hate the way women marry you so they can try and fix you.

Somday im getting a divorce from my non smoking wife an moving back to colorado.
But ill wait tell the kids are grown up in about 10 yrs.

siht7419 said:

I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. .

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Don't be an asshole, it's only weed. It's your fucking wife man. I haven't bothered reading what has been said in this thread, but if it's anything other than put your wife first it's fucking bad advice. Put her first, make a deal to stop growing but fight for the right to smoke and maybe she will let you grow again in the future.

It makes me laugh..dude had gone, and i bet hes not coming back in here, but still people give him advice like hes still here....I bet He didint left her and now his smoking crack

This is why i'm glad my long term girlfriend smokes.

So hopefully, the OP comes back, so we can hear what happened. This looks like it's 7 months old. If you ever read this, good luck man. You have to decide what's most important to you. Personally, i'd leave her and move to Colorado.

siht7419 said:

Thanks everyone.

The main problem is she wants to have kids without smoke around. I have no problem smoking in the shed or out of the house if it came down to it, but we don't have any kids yet. I'm so confused, I have applied to a couple of jobs in Cali. If they call me, I guess that I'll have to make a decision, one that my heart will hate either way.

So here's what she's most scared of, it was almost done.
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We compromised and I offered to take the little ones to her uncles house, and for now, just grow vegetables in the cabinet. She agreed. Hopefully, I'll be able to bring a girl to flower within the shelter of the other plants. Are there any vegetables that look like MJ so that I could sneak one in every once in a while?

I know it may sound sad, but you guys (RIU community) are the only people I can honestly ask for advice and have a conversation with about this. So, thank you again.

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Hey dude ... tough spot to be in ... BUT i think the baby excuse is bullshit ... Why go and get a degree and then become a mom ?...it makes no sense to me ?

Sounds to me like your being manipulated a bit .

Bottom line is this ... It's up to you and her to sort it out ... Just try and be adult about it , IF its just about a smoke free enviroment for a child ... then you both have to make the rules and stick to them ... She would agree to something like that don't you think ?

But i have a feeling its nothing to do with that .

You come across as a decent kind of guy ( hard to find in this day and age ) ... Try calling her bluff ... Tell her you want to continue and are willing to stick to the rules if a baby is on the way .... But you will be doing it with or without her if need be .... see what she says

Good Luck man ....i hope she can see your point in the end

I've been through this before.

In my opinion she is just looking for an excuse to leave because she has her eye on someone else.

That's they way they play it, so it will be YOUR fault when you divorce and not hers for cheating.

It's funny how it's all of a sudden a problem now.

She's gonna leave one way or the other because she thinks the grass is greener on the other side.

Sorry you're going through this, but you'll get through it.

siht7419 said:

Hello RIU,

I am seriously distraught over this. We have been together for 11 years and married for 6. I have always smoked weed around her and even with her uncle. She has only taken a few hits in her life and is not a smoker. I have changed my life for the better since I've met her; she encouraged me to go to college, to quit smoking cigs and to be more financially responsible. We don't have children but do have a cat together. After she lost her job a few months ago, she decided to return to school to get a masters degree and has been working part time in the field she wants to transition to. I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. I suggested that I quit growing and she wants weed out of my life all together, so that is not even an option now.

I feel that I have already given up on old friends, habits and sacrificed much for her. Now I think that this has gone too far and that I have changed enough for her and am prepared to go through with the divorce and move to Cali.

I really need some advice. What you would do?

Thanks.

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someone that loves you, for who you are, wont ask you to change.....

Well, first I want to say, I feel for you Man. I dont think its really your smoking & growing herb that is bothering her, since you were together 5 years before you got married... Have you considered going to a counselor? Im no expert, but they can help you both determine what is the real problem and what you each may really want... good luck, and the coolest thing that I have ever heard is... "what you focus on grows" so what that means is concentrate your energy on something good and you will bring more good to yourself. Peace

nubiebud said:

Maybe she has been cheating on you and looking to get out?

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LOL
BINGO, We have a winner..... Going to school and being the hot older woman (Ohh!, I'm sorry, I was thinking about my X....)

The bad thing is,...... The D word(divorce) has been used, and it's hard to take that one back.

On the next episode of 16, growin weed, and pregnant.................