Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

that is a tough break man. I think when it comes down to it you gotta follow a combination of your heart and your head and do what you think is going to make YOU happy overall in the longrun, good luck with your tough situation, hope whatever you do makes you HAPPY cuz life is to short not to be.

i would give her a reason to not like pot by putting a joint out on her forehead. shortly followed by throwing her shit on the curb. life is too short to live fucked up. now put your chin up and get your ass to cali where you will find true happiness.

"Everyone likes the old stoner dude down the road but no one wants his life"

Uh huh, but you can find lots of company who you can kick out of bed and send home any time you like. And you can have the same deep bonds and friendships without all the bad drama. It's not all bad to be the carefree stoner dude and you won't have to deal with the woman in your life as she's turning into a fucking crazy annoying old lady. Do you know even one old lady you would want to be with when you are that age? Will you want to be with your bitchy controlling chick when she's that ugly old and crazy?

They only get worse... MUCH WORSE

You need to at least not waste one more second and talk to her and see if you just aren't right for each other any more. It happens.

OregonMeds said:

"Everyone likes the old stoner dude down the road but no one wants his life"

Uh huh, but you can find lots of company who you can kick out of bed and send home any time you like. And you can have the same deep bonds and friendships without all the bad drama. It's not all bad to be the carefree stoner dude and you won't have to deal with the woman in your life as she's turning into a fucking crazy annoying old lady. Do you know even one old lady you would want to be with when you are that age? Will you want to be with your bitchy controlling chick when she's that ugly old and crazy?

They only get worse... MUCH WORSE

You need to at least not waste one more second and talk to her and see if you just aren't right for each other any more. It happens.

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yep sometimes holes just grow old....hahahaha lol
maybe she just wan'ts a guy to get past the worn out part....LOL
sorry i just couldn't help myself with that one....

Sorry to hear about your situation. Emotions can override things in life, breakups are no fun. No relationship can last though, if one party doesn't want it to. You may be forever chasing your tail, trying to make her happy if she wants out.

Does she drink? If she does and she tells you to quit the weed, you may have a person that has confused legal with "correct" and illegal with "incorrect". Sounds like her aunt might be meddling too and dangerous to your well being, if you
are growing. DO NOT trust her, period.

I think if you give up an important part of your life because another person has told you what you MUST do to keep the relationship, you won't be happy. If you can't bring about a reasonable compromise, I'd say live your life the way you want to. You likely will find somebody that is more compatible, but even if it takes awhile, staying with somebody that you are INCOMPATIBLE with will eventually be worse than being alone for a short time. It's hard to imagine, but life does go on. Good luck.

Rob Roy said:

Sorry to hear about your situation. Emotions can override things in life, breakups are no fun. No relationship can last though, if one party doesn't want it to. You may be forever chasing your tail, trying to make her happy if she wants out.

Does she drink? If she does and she tells you to quit the weed, you may have a person that has confused legal with "correct" and illegal with "incorrect". Sounds like her aunt might be meddling too and dangerous to your well being, if you
are growing. DO NOT trust her, period.

I think if you give up an important part of your life because another person has told you what you MUST do to keep the relationship, you won't be happy. If you can't bring about a reasonable compromise, I'd say live your life the way you want to. You likely will find somebody that is more compatible, but even if it takes awhile, staying with somebody that you are INCOMPATIBLE with will eventually be worse than being alone for a short time. It's hard to imagine, but life does go on. Good luck.

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very true, i gave up hunting back in 1992 cuz of the old lady. i just started back up in 2008 and its been hell ever sence.. i was a very unhappy campernow im back were i belong IN THE WOODS and the wife hates it. she says she never sees me but yet she chooses not to, but yet i do every thing she wants to right down to watching all the girly movies..... my sheets are spliting very slowly, and that sucks cuz i love her...

love and marriage isn't about giving shit up. its about choke holds and drop kicks. oh wait, thats sex...

Sorry if this comes across as asshole offensive or blunt but,
From what I've gathered she was aware of who you were and what you do. Did she not fall in love with YOU? Change is an unnecesarry shift encouraged by insecurity and often fueled by something, jealousy, envy, hate. If it were me " u fell in love with me for me. You knew who I was and loved me for it." "If u can't handle who I still am and will always be *creek* here's the door bitch, use it" light a blunt and go back to pruning the only ladies in your life who will fully respect, love, and understand you. Women are complicated and expensive, so is growing. Wouldn't you rather take the route that will let you have your way with them. And the charges are less if u hit a hard spot and start salin ur dope than they would be for pimpin a wife. Plus u wouldn't have trouble lookin at these ladies the same afterward ya know?
Seriously though. She knew it and now she's not ok with it, people change. Take what uve learned from her and apply it. Remember the good times and don't let any hate or spite in your heart. Look at it as her loss, she's leaving someone who obviously truly cares about her unconditionally. Shell likely never find someone like you again.... Her loss yeah? Now, "go hit the bong til ya face get long. Ass out on da couch wit ya tongue hangin out..."

donkey.420 said:

love and marriage isn't about giving shit up. its about choke holds and drop kicks. oh wait, thats sex...

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hahahahahahahaha

how to get over a woman is buy geting under another. LOL

I guess alot of us dont get credit for our input? .. that kinda sucks.

Well, we told him whats up, guess he'll find out for himself.

He's in for a "wake up" call, and soon.

The "Brady Bunch" lifestyle aint gonna last too long.

Mark these words.

if she is willing to divorce over such a minor issue she may need to rethink her priorities. weather she agrees or disagrees with your choices to smoke weed the relationship should hold a higher precedent. If she is willing to go so far as to threaten a divorce, it doesn't sound like she's in it for better or worse. Seems like the stress of losing her job and going back to school could have built up into this disagreement.

researchkitty said:

Female perspective here. SHE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU IF YOU KEEP SMOKING OR GROWING. It'll eventually be the straw that breaks the camels back even if it continues now. Some chicks dig it, (most) some dont. I feel terrible your marriage has continued this long. Since your asking for advice, find a chick who is a stoner and loves you. If it were in my shoes, regretfully, I'd leave, and continue my lifestyle. This advice is ONLY if you DONT HAVE CHILDREN, which you say you dont. As for the cat, I hate them so my suggestion is a shooting range, but that's my own issues to overcome.

You also have to be concerned during divorce court. If (when) it gets ugly, she's the one going to school and you've been the bread winner. Illegal proceeds are the same as legal proceeds in a court of law. She shows the judge how much weed you grow and how much money you make, and guess who gives you a knock on the door a little while later. 5-0! Be *VERY* cautious and NEVER grow at home for probably a year after your divorce. Grow it with a friend at their house or something. Or heed your own advice and move to California or another state of your choosing where its lawful.

Good luck man, I feel for ya, but remember, this is just one chicks point of view. ONLY your opinion matters, follow your heart and look out for yourself.

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LOL ur name is researchkitty and you hate cats... and you have a cat as an avatar, thats soo funny

And to siht, MJ should be your main girl, shes my main girl, and any womaan that doesnt see that Id say good bye to!

CLOSETGROWTH said:

I guess alot of us dont get credit for our input? .. that kinda sucks.

Well, we told him whats up, guess he'll find out for himself.

He's in for a "wake up" call, and soon.

The "Brady Bunch" lifestyle aint gonna last too long.

Mark these words.

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I continually thank you all for all of the advice and words of encouragement. I am still trying to figure this out. As I said before, I am willing to continue to give to her whatever she want's, but it can't always be one sided. She need to show major improvements and changes that I want for her to continue with this relationship.

As it stands right now, I brought all my plants to her uncles house and I'm only smoking on the weekends which kind of sucks, but I do love her more than weed.

glad u could work things out....mutual agreements is good...and at least u didnt have to quit all at once...and at least the plants werent destroyed or thrown away at least u can access ur plants still...got to look at the brighter side of things sumtimes

Sounds like things are pretty broken to begin with... Pot can't be the only issue, but I will agree it will be the straw that breaks the camels back...

Its hard to be in a relationship when one enjoys and the other doesn't... I was in a relationship like that for 2 years, its didn't last... My husband of 10 years is a smoker, things just work better...

What gets me is, did she know all this about you before she married you? If so, then allowances have to be made on her behalf... Marriage is such a delicate dance, but it really shouldn't be this difficult...

You know what my hubby and I argue about most in our household? Whether or not Batman can be called a real Super Hero as he has no superpowers.... I'm a huge superman fan...

You know if you're with your match... You just know... Everything should feel natural and right... If it doesn't and it sounds like you are not fulfilling each other anyway, you can walk away... But do you remember what it was that made you fall in love with her in the first place...??

Also don't be too much of a push-over by giving her everything she wants... You need to let her know that you're still the Alpha Male, even if you don't feel it... I let my husband believe he's the boss from time to time, its healthy...lol...

But we've got a three year history before we got married and we covered all the topics we didn't want to have spring up, like he's ok for me to stay home and look after the kids, he's ok that I smoke and grow pot, he's ok that I want to go back to work full time...I'm Ok with the fact he loves WWE, I'm ok with him wanting to stay at home and look after the kids while I go back to work full time.... We've already crossed the hard bridges..Sticky issues too like, divorce, child raising, sex education...All that shit has been discussed at length and is still open for discussion if we wish. If more people did this, then more marriages would work.....

Its all about compromise, my hubby and I are often broke after paying all the bills and taking care of the kids needs and wants, but it don't matter... I have him, and he will always have me.... Money is the one thing that breaks more people up than anything, the next on the list is drugs... Do you really want to be that kind of statistic????? If you can be with your partner, in times of no cash and no fun, you have a pretty good chance of going the distance... If, when things are going well, you don't feel passion or deep emotion for your partner, then its time to go....

Money and drugs are two really stupid reasons for two people in love to be apart, but even more stupid if it keeps them together....

Wow, thanks for that. We have been through many moneyless times and our love has never floundered. Now in her defense, I did spend our last 100.00 dollars on a fan because I needed to get more air flow through the grow box. In my rational, I was going to be able to bring in extra income once the harvest came. I think that's what "broke the camels back". She is starting to ease up a bit.

maybe explain to her what marijuana does for you...for me it gives me back my sanity

MI Bluntsmoker said:

LOL ur name is researchkitty and you hate cats... and you have a cat as an avatar, thats soo funny

And to siht, MJ should be your main girl, shes my main girl, and any womaan that doesnt see that Id say good bye to!

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Kitty is the nickname for one of my dogs. Never did like cats! The hello kitty seemed appropriate for an avatar, since its perfectly girly. Like me!