Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

the only woman thats never let me down is Mary Jane, but if she really wants you to quit everything after 6 yrs of marrage it kind of makes you think why you got married to her in the first place if shes so against marijuana, cuz its obviously a big part of your life as it is with a lot of people on RIU, if she cant accept you for who you are then find someone who will, you'll be much happier

it all comes down to what you think is important, if you think you've sacrificed enough then go with the flow and if its meant to be then it is

no bitch is worth YOUR happiness

Just one more thing...........one more thing............one more thing........one more thing............and then you're dead.

Ditch the bitch. That is all. -BGK

she wants out and will find anything you do that she can use to get what she wants , did she thank you for putting her through school? she may already be seeing her new man in transition, doing it in the field

tom lykis would say to DTB but i am just quoting him

One word for ya brotha : GOODBYE Leave the foolish to flock with birds of the same feather

Peace, Love and Happiness

Im not sure what its like to be in a relationship as serious as yours but try to talk to her and cope with her like dont sqay your going to leave if she doesn't like it but say that you have made alot of changes for her and lost some friends becasue of her but you just dont think this is a big deal because its not like your selling the weed and your not indangering anyone.

Lemmie know if that helped

Just tell her your honest fellings.

-CueTrott

Don't sneak around with smoking. Lies don't belong in a marrage. They are never healthy for a life long relationship. She will know eventually. THEY ALL DO! And when that time comes she will realize all the times you lied. Hard to take you serious after that.

Look. Either you love weed or her. That's it. Make a choice and start your life. But remind her of this:

She married you for the man you were. Those vows were for who you were. If she loved you then and that has changed now, how much more will your love change with her? Will your love flop every time she sees a defect in you? Just make sure she loves you and not her idea of you. Because if she marries her idea of you, maybe that is where love is falling short. She is starting to realize you are not adding up to her idea of you was.

But also, date a bit more. She is focusing on you probebly because she is frustrated or lonely. She might just be using the weed thing as a crutch to pick on you because she needs to get out and she maybe even needs some
BIG JOHNSON.

Tell her tonight, honey you are going to get a neck rub and then I'm going to fuck you four ways from Sunday.

researchkitty said:

As for the cat, I hate them so my suggestion is a shooting range, but that's my own issues to overcome.

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I think I'm in love!!

sounds like your wife sees MJ as the other woman. im a truck driver and met this chick 2 days after i gave up my apartment, put my belongins in a storage unit and hit the road tuff. i would roll into town every every three days or so, chill for a hot minute, and b out again. then i bought my own truck and i would stay gone for longer periods. when i did come through, i would do some work on the truck, or if we were out and headed back in, i'd run by my truck. anyway, my lifestyle was cool with her up to a point and even though she knew i was a trucker for real b4 her, the lifestyle didnt work for her. she may have loved me, but she didnt love my lifestyle and it led to envy towards the truck. honestly i loved my truck more. which do you love more?

Stop smoking, start drinking (daily), do some stupid shit and then maybe the weed might not look so bad anymore.

I wonder how things turned out between them........... Its been 6 months or so?! Still together? Kill each other? Have babies???

YEs please update...did you kill her?

well his profile shows last activity as 11-30-10 but last post was july
or maybe his wife killed him and was looking at what everyone said about her lol

Sorry to hear bro, either way things get better. I don't think your weed issue is the problem just an excuse. You said she went back to school, any new friends? Maybe she is getting outside influence from a male friend... I don't mean to put ideas in your head. Best advice I ever got was that, "men think rationally, women think emotionally" good luck my friend and keep your head up.

smokers plus non smokers don't mix.

just replying to the OP.

Sorry to hear that man, trust me..my wife and i battled for like 7 years about it. she did the whole "ill leave you" and " its me or the weed" thing for a long time..and i just called her bluff and said "well if you wanna throw all we have away because of weed, then do it, i dont need someone like you in my life then". and here we are 7 years later and im still high and happy and she accepts it.

#1 reason to take a stand: Pot isnt and doesnt(SHOULDNT!) define your relationship to begin with, ya know? her not wanting you to do it, is just immature manipulative control. you DO NOT have to be in a relationship that is more dictatorship then union. if your bills are paid, food on the table and whatever else you need, is provided for yourself and her? **pfffttt...you best tell her to go take a chill-pill.

growing could be a different arguement because of the rammifications if your caught by the law or family/someone you/she doesnt want to know you do it.

Id leave her ass in a heartbeat. ive been with my wife for 11 years now and Ive smoked the entire time Ive known her, now granted she got me to quit smoking ciggs, but hell I wanted to do that anyway but was addicted to them and was having the hardest of times. but pot Ive never even thought of quitting, not even for a second, she did try the " i dont want to be in a relationship with a pothead" when we first got together but I told her to kick rocks if thats how she felt, NOT because I loved weed more than her, but because I was not going to be told what I could or could not do by anyone. she accepted that and has NEVER said anything to me since about smoking pot. I later transitioned naturally into growing my own, for reasons of quality and the money I was wasting buying it. now this bothered her because of the consequences if I get caught however I logically explained to her that me going out and buying it was far more dangerous because I was transporting it home, not to mention I could get robbed in process of buying it, and even if I didnt get robbed that there was someone else who KNEW that I had it, and that person could potentially rat me out. anyway sorry to be longwinded the moral of the story is. DONT let people dictate to you what you can or cannot do. especially if you were open about what you did when you met the person, she should have chosen then NOT to be in your life.

in summary.
MEN do what they WANT, boys do what they can.

Well, I can see her not wanting you to grow, if it's for more than personal use. If you get busted, so does she. As to the smoking, seems unfair. She knew you smoked up BEFORE you got married. Maybe ask her why she suddenly has issues with you smoking when you've done so all along. Also, you said she is back in school. Is she going into some sort of law enforcement career or trying to become a lawyer? If that's the case, you have your reason for her suddenly wanting you to stop having anything to do with MJ. Busted would be the end of her career.
Try to see if she is willing to compromise. You stop growing or move your op away from your home, but keep smoking. Tell her the truth about smoking, but agree not to do it around her. This sounds like a reasonable compromise to me.

siht7419 said:

Hello RIU,

I am seriously distraught over this. We have been together for 11 years and married for 6. I have always smoked weed around her and even with her uncle. She has only taken a few hits in her life and is not a smoker. I have changed my life for the better since I've met her; she encouraged me to go to college, to quit smoking cigs and to be more financially responsible. We don't have children but do have a cat together. After she lost her job a few months ago, she decided to return to school to get a masters degree and has been working part time in the field she wants to transition to. I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. I suggested that I quit growing and she wants weed out of my life all together, so that is not even an option now.

I feel that I have already given up on old friends, habits and sacrificed much for her. Now I think that this has gone too far and that I have changed enough for her and am prepared to go through with the divorce and move to Cali.

I really need some advice. What you would do?

Thanks.

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the answer to this question is VERY simple...WHICH ONE CANT YOU LIVE WITHOUT?

thats the hard part of it.

naomisrollin said:

smokers plus non smokers don't mix.

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not true everytime, my wife and are coming up on our 25th wedding anniversery and i can only think of 2 times that she has smoked and i can't think back to the last day i didn't smoke.