what to do

I've had the kid from across the street coming to my house from 7 am to 8:45 am when he gets his bus to school. Yesterday I couldn't find my ear phones after the kid left. They were next to where the kid sat. That's where they have been for the last 3 or 4 years I don't use them any where else so I know they were there. This morning I ask the kid if he browned them and if he did I wanted them back. He said no he had not seen them but I could have his if I want them. I told him no I wanted mine. He didn't talk the rest if the time he was here today. When he left I told him I would be talking to his dad when he got home from work and that I thought he should go some where else in the morning. I know this is a lot of shit over a pair of ear phones but this is how we all started steeling things(all us thieves) and the kid lied so quick and easy I know it's not the first time. This kid is 12 and knows better yet he does it with ease. So what do I do? Do I tell his father the kid stole and lied or do I say this isn't going to work any more and not say anything about the rest? We have a lot of things that fit in a pocket and I don't want to worry about something that cost more to be stolen. I have covered the area several times and no one else has been at my house. This is a large post over ear phones but it's the princeable and steeling is a bad habit that will get ya locked up in time. So am I just a dick or what?

lay it on his dad just as you did here.Word for word.Your attitude seems fine.Now you'll see if the other dad is going to have a have an ass attack

Depends on what kind of rapport you had with the kid. If he's been there for 1 1/2 hr a day for x days, you must have some sense as to how he views your relationship with him; friend, substitute brother, uncle, dad authority figure. If you are 100% sure he took them, tell him your reasoning why he was the only one who could have taken them, that you're disappointed in him and that he just isn't welcome at your house anymore. Tell him that if he did take them and doesn't have them anymore, you need somebody to help you do yard work until they're paid for. Unless you know what kind of parents he has, telling the dad may or may not work to the kid's favor. He may already be past the "I'm going to make you take that comic book back to the store and apologize to the owner" stage, if he's a accomplished liar already. I'm not a parent so what the hell do I know!

No not a dick like you said its the principle , and if he feels he can get away with that its on too bigger and better things in the future.
I like the approach BarnBuster used. This is a learning lesson for the kid , teach him.

So am I just a dick or what?

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Yes, yes you probably miss placed them somewhere and you forgot because dope has fried your short term memory capacity.

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Yes, yes you probably miss placed them somewhere and you forgot because dope has fried your short term memory capacity.

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thats happened to a few "people I know "

same thing happened here not too long ago. the nephew stole something while he was here to feed the animals and let the dog out. i knew he did it and mrs sunnyboy knew he did

it. i called his house and talked to his mom, mrs sunnyboy's sister. we all smoke together and in general he is a good kid (as much as a 19 year old can be). she said she would

talk to him. so we didn't hear anything from them for days when sister called and said he denied it. so i called and asked nephew to come over. nephew came over, bringing

mommy and daddy with him. i said nephew this ain't gonna fly in this family. i said i like you and i HAVE to be able to trust you. i said tell me the truth. he admitted to it, the

look on mom's face was priceless btw. i told him i better NEVER catch him taking as much as a lighter from my home again. the kid has made good and is a big help now to us and

his family. the kid had never been confronted for doing anything wrong and he has told me since that he respects me for it. could just be kid talk but he has earned our trust back.

maybe your young friend needs the same?

stealing is wrong and kids tend to lie if they get into trouble, it is second nature to "sweep something under the rug"
but that doesnt mean hes a horrible child, you have to give second chances, so i would ask his dad to just rummage though his shit , because you believe he mightve taken them and quickly lied to cover his tracks, if the dad finds them you guys can all sit down, you can tell the child how it upsets you that he would do this to you but you hope he never does it again blah blah blah.
than give a second chance, after all hes only 12 and we all did stupid things as a kid

Well how this pans out I think will depend on what sort of relationship you have with his parents, if you accuse him of taking them his dad might not be to pleased, we do tend to defend our kids even if we think they are in the wrong. Then again the kid might have done it before and his dad might know he's a bit light fingered and therefore be on your side. Its a very difficult situation you don't really want to offend the parents but you can't really let him get away with stealing them if he has, really you need to be absolutely sure you haven't misplaced them before you do anything, theirs nothing worse than having to eat humble pie if your wrong and risk losing your friendship with his parents Good luck with this one I think you will need it.

And while your at ti tell him to get off yer grass!

Bear trap?

OK I talked to the kid and his father. The father is irate and the kid with a big smile on his face said he never saw the head phones even thou they were right next to the charger that he used every day. I don't have an ipod and I can only use the head phones on my lap top so I didn't misplace them. I guess in a couple of weeks I won't live here any more so I won't see them.

match box said:

I guess in a couple of weeks I won't live here any more so I won't see them.

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The little thief probably was thinking the same thing when he stole them. Assuming he knew.


I look forward to your "I found them!" post next week

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OK I talked to the kid and his father. The father is irate and the kid with a big smile on his face said he never saw the head phones even thou they were right next to the charger that he used every day. I don't have an ipod and I can only use the head phones on my lap top so I didn't misplace them. I guess in a couple of weeks I won't live here any more so I won't see them.

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that sux.I hate when people don't do the right thing.Ignorant fawks

Fuck kids, seriously.

The kid and both of his parents just came over to give me my head phones.

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I found them!

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That's great news man!

Seriously, that's good news, nice to see there's still some honesty left even though it took a while. Better later than never right.

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The kid and both of his parents just came over to give me my head phones.

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Little fucker probably got an ass whooping til he confessed. Good.

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The kid and both of his parents just came over to give me my head phones.

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You should have kicked his fathers ass for raising such a dip shit.