What age would you smoke weed with your kid?
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IHaveADopeDick
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Why would I come looking for help on child support on RIU????? and even if I'm bi-polar and change my moods on how I feel about kids what difference does it make to you?LOL right not everybody is as ignorant as you make them out to be
So please sir it is you that should be doing the fucking off.
rowlman
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I did at 17, my teens aren't into drugs(weed is not a drug in my family), but we did smoke together back then....they all did good in school,it wasn't like an everyday thing, and graduated with honor rolls and are all in College now.
...But I think every kid is different...if you have a child with a substance abuse problem, or who is drinking....then smoking with them would only make them think the other things are ok too. I in no way encourage it, in my case,I knew they were smoking on the weekends sometimes...and they knew I smoked...and we all hung out like friends, so it just sorta happened.
...But I think every kid is different...if you have a child with a substance abuse problem, or who is drinking....then smoking with them would only make them think the other things are ok too. I in no way encourage it, in my case,I knew they were smoking on the weekends sometimes...and they knew I smoked...and we all hung out like friends, so it just sorta happened.
LifesWorthLivin88
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It'd be kinda strange for me cause as a teenager I would have never imagined smoking with my parents in my wildest dreams (and it still kinda baffles me smoking with people's parents). My dad used to be a party animal, but my mom is a super-prude and really chilled him out.
Honestly though.. IF I have a kid(s) it totally depends on (obviously) if they're into that sort of thing, and also how fast they mature. If they choose not to smoke, I'd totally respect that and not try to push it on them. But it totally depends, some kids are shockingly mature by 15, 16 years old... and on the flipside, surely we know, some people NEVER grow up, lol.
But I dunno, my gut feeling is I'd feel guilty/weird if I smoked with my kid if he/she wasnt at least 17.
Honestly though.. IF I have a kid(s) it totally depends on (obviously) if they're into that sort of thing, and also how fast they mature. If they choose not to smoke, I'd totally respect that and not try to push it on them. But it totally depends, some kids are shockingly mature by 15, 16 years old... and on the flipside, surely we know, some people NEVER grow up, lol.
But I dunno, my gut feeling is I'd feel guilty/weird if I smoked with my kid if he/she wasnt at least 17.
Morgan Lynn
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I started toking with my dad around age 16. Pot isnt "bad" in my family and it certainly wasn't "bad" in our household.
I remember when I was really young my dad would always have this really good smell. I never knew what it was until I was 15 and smoking weed.
I will allow my son to smoke around age 16. I will show him how to be responsible with marijuana.
asafan69
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I'm very old fashioned believe it or not. I would not smoke weed with either of my boys ever. I don't think it's appropriate at all, and I would not want them to start until they are adults. 21 or older. I would rather them stay away from all drugs at least until they are done with schooling or are established making a living doing what they want. Although my 7 year old is adamant about being a rock star and has been since he was 2 years old. He used to love the Wiggles and once told me he was going to start a band called The Hot Potatoes. He's the one I worry about getting into trouble :O
themanwiththeplan
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Thats a hard question to answer. I started at 14. i guess i turned out ok. My family was/is dead against it so i never had family smoke sessions.
I think if I hide it from them (my mj consumption) it would make it weird later on & they may feel lied to...
Sometimes i flirt with the idea it might be better to smoke around them (not like literally in their face..just not hide my use at home from the start basically) so they grow up thinking its no big deal/forbidden fruit kinda thing. My cousin does that with her kids and they have turned out to be great kids. she allows them to do whatever they want (drink/smoke etc) so long as they do it at home and it works. both kids graduated with near 4.0 gpa's, honors, going to college, etc.
So im leaning towards the side of treating it like its no big deal. However being a parent you'd still have to use it responsibly so the kids dont think its ok to smoke and drive or be a fiend and go smoke mj every hr. etc.
I think it depends on the parents and their moral beliefs/teachings more so than just smoking mj.
just because a parent smokes mj doesnt mean their child will be terrible when they grow up.
As far as smoking WITH your kid goes...id only be willing once they picked it up on their own and liked it for themselves...not because i asked them to hit it, etc. iwouldnt do something like that. if they try it with a friend or whatever then thats one thing..
I think if I hide it from them (my mj consumption) it would make it weird later on & they may feel lied to...
Sometimes i flirt with the idea it might be better to smoke around them (not like literally in their face..just not hide my use at home from the start basically) so they grow up thinking its no big deal/forbidden fruit kinda thing. My cousin does that with her kids and they have turned out to be great kids. she allows them to do whatever they want (drink/smoke etc) so long as they do it at home and it works. both kids graduated with near 4.0 gpa's, honors, going to college, etc.
So im leaning towards the side of treating it like its no big deal. However being a parent you'd still have to use it responsibly so the kids dont think its ok to smoke and drive or be a fiend and go smoke mj every hr. etc.
I think it depends on the parents and their moral beliefs/teachings more so than just smoking mj.
just because a parent smokes mj doesnt mean their child will be terrible when they grow up.
As far as smoking WITH your kid goes...id only be willing once they picked it up on their own and liked it for themselves...not because i asked them to hit it, etc. iwouldnt do something like that. if they try it with a friend or whatever then thats one thing..
nicrod
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this is a tough subject..
i am young still. being only 19.
but my mom smoked with me for the first time when i was about 12 13 14? of course by then i was sneaking it around, smoking in the bathroom stuffing the door and running the shower to full potential... lol.
but really, dont introduce your kid to it.. if you KNOW they are sneeking it around ya and smoking already, its better to let them know. get whatever they need from you.
because when your getting whatever from other people, theres always that chance they are going to offer something a little more hardcore...
just let them know weed is all they need
dang i remember the first time i smoked with my mom though... lol i had this little purple bong and we went into the garage.. and she smoked so much with me i threw up... and i hardly remember it... damn i got stoned when i was 13................. lol
i am young still. being only 19.
but my mom smoked with me for the first time when i was about 12 13 14? of course by then i was sneaking it around, smoking in the bathroom stuffing the door and running the shower to full potential... lol.
but really, dont introduce your kid to it.. if you KNOW they are sneeking it around ya and smoking already, its better to let them know. get whatever they need from you.
because when your getting whatever from other people, theres always that chance they are going to offer something a little more hardcore...
just let them know weed is all they need
dang i remember the first time i smoked with my mom though... lol i had this little purple bong and we went into the garage.. and she smoked so much with me i threw up... and i hardly remember it... damn i got stoned when i was 13................. lol
xKuroiTaimax
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I agree. I was dead against smoking anything just for the sake of being contrary and not like my parents, who grew and smoked an absurd amount. I picked up smoking pot outside of the family home but now wish I could have started with my mother. My dad always drank around me with his friend's from a young age and I still retain strong opinions and feelings against excessive alcohol consumption.
Decriminalizing marijuana and being open and honest about it will make it seem less like 'forbidden fruit' as you said. I see so many kids want to try it just to rebel or be cool or get themselves in trouble just to be seen smoking it -_-;
At my high school it was allowed for you to smoke on school grounds. It worked much better than people sneaking off for a smoke and coming back to classes late and the younger years admitted they became disinterested in smoking because it was no longer 'not allowed' and they saw people smoking around them all the time.
There was no danger, excitement and wonder.
Though, I did take advantage of the lessened danger of raising the alarm by smoking spliffs in my lunchbreak hidden amongst the cigarette smokers X3