?uestion for the parents...

bowlfullofbliss

bowlfullofbliss

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Commander Strax said:
Please do not go through with becoming a father. If your reaction to finding out you made someone pregnant is "OH NO WHY ME" then you are not ready.


I am sure that your unborn babies opinion of you being it's father is say it ain't so PLEASSSSSE!!!
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so your solution is forcing some girl to be a single mother, with yet another fatherless child in the world, because he's having the same reaction most people do when finding out a child is coming out of wedlock?

um, ok. great plan!
 
chewberto

chewberto

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Stepped the fuck up and took care of him. Not just babysat him either like most parents these days. Actually raise and teach to be a good mother fucker with respect and integrity! I suggest you do the same. Congrats
 
neosapien

neosapien

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NevaSmokedOut said:
i'm going to be a father but i'm way passed freaked the hell out about raising a kid from my disposition and financial status.
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Just curious but how old are you? I was 27 when I found out and 28 when she got here. People have done it way sooner and been successsful and people have done it way later and been successful. If you decide to commit to this chick and the child then that's what you need to do. She'll need you right now. It's time to stop worrying about yourself. If you don't want to commit, then now's the time before everybody is in a world of hurt. Like everybody says, 2 years ago I couldn't imagine my life with a child. Now I can't imagine and wouldn't want to imagine my life without. Then again my wife is hot and awesome and my daughter is cool as hell.
 
shrxhky420

shrxhky420

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neosapien said:
Just curious but how old are you? I was 27 when I found out and 28 when she got here. People have done it way sooner and been successsful and people have done it way later and been successful. If you decide to commit to this chick and the child then that's what you need to do. She'll need you right now. It's time to stop worrying about yourself. If you don't want to commit, then now's the time before everybody is in a world of hurt. Like everybody says, 2 years ago I couldn't imagine my life with a child. Now I can't imagine and wouldn't want to imagine my life without. Then again my wife is hot and awesome and my daughter is cool as hell.
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Committing to the old lady is one thing... but committing to the child is a much greater commitment.

It's pretty amazing how much I never wanted kids, yet my life with out my daughter is unimaginable.

People say it all the time... "they grow up so fast", fuck, they say it because it's true... enjoy brother!!! Your little angel will be a grown angel in no time
SH420
 
SouthAussieStoner

SouthAussieStoner

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NevaSmokedOut said:
what did you do when you found out you were going to have a child or children?
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im only 18 (ill be 19 once bubs is here) and when me and my girlfriend found out we were expecting was the happiest moment of my life. I had a lot of thing going through my head though, Im currently doing a course to become a mechanic so finishing that a gettin an apprenticeship before bubs comes was a big one.. We've had so much help from both of our family's ( un asked mind you, our mums went nuts buying stuff haha)
bubs is actually 20 weeks old today and we have an ultrasound on Monday to find out the sex, i cant wait, i love seeing our little bub on the screen and hearing its little heart beat.. You may be freaked out right now but you'll come around, especially once you see the ultrasound's
 
Flaming Pie

Flaming Pie

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Start looking for Mom to Mom sales. Can get clothes for 10-25% of original price.

Only thing you SHOULD buy new is crib mattress and car seat.

The rest, you do what you can.
 
Commander Strax

Commander Strax

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bowlfullofbliss said:
so your solution is forcing some girl to be a single mother, with yet another fatherless child in the world, because he's having the same reaction most people do when finding out a child is coming out of wedlock?

um, ok. great plan!
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I am sorry you completely misunderstood me. If she is willing to let you put your dick in her, she is not smart enough to be a parent either. There are other options to being a parent. You could end the pregnancy or put the child up for adoption.

I feel bad for your child when he has the chance in life to say " My dad went on a weed forum to get parenting advice but ClaytonBigsby and UncleBaldric were unable to help"(no offense guys)
 
oldtimer54

oldtimer54

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Well I had been married for almost Two years before..........the women I'm still married to found out that we were gonna have a child in 1979 .....being a parent is a privilege not an rite with it comes much responsibility...........just ask Charles Manson's mother......
Good Luck
 
Silly String

Silly String

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I bawled in terror for about 10 minutes straight after peeing on the stick, and seeing the little "plus" sign. All the while, my husband of 8 years was grinning and hooting and dancing around with joy.

I was 32, a career professional, and scared outta my wits. Then I took a deep breath, and did everything as "right" as I possibly could, thereafter. As the birth approached I was still worried that I wouldn't like or love or bond with the baby -- but that wasn't the case at all (luckily). When he came out, it was the only time I've ever experienced love at first sight.

17 years later, hubbie is long gone (his joy of fatherhood and husbandhood passed 3 years after son was born), and my son and I are still going strong. We're a great team. I still have to take a deep breath, and try to do everything "right", but I don't have that 10 minutes of sobbing terror much anymore. :-) I have a great boyfriend that my son calls "Dad", and he helps a lot too.

You'll be fine. There's never a perfect time to have a baby, but you'll be strong enough to nut up, and handle it. Try to have the discussion with your partner about being good parents, even if you do not stay together. Not that I'm denigrating your relationship, but shit happens, sometimes.

Good luck!
 
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