Taking It All In

So quick background before I get to my question, before that I commend all of you who read all of this as it may be long. (I will try to keep it short though). So I'm 21 years old. I moved out of my parents house when I was 18. I've been toking regularly since then. I was doing well on my own getting life done all sorts of stuff. I was in school. I had a steady job. I was able to sustain myself and smoke my herb comfortably. Unfortunately some stuff came up recently that has caused me to loose my job, my place, and all of my money. It is not Cannabis related but it did cause me to have to move back in with my parents. My dad is a Pastor and my mom also works for the church. They are highly against the use of pot and I promised myself I would never bring it into their house or ever be high around them for that fact. Tonight as I was helping my mother clean the kitchen the discussion of pot came up. She asked me if I still smoke and I said yes. She then got furious and demanded I tell her if I had anything in the house. My response, "No mom. I'm not a fiend." This then led to the talk of, "Timmy you are going to get arrested and you are going to give your mother a heart attack." It's been a week since I last toked and I was about 16 hours away. It's almost as if my parents see me as a criminal. All I wanted to do was grab them by the shoulders and shake the common sense into them. I am a little fish. I am not out to make millions. I am not out to cause problems. I'm just a dude that loves my herb.

Which brings me to my question. How do I get them to understand that what I do on my own time is not and should not be considered criminal?
I have been slowly trying to ease them into the idea of me toking for about a year now and it's getting to the point I just want to stand on top of a mountain and shout to them, "I love smoking herb! I love getting fucking high!! And I am going to continue to do it and most likely won't end up in jail!! Because I am not involved with the cartel!!! haha, but seriously how do I deal with the predicament? It's really starting to erk me. And how do I get them to understand that smoking herb is not my ticket into hell. It's like they have this preconceived judgement that because I toke I'm definitely out of the opportunity to heaven. Whether you believe in heaven or not this is a big deal for me because it is a big deal for my parents. Anyways. All help and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers Stoner World,
Timmy Cannabis

I am afraid that as long as you partake of their hospitality, you hew to their rules. Not smoking weed for the duration is a tiny price to pay for having a roof and a family over/around you. My opinion

well.. I had a discussion with my pastor (also my neighbor) and it went very well.. but I know a bit of scripture that helped me.. of coarse they are still against people using it just to get a buzz as they feel about booze.. I have dealt with chronic pain for over 22 years.. shoulder back 3 knee ops you name it.. it's been worked on... lol

I was on narcotics for 22 years... legally and my church's theory is yeah it will help.. but it has disadvantages as well. I had more cons on the rx's then pro's but it helped with the pain so I dealt with it for 22 years.. and then re tried MJ (used as a teen but never more then an oz a year.. at best)..

MJ just worked so much better then the RX's that I was on.. and I was taking 3x90mgs of morphine a day along with 30x90mgs soma and ambien and antidepresants.. I was big pharms lovechild.. anyhow off all the meds now just using MJ.. never been happier.. My folks also Christians.. and dad former E-8 US Navy.. are so much happier I am on MJ over the RX's.. even voted for the WA rec laws..

Your folks have their standards for you living at home.. best you adhere to them.. save up enough and move out again.. do what you feel you need to.. on your own.. or have a heart to heart with them and explain why you are using it. even if it's rec.. I am betting they would rather you use something that you cant die from over booze..

Good luck with the folks..

Oh i completely agree and I have no problem refraining from the use. I find it the respectable thing to do. However, I am not the one to even bring up the conversations. And it always ends the same way. I guess what I'm trying to figure out. Is how do I deal with the preaching? Again, as I said I don't even bring it up. I always allow them to bring up the conversation but it's beginning to get to a point where every time we are in conversation about it, it ends with me feeling like my parents think I'm a huge disappointment and my parents walking away thinking I'm am going to end up in prison and I'm throwing my life away. I don't do it regularly now. As I stated before the last time I did was a week ago when I was 16 hours away.

Do you have a medical card? If not, you can't win the legal argument. I would expect the preaching to stop or at least slowly die out once you stop trying to tell them it's cool. You won't convince them. If it doesn't, enduring it and counting it "part of the rent" is an option i'd consider.

lol gioua I can just hear the appended lecture. "It is a medicine for relieving pain. I will now demonstrate."

Timmy Cannabis said:

Is how do I deal with the preaching? Again, as I said I don't even bring it up..

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answer...move out..
my kids/wife will hear me speaking the word esp when it's relevant.. and it usually is..

I don't have my card. Which is one reason why I won't allow it to enter my parents house. Even if I did. I wouldn't bring it in. I know I probably won't convince them. It'd just be nice for them to either agree with me on the issue or stop bringing it up.

cannabineer said:

lol gioua I can just hear the appended lecture. "It is a medicine for relieving pain. I will now demonstrate."

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My pastor's wife is in extreme pain.. has tried the rx's and they are not doing much.. We have spoken about her using it.. told her to get a card and will go from there.. she's in less pain these days.. thank God.. but she did order some hemp seeds and ask me if they were the same item.. love that lady!

I have brought my peanut butter or capsules to church.. and most of the members know my testimony. I always take medibles before I go.. Church lasts for 3 hours on Sundays and 2 hours on friday.. which I will be leaving for shortly..

First off respect your parents home and meter your actions accordingly in their house.
That being said. I think it was Eckhart Tolle that said "At some point parents have to accept that they are no longer their children's parents once they become adults. If not the parents are suffering from a lack of growth".

Not sure what denom your folks are.. but we are Apostolic and my Pastors in his late 60's.. I knew him before he was a Pastor again but knew he was a retired Pastor.. he never condoned me or my actions prior to joining his church.. but I generally didnt do much wrong.. .. and have respect for this man and his wife.. I could have hid my MJ use as I know most Church's and members dont like it..

Are you Moral Orel? Just tell them they are right, you will never do it again, praise Jesus, ask them to pray with you for forgiveness. In your prayer point out to the Lord how he made the herb bearing seed and saw that it was good, but because man's laws are more important, you will obide by man's laws and ask God for forgiveness for it. In the name of Jesus, Amen!


Have you never lied to your folks? Sometimes they just don't need to know everything.

Peace, my brother.

Just go homeless for the green dude! It's worth it... Tell pastor to lay off the High Fructose Corn Syrup!

chewberto said:

Just go homeless for the green dude! It's worth it... Tell pastor to lay off the High Fructose Corn Syrup!

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I have mentioned how my Pastor loves coffee his wife loves salt.... we all justify our lil pleasures.. it's when they control us is the issue..