so i set up this deal with my son ...

Urca

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im sorry this just seems so foreign to me, and pointless. plus its not teaching him any lesson, its just throwing away anywhere between 54-108 bucks. thats just retarded
 

fdd2blk

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fdd's pretty much implying that either way, any decision he makes, he still benefits. dont give your kids something for nothing, they will never appreciate it.
i give my son everything he's ever wanted and he appreciates it all, that's why he gets it.

you can teach gratitude. ;)
 

justcallmenasty

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fdd's pretty much implying that either way, any decision he makes, he still benefits. dont give your kids something for nothing, they will never appreciate it.
your not very smart for a college student.. he is giving him one chance to see how he manages money and a life lesson in the end to save money or not buy anything not needed.
 

smokey mcsmokester

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why would you even do this? in either situation you lose money. only time my parents really ever gave me money for anything was prom, 20 bucks here and there just to get me out of the house, but if I wanted something I had to save for it.
much less beg and plead for a ride to where I wanted to go. Sometimes they'd give me some money and no ride.
Ill give them credit though, for the important things, they did take me places and pick me up, even if they bitched me out the whole way that I shouldnt depend on them to give me rides places.

He's teaching his son how to manage money.... Very good strategy if I do say so myself :)
 

Urca

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well fdd, my dad used to give me 100 bucks a month to spend however i pleased. I always said I appreciated it, and I did. But then the recession thing happened. and I realized I never truly understood what he was giving me until it is all gone. Im problably thinking this way because well, i've been poor off and on my whole life, and its just so weird to get money from my parents, i barely ask for anything at xmas, or my birthday, even now that we are doing better finanically. I didnt learn this lesson until I was 14.
 

justcallmenasty

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well fdd, my dad used to give me 100 bucks a month to spend however i pleased. I always said I appreciated it, and I did. But then the recession thing happened. and I realized I never truly understood what he was giving me until it is all gone. Im problably thinking this way because well, i've been poor off and on my whole life, and its just so weird to get money from my parents, i barely ask for anything at xmas, or my birthday, even now that we are doing better finanically. I didnt learn this lesson until I was 14
didnt you say your parents never gave you any money or anything except for prom....smh.
 

Urca

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your not very smart for a college student.. he is giving him one chance to see how he manages money and a life lesson in the end to save money or not buy anything not needed.
well shit, giving him hella money isnt really going to do that. If anything, give him 54 bucks and say "this is all you will get to spend on whatever you want for three weeks. make it last"
i learned how to budget and save because i always had to save up money to go places, get the things I wanted. And if my parents did give me money, it would be the only money I would have for like two months. Sure learned not to spend my money on stupid things that way
 

Urca

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didnt you say your parents never gave you any money or anything except for prom....smh.
im talking about my mom and stepdad. And yes, they never gave me shit after I turned 14. So in the four years between 14 and 18, they never gave me money for shit except for the aforementioned reasons.
 

Urca

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btw my dad stopped giving me money or paying child support because of him losing his job.
 

justcallmenasty

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im talking about my mom and stepdad. And yes, they never gave me shit after I turned 14. So in the four years between 14 and 18, they never gave me money for shit except for the aforementioned reasons.
they gave you a roof above your head?a place to sleep,shower,hang out and clothes. apparently thats nothing in todays world...
 

Urca

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they gave you a roof above your head?a place to sleep,shower,hang out and clothes. apparently thats nothing in todays world...
we're talking about frivolous spending money, not the basics. which is the whole point of this thread. dont get it twisted.
and they had to work hard to give us the basics, and still somehow made miracles happen at xmas, (im not talking fancy miracles) but like they made sure we had presents under the tree. They may have not been fancy, and they may have been nessacities (clothes, a pair of 40 dollar shoes, some body wash) but I dont begrudge them not giving me money.

it seems foolish to give a child so much money and then reward them for not spending the money with even more money
 

justcallmenasty

Active Member
we're talking about frivolous spending money, not the basics. which is the whole point of this thread. dont get it twisted.
and they had to work hard to give us the basics, and still somehow made miracles happen at xmas, (im not talking fancy miracles) but like they made sure we had presents under the tree. They may have not been fancy, and they may have been nessacities (clothes, a pair of 40 dollar shoes, some body wash) but I dont begrudge them not giving me money.

it seems foolish to give a child so much money and then reward them for not spending the money with even more money
your foolish for thinking its foolish you dont see the life lesson here.its not like he gives his son 100 bucks everytime he goes out or something damn your ignorant as shit.
 

Dr. Greenhorn

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we're talking about frivolous spending money, not the basics. which is the whole point of this thread. dont get it twisted.
and they had to work hard to give us the basics, and still somehow made miracles happen at xmas, (im not talking fancy miracles) but like they made sure we had presents under the tree. They may have not been fancy, and they may have been nessacities (clothes, a pair of 40 dollar shoes, some body wash) but I dont begrudge them not giving me money.

it seems foolish to give a child so much money and then reward them for not spending the money with even more money
his son is not a child, fdd's son is a teenager. now's a good time to teach life lessons, don't ya think?
 

Beansly

RIU Bulldog
well fdd, my dad used to give me 100 bucks a month to spend however i pleased. I always said I appreciated it, and I did. But then the recession thing happened. and I realized I never truly understood what he was giving me until it is all gone. Im problably thinking this way because well, i've been poor off and on my whole life, and its just so weird to get money from my parents, i barely ask for anything at xmas, or my birthday, even now that we are doing better finanically. I didnt learn this lesson until I was 14.
Way to make this all about YOU again....
 

Urca

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your ignornant for blindly attacking me without seeing the validity of my argument.
either way, the kid doesnt lose. He can spend all the money and get what he wants, or if he doesnt spend it he gets even more money.
he's not learning anything. He gets a reward for either decision he chooses to make.
 

Beansly

RIU Bulldog
If he has the means to teach his kid a $54-$108 dollar life lesson so be it.
My parents never taught me anything about money or credit and to this day I'm horrible with cash.
You just sound bitter and jealous.
 
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