Running her mouth

Biggravy22 said:

When you said you were thinking about it prior to moving out how did she react? Im sure she's not now, but was she ever a smoker?

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when i 1st met her i was 18/19. i used to smoke then. and so did she. we used to have a few joints together and have a giggle.

obviously since she got pregnant she hasnt smoked or drank.

i dont think scaring her out of control will work.

i think the only option is to sell my equipment and plants i only just got them my plants are 4 days old

edit: and she felt strongly about not growin in the new house after i move out of my mums - i thought it would of been reasonable to grow outside in the shed.

also tried to tell her that it will be my only grow but i think shes leaning to the side of "ur gonna get caught"

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about dancing in the rain

it sounds like your in the storm now bud.. and your not dancing your getting very wet!! and your gf has the coat and unbrellia..........

smokeh said:

when i 1st met her i was 18/19. i used to smoke then. and so did she. we used to have a few joints together and have a giggle.

obviously since she got pregnant she hasnt smoked or drank.

i dont think scaring her out of control will work.

i think the only option is to sell my equipment and plants i only just got them my plants are 4 days old

edit: and she felt strongly about not growin in the new house after i move out of my mums - i thought it would of been reasonable to grow outside in the shed.

also tried to tell her that it will be my only grow but i think shes leaning to the side of "ur gonna get caught"

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dont sell your equipment, but do get rid of the plants; start actually growing veggies or flowers....that will make her feel alot better; think about it; you are dropping your first pot grow on your 8mo? pregnant girl and not expecting her to freak out when she wasnt cool with it in the first place?? be patient and "do your research" with her; show her that the odds of you getting popped for a few personal plants are slim to none...after a little while she should start coming around. respect her and she will respect you; works for me and my wife...had to tallk her into it too.

caliboy80 said:

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about dancing in the rain

it sounds like your in the storm now bud.. and your not dancing your getting very wet!! and your gf has the coat and unbrellia..........

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i know an thats the option out to sort it all

gogrow said:

dont sell your equipment, but do get rid of the plants; start actually growing veggies or flowers....that will make her feel alot better; think about it; you are dropping your first pot grow on your 8mo? pregnant girl and not expecting her to freak out when she wasnt cool with it in the first place?? be patient and "do your research" with her; show her that the odds of you getting popped for a few personal plants are slim to none...after a little while she should start coming around. respect her and she will respect you; works for me and my wife...had to tallk her into it too.

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she was ok with it when she thought i was growing veg but that doesnt really excite me

talking to her wont break her in. she is pregnant an has mood swings.

i bet i wont have the time to grow when our baby comes and she would be even more mad if i did it then.

id rather do it now, get it out the way as my last bit of freedom. then i can have my personal usage stash bcoz the pot round here sux ass and maybe make a few quid on the side.

thing is, if i were to keep going with it an finish my 1st and only grow then i dont think ill be done.

baby is due on 18th august. my plants are only 4 days old.

- unless i veg for 2 weeks, which would mean i only have about 5 weeks flowering which wouldnt work.

edit: unless any1 can recommend a faster way?

dude you're absolutely right. Don't listen to these fucktards. Scaring her into submission?

"Yeah baby do what I want or I go to jail!"

"If I can't grow I'll surely Die"

Do these men have any experience with women at all? Not only will the reverse psycho babble not work, it will make her resent you even more. Listen to Gogrow. Talk to her about it. Reason with her, and show her that unless you're grossly negligent you should be fine. Nevermind jail. Is MJ worth your relationship?

smokeh said:

my lil plants only just sprouted

its kinda hard to explain. i know she wouldnt turn me in or anything its just the fact that i told her to keep ppl away from this and keep everything quiet and she tells the 1st person that visits the house.

like wtf.

anywya i am keeping the grow. ive waited too long to get out of my mums house an do what i want. im doin the grow to make money and save money and also for a hobby.

i just would of never expected her to tell any1.

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thinki about it a wee bit.. maybe she told her sisters bf nd sister you where growing not nessicarily that you where growing cannabis,
if your so worried why not grow vegitables also, it can onli help you anyway give a bit extra grow knoledge..
anyway i think you shud kee it and wade it out,
is your woman issed off about the grow, does she smoke?
get her involved in your grow or sumthing .. then she wont wanna wreck it

My wife is the most anti-drug person around, she has never even smoked a cigarette. When I started growing I thought she would leave me, so we sat down and talked about it.

I basically explained to her why I was growing it and I told her I would never let my use get out of hand. She didn't know anything about Marijuana, so I told her about how it's none addictive, how smoked through a bong it's probably less harmful than a pint of beer, how me growing it stops me from having to engage in criminal activity by buying it (where I live it's not criminal for me to grow and smoke certain amounts), so on and so forth.

Long story short, ask her why she is being this way, explain to her why you are growing your own weed and tell her all the positives about growing your own weed. Even if she is pregnant, let her know it wont change a thing.

If I can convince Mrs anti-drug 2008 you can convince your partner who at one time actually smoked herself.

Don't fight with your gf over weed man, just come to a comprimise, I had to give up beer *but only when she is around

Mulltie said:

thinki about it a wee bit.. maybe she told her sisters bf nd sister you where growing not nessicarily that you where growing cannabis,
if your so worried why not grow vegitables also, it can onli help you anyway give a bit extra grow knoledge..
anyway i think you shud kee it and wade it out,
is your woman issed off about the grow, does she smoke?
get her involved in your grow or sumthing .. then she wont wanna wreck it

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The girl is 8 months preggo. She's about to have a human drop out of her. I doubt the last thing she wants is to be huddled over some plants.

Allgood said:

My wife is the most anti-drug person around, she has never even smoked a cigarette. When I started growing I thought she would leave me, so we sat down and talked about it.

I basically explained to her why I was growing it and I told her I would never let my use get out of hand. She didn't know anything about Marijuana, so I told her about how it's none addictive, how smoked through a bong it's probably less harmful than a pint of beer, how me growing it stops me from having to engage in criminal activity by buying it (where I live it's not criminal for me to grow and smoke certain amounts), so on and so forth.

Long story short, ask her why she is being this way, explain to her why you are growing your own weed and tell her all the positives about growing your own weed.

If I can convince Mrs anti-drug 2008 you can convince your partner who at one time actually smoked herself.

Don't ditch your gf over weed man, just come to a comprimise, I had to give up beer *but only when she is around

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She made you give up beer? Man that's harsh.

smokeh said:

i know an thats the option out to sort it all


she was ok with it when she thought i was growing veg but that doesnt really excite me

talking to her wont break her in. she is pregnant an has mood swings.

i bet i wont have the time to grow when our baby comes and she would be even more mad if i did it then.

id rather do it now, get it out the way as my last bit of freedom. then i can have my personal usage stash bcoz the pot round here sux ass and maybe make a few quid on the side.

thing is, if i were to keep going with it an finish my 1st and only grow then i dont think ill be done.

baby is due on 18th august. my plants are only 4 days old.

- unless i veg for 2 weeks, which would mean i only have about 5 weeks flowering which wouldnt work.

edit: unless any1 can recommend a faster way?

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just grow something besides pot for awhile; it will start to excite you, hell grow some orchids if you want a challenge....but be sure to grow it in your weed setup, it will help with your case in the long run (b/c the cops havent kicked your door down).....please just trust me and dont screw yourself right now....at least wait until a month or two after the baby is there to go against her wishes if you insist on going that route

Mulltie said:

is your woman issed off about the grow, does she smoke?
get her involved in your grow or sumthing .. then she wont wanna wreck it

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shes pissed off because im growing illegal substance in our back garden shed and we have our 1st baby on the way.

no she doesnt smoke any more. shes pregnant.

i dunno about some of these idea's.

and to every1 who said is it worth ur relationship, then no it isnt.

i sent her a text b4 and said im sorry, im trying to get rid of it now.

she txt me back saying, dont bother,i wont be going there anyway and if u get caught its ur own fault.

she means that in nasty way.

i asked can we speak about it an she said

its over, i was stupid to have thought youd grow up.i cant believe youd risk losing ur fiancee and baby and house just for a few quid and a buzz.

i think shes right.....

gogrow said:

just grow something besides pot for awhile; it will start to excite you, hell grow some orchids if you want a challenge....but be sure to grow it in your weed setup, it will help with your case in the long run (b/c the cops havent kicked your door down).....please just trust me and dont screw yourself right now....at least wait until a month or two after the baby is there to go against her wishes if you insist on going that route

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hmm i dunno. its abit diff from pot.

no1 would see the sense in having alot of CFL's to grow veg. only reason i bought the lights was for pot and i was prepared to pay the elec bills for it.



... i guess ill shut my lights down when i get home from work and think about stuff.

ill probs pick up some stuff off my m8 on the way home. its a lonely night for smokeh 2night. jeez, friday nights used to be something, now there just nothin.

smokeh said:

hmm i dunno. its abit diff from pot.

no1 would see the sense in having alot of CFL's to grow veg. only reason i bought the lights was for pot and i was prepared to pay the elec bills for it.



... i guess ill shut my lights down when i get home from work and think about stuff.

ill probs pick up some stuff off my m8 on the way home. its a lonely night for smokeh 2night. jeez, friday nights used to be something, now there just nothin.

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sorry bout your situation right now, but just take it all down and dont give up on calling/apologizing/kissin her ass; if she is worth havin, then dont let her go. she'll calm down, people make mistakes.... and as you said, she knew you before, so she probly knows you do "dumb shit sometimes without thinking"...(personal exp there) she just needs to calm down and you need to see that you really fucked up; should work out.. i wish you the best of luck there bro

gogrow said:

sorry bout your situation right now, but just take it all down and dont give up on calling/apologizing/kissin her ass; if she is worth havin, then dont let her go. she'll calm down, people make mistakes.... and as you said, she knew you before, so she probly knows you do "dumb shit sometimes without thinking"...(personal exp there) she just needs to calm down and you need to see that you really fucked up; should work out.. i wish you the best of luck there bro

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wanna buy some plants and grow gear?lol

i have asked thsi question in noob central but get more answers here as well.

i have vegged for 4 days and they are showing. all going normal etc.

can i switch to 12/12 with 4x125w 2700k and 2x125w 6400k now? will it bring any problems? if i can get it done in a month then i should be ok. i know its pushing it and sacrificing a good grow but its better than nothing.

thanks for the words of wisdom guys

smokeh said:

shes pissed off because im growing illegal substance in our back garden shed and we have our 1st baby on the way.

no she doesnt smoke any more. shes pregnant.

i dunno about some of these idea's.

and to every1 who said is it worth ur relationship, then no it isnt.

i sent her a text b4 and said im sorry, im trying to get rid of it now.

she txt me back saying, dont bother,i wont be going there anyway and if u get caught its ur own fault.

she means that in nasty way.

i asked can we speak about it an she said

its over, i was stupid to have thought youd grow up.i cant believe youd risk losing ur fiancee and baby and house just for a few quid and a buzz.

i think shes right.....

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Dude go talk to her as soon as you can. It's grovellin time!

Biggravy22 said:

Dude go talk to her as soon as you can. It's grovellin time!

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i dont think thats gonna work without gettin rid of my stuff 1st. shes at her mums and im stuck in work till god damn 5pm on a friday

smokeh said:

shes pissed off because im growing illegal substance in our back garden shed and we have our 1st baby on the way.

no she doesnt smoke any more. shes pregnant.

i dunno about some of these idea's.

and to every1 who said is it worth ur relationship, then no it isnt.

i sent her a text b4 and said im sorry, im trying to get rid of it now.

she txt me back saying, dont bother,i wont be going there anyway and if u get caught its ur own fault.

she means that in nasty way.

i asked can we speak about it an she said

its over, i was stupid to have thought youd grow up.i cant believe youd risk losing ur fiancee and baby and house just for a few quid and a buzz.

i think shes right.....

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I dont think she's right,infact i think she's the typical vindictive girl who condems what she isnt interested in,she cant smoke because she's pregnant so NEITHER CAN YOU,the whole "grow up" shit is silly,she's the one who should grow up.

Tell her this,you call me immature over growing weed,then break up over it & mention all the bad shit that can happen,but she's all for leaving the baby fatherless while she stomps her feet cause she cant get her own way.

Sounds to me like she wanted to start a family for the wrong reasons,wants the dream life she see's on tv with picket fences while you bust your ass & become a hen pecked yes man,fuk that,plow your own road man,a real woman who loves you could give 2 shits less about some weed growing,its a childish ploy implemented by an obviously very young girl who spends way too much time listening to her mother & friends,all of which are asured to have one hell of a fuked up personal life but love to tell her how to go about life.

I'd bet money im right here !

My 1st wife left me when i went to prison the 1st time,aside from my children that was the best thing that coulda happened to me,my 2nd wife has stuck with me through prison,a broken back,months spent in the intensive care burn unit,growing stupid amounts of weed,ect,ive done some very scandelous things in my life to get money,many my wife has known about too,all she ever says is "do what you think is best,i trust your judgement" & thats the end of it.

Weather your having a child right now is irrelevant,you cant change that fact,what you can change is putting yourself in a position where an angry little girl takes away your freedom over a hissy fit, & she will do it too,she's allready demonstrated a total disregard for your saftey & security,as time goes on she'll grow more spitefull & vindictive,you've just got the tip of the iceberg right now,more to come over many years.

I think you should just say to her that you will use the money from your first grow to pay for her dream wedding and just tell her you will only do it once by the time she gives birth and can smoke again she might let you do more grows.

im inexperienced in life. im only 21, but id say (without being big headed) a mature 21 year old with brains, intelligence and a bright future.

but can i ask u something pan head.

u really think that she is doing it bcoz she cant have her way. when i was reading ur post it made something trigger in my mind.

- shes pregnant, shes not seen any of her friends for months bcoz she cant drink. of her friends are the piss head types and get in a mess on the weekend kidna thing.

- u think shes just jealous bcoz she has to stay sober?

and.... what do u think about my grow

DutchLady27 said:

I think you should just say to her that you will use the money from your first grow to pay for her dream wedding and just tell her you will only do it once by the time she gives birth and can smoke again she might let you do more grows.

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I only have 14 plants. i wont make that much out of it. if i say dream wedding i will have the repo men round my house lol