ok people, I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. I threatened once in our relationship to break up with her for worthy reasons, but didn't go through with it because it was my first big relationship and I didn't know what I was doing. So another opportunity to dump her came up and I did. I feel like I took back control of my life really. I still love this girl deeply. How long should I wait for this girl to come back to me?
Broke up with my girlfriend, how long should I wait?
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yourlocal420
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As long as it takes man. If it was meant to be then it will happen. Take care of you and your life first and the rest will follow.
potheadsmoker
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isnt that the truth, maybe she feels the same way you do about having her life back also...did you think of that? maybe she means more to you than you do to her idk, if your worth it she'll come around, if she controlled your moves or vise versa then theres no reason to be....with that being said some people are overwhelming with theyre jealousness that they should keep things to a one night thing...unless you could find somebody that digs the jealous shit
offgridgrower
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dood, you have many more relationships to experience, move on and go find the next relationship. the only reason i can think of that you dumped her is she was cheating on you bro. correct me if im wrong but it sounds like that to me. if so then never take her back dood, NEVER!!!
Not saying that it is going to happen, but I have this gut feeling this chick is going to come back to me. I just have to recognize the right time to take her back. It has been 1 month. She has already called me on christmas and left a message on my machine that she loves me. But who knows, she could be blowing smoke. In this relationship, by breaking up with her I felt she needed to know the terms of how the relationship needs to go if we are going to continue. Like I said, I love her, and would like her back if she comes back, but I feel that if she comes back I need to subtly and not hatefully reinforce the fact that I will, if she makes me, leave her ass again. How do I do that?
yes, yes! like that, but I don't want to come across hateful and spiteful
shovelhead
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I won't win any points with the ladies for this one, but it works both ways.
1. if you have ever had any suspition of her screwing around, leave as soon as possible.
2. If you feel squeezed, take a road-trip untill you feel homesick. If you don't feel homesick, it wasn't your real home afterall-keep looking.
3. You would be amazed how good your own intuition is and how closely you should pay attention to it.
There's alot more, but making mistakes is all part of the experience. It just makes sense to avoid all the pitfalls you can.
GoodLuck
1. if you have ever had any suspition of her screwing around, leave as soon as possible.
2. If you feel squeezed, take a road-trip untill you feel homesick. If you don't feel homesick, it wasn't your real home afterall-keep looking.
3. You would be amazed how good your own intuition is and how closely you should pay attention to it.
There's alot more, but making mistakes is all part of the experience. It just makes sense to avoid all the pitfalls you can.
GoodLuck
i'd wait until she got all her stuff out of your house, then i'd start calling all her friends.
they already heard all the stories. they don't want to touch her now.ya but what if she then starts calling all your friends
UTurn
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Worst thing you could do is try to MAKE her come back. Do your own thang bruh bruh and if your doing the right thing she'll eventually figure out what she's missing, if not.....it wasnt meant to be and you get to meet all the other beautiful women in the world.
Peace and love
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potheadsmoker
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shit man, these guys around here dont care what storys you tell them they still want a piece of whatever they can get, i dont get them sick fuckers....wont be happy till its oozing off theyre dicks or they get aids or something
UTurn
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pamaris
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What kind of game are you playing? If you want to be with her, talk to her like a grown up and explain what specific things she does that you CANNOT deal with. Actually, I find the best way to resolve these things is to narrow it down to 1 or 2 BIG things, and communicate in writing to each other. It takes patience, but you each at least get to make your point without arguing.
The "right time" to take her back is when you are both getting what you want out of the relationship. If that isn't going to happen, then move on. Whatever you do don't play games- breaking up, getting back together, arguing, breaking up again, having a booty call, are we together or not- that is not a good road to travel.
The "right time" to take her back is when you are both getting what you want out of the relationship. If that isn't going to happen, then move on. Whatever you do don't play games- breaking up, getting back together, arguing, breaking up again, having a booty call, are we together or not- that is not a good road to travel.
HotNSexyMILF
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Yeah.. both of these posts pretty much say it...
I was wondering if I was the only one scratching my head going "um.. what actual love can there be with all these immature games going on?"..
