Aeroknow
Well-Known Member
You don't have kids with this chick right?I just found out earlier today that my ex has had a boyfriend for the past at least four months.
So we've been separated for about a year now. We technically never broke up. We were together for 12 years. The first six years were amazing, and then it kind of slowly went downhill from there, and the last few years were complete hell. I blame a lot of it on myself. I didn't try hard enough to keep the flame going. Our sex life had diminished. And yet we both remained faithful to one another. I figured it was just a matter time before we went our separate ways. And then it finally happened. She moved back to Texas, I stayed here in New Mexico, and I guess we thought that With enough time separated, things will eventually work themselves out.
When she first left, the following weeks felt as if I had gotten out of prison. I felt as if I was free. No more yelling, arguing, and fighting. I lack the words to describe how bad things had gotten. After a few months I felt I was better off. And after even a few more months I thought to myself I can't imagine ever getting back with her.
So about a year has gone by now, and I have just been going about on my merry way. Then I find out today she's had a boyfriend For the past 4 to 6 months. and honestly I feel pretty fucking hurt. I guess I always thought in the back of my mind that there was still a small chance that we might be able to work things out, but the whole time I was leaning way towards not getting back together just because things seem so peaceful now. But with that being said, right now I'm extremely upset.
The way I found out is kind of fucked up. Well first of all, My dad just left the other day for a visit from Texas. I sent him back with a lot of weed and wax. He hasn't had to pay for weed in a few years, that makes me feel good. Half of it was for him and half of it was for her. So my dad called me this afternoon and said that she just picked it up and she's on her way home and that she supposed to call me when she gets home. So after that I was bored and got on Facebook and decided to look at her profile cause it's been a long time, and I keep seeing this one guy kind of popping up more and more. One of her old "guy" friends from her early teenage years. So I visit his page, and I see loads of pictures of him and her here in New Mexico just a couple months ago in a Hot Spring both naked… And then just lots of other post that go on and on clearly indicating they've been a couple for quite some time. He even says in one of his posts you need to come see your boyfriend.
So I confront her about it. It was hard as hell just getting her on the phone. She kept dodging my calls, but anyway when she finally answered I first said I'm glad to hear that you made it back home and everything is OK. Then I just flat out told her I looked on Facebook earlier, and it looks like you've been seeing another guy for quite some time. And she said yes and it was real quiet and weird and then she started acting weird and saying stereo typical things like I didn't want to happen this way or I didn't mean to hurt you, but kind of in a bitchy way were Its almost like she was trying to get me to get pissed off when I was handling my composure. I asked if she was happy and if she is in love with him and she said yes to both. And I just tried to keep it as pleasant as possible and said I hope you're happy and have a good life pretty much.
During this post I just texted her, "Sorry this is a lot right now, but how can you say you don't want to hurt me in anyway and yet have pictures of you naked posted on Facebook with some other dude. Seems kind of fucked up lol.. Just sayin.."
Idk, i guess I'm just venting again…
Seems pretty clear that we're definitely over now. Idk why I feel so hurt when I already knew we were more than likely better off Seperating. Now I'm just kinda at a loss for words.
Fuckin move on already dude, life is way too short.
