My parents found my weed and pieces and now treat me like a drug addict

you are not part of the 10% unemployment you are a kid and they arent counting you. Your 19 and bullshit you have been badgering people. Pick one fucking supermarket and dont go in looking like a stoner and dont have your friends waiting out front while you run in and ask for application. If they say no and say to check back in a week or two then you check back in two days, you ultimately tell them you will put bags in the cars to begin with anything to get job and you show up every couple of days and tell them to keep you informed because you understand turn around and people come and go and you are available and just checking again. You are full of shit saying you cant find a job, if you were working and not being found to hang out all day and when asked if you found work you give parents same shit you tell us about how hard it is. Your a kid you should be taking the jobs that no adult can take for financial reasons. There are plenty of lawns to cut soon. Another good idea is to tell employers that you would like to schedule some time to interview them for school project and ask lots of questions about what qualifications are needed for positions in that company and tell them your not looking for a job just yet but stress this being school project and interview them instead of them interviewing you. By the end of your interview they may offer you a position anyway because of how you come off to them and your concern about qualifications and what makes a good worker blah, blah, blah. Your parents would get off your back if you were working period. AS for not being able to leave it sounds like you have friends that haven't accomplished anything either or you would at least be able to stay with one of them until you are ready to start working and not hanging out all day. Adults don't have the option of saying I CANT you just get it done or end up on the streets or jail. Since its so hard as you claim then your best bet is to get your ass up in the morning when they are getting ready for work and act like your goal for the day is to get out early and search. All you have to do is put your ass on MONSTER.com and sit back and let people contact you instead of driving to 3 places and telling parents its too hard. Paper route, burger joint, supermarket, cutting grass, pumping gas get the fuck outta here I cant find a job. YOu dont want one

btw my son is also 19 and living with me right now. He did so well in school and graduated at 16 so I don't need to pressure him to work and buy him cigarettes if he needs. He is sleeping now as I prepare for work and I don't care if he isnt looking for a job as I have my shit together enough to take care of him and I remember at his age I was out there fucking up big time getting in trouble , stealing, vandalizing you name it. Anyway I am just responding to your comments about how hard it is to find a job, if I expected my son to have his shit together at 19 I would wake him up now, but he is a kid still and I remember myself at that age. I figure he will find himself and go looking soon he has a few years in my book before he HAS to do something. I just wnt him to stay out of trouble right now and enjoy and be a kid before having to jump into the work place because once you start real life begins and excuses dont work with people you owe money to. I cant tell landlord how hard it is he will just ask me to leave. I cant tell electric company about unemployment they will just cut me off. Face it for now your parents can tell you what to do in their house. Act like your looking for a job and don't get high in your own house and learn to hide that shit. If your not going to work and smoke weed then stay out of the house and don't piss your parents off. They should know how old you are and would be fools if they think your not going to try shit with others, bad mouthing things will surely make you want to do it more as a kid. Good luck and stay out of trouble, i forgot to mention that if I found him smoking weed I wouldn't mind much as long as it was not my weed. I would not smoke with him until he is older and would not act like its cool with me that much for him if he was not sneaking. I smoke myself and he has seen me smoking his entire life so I am not going to tell him not to smoke weed and actually would prefer he smoke weed than the cigarettes but not going to tell him that at his age he better keep sneaking for now. I have not been sneaking and looking through his shit and he has never left anything laying around to give himself away out of respect for me. Dont take any advice the wrong way just listen and get some wisdom that comes with the age and experience. If your parents aren't on your back when they come home then don't push it and hide it better and things will settle down especially if you have any siblings fucking up they can divert the attention to them

Cataclismic said:

I mean some of this is uncalled for. I badgered places to death for work. It's not as if I don't want t work it's just no one is hiring and unemployment is at ten percent. Do some of u think every person over 18 is out of the house? Also I go to a community college

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Go to any of the fast food joints. There are jobs out there. You just need to really go out & fill out applications & keep going back to these places once a week. Learn the managers names, ask for them each time you visit to find out if any openings have come up. Ask for another application & fill it out. Do this every week, I'm sure if you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to work then you could find a job. The reason I asked what kind of school you go to is for what I'm about to say next. Your parents are paying for you to attend college. You bet your ass you need to do good in school. You're not in public school anymore. Now you're paying for an education. Shitty grades in college wont win your parents over. When I must pay to learn something you can bet your ass I want to get my moneys worth & be educated. That applies to everyone who pays for an education. Bad grades in college will get you nowhere in life.

sit down with your parents and watch the movie step brothers and tell them it could be worse

You need to stop making excuses & get off your lazy ass & do much more with your life.

You're 19 now, at 19 my father was in the military. Go join the service & you will grow up real fast !! You want dads love, do that & I'm sure when you come home for the first time you will see that love from him. It's time to be 19 going on 20 instead of 19 going on 15. GROW UP!!

Bring a batch of cocaine home and a fat sac of some H-Goo, and in the other hand weed. Ask them which one they preffer.
This could backfire.

my parents let me grow pot since i was 16 now im 18, even thoe they dont like me smoking i told them , look i rather smoke at home and not get cought by cops beacause anyways im gonna smoke weed , talk your parents out , have they ever smoked?

sounds to me like you need to grow a pair

just move out bro, im m19 and i just got my own place, yo u just need a job andd a buddy with a job .

my place is sweet!

but tell your parents you know they did it so stfu

move out, grow weed for a living if you get legal - even better!

sounds like ur parents have control issues and can not let their adult child make adult decisions. cut the leash once that is done life will be easier

American males aren't adults until they are at least 35.

Hate to be harsh (not really), but thats what you get. If you are grown up enough to do grown up things, then do a critical grown up thing and get your own place, earn your own money, pay your own bills, and live like a grown up! Its thier house, their rules. If you dont like it, do something about it other than crying like a little pussy.

Bullshit you cant get a job. You just think you are too good to work for minimum wage. Is washing dishes 40+ hours a week beneath you? Are you over qualified to stock shelves or work behind the counter at a convinience store? When people say they cant get a job, i point and say bullshit. You are too lazy to get a job. At all of 19 years of age, what can you do that is worth more than $20K a year? Especially with the attitude you have.

I started working when i was 15. When i was 18 i had a full time job even during school. When i graduated, i was working 50 hours a week. Years later i had a full time job, a part time job, and was going to school. They werent the high paying, low work jobs so many people think they deserve, they were shit jobs that i had to bust my ass for lots of hours so i could have my own independence.

ever hear of eric and lyle menendez?

CrackerJax said:

American males aren't adults until they are at least 35.

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If they were born after 1980. We have a generation greedy crybaby pussies who are uneducated to boot!

Chuck Norris was an adult at the age of 5.

oh and any job that pays minimum wage is not enough to live off of or even think about moving out for that matter. go to school get educated and get a good job and move the fuck out

I'd just tell them that you quit, or only do it with a friend every now and then, but tellin em you quit would be better. What they dont know wont hurt them, just dont get caught by the law, then they'll really treat you like an outcast. But thats just how parents act, gotta give them a lil credit, they raised you, but i dont think moving out has to be the answer, unless you want to. But your parents have respect for themselves being a parent in all, just gotta play the role of their son, and they'll be happy. and dont smoke in the house, or let them catch you, and you'll be fine, and dont be dumbass and hit the kitchen hard smelling like reffer, common sense goes a long way

jonnyquest said:

sounds to me like you need to grow a pair

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no offense to the OP but i agree...(even though im roughly in a similar situation).

but the truth is this OP...(or at least its the truth for me)...No i was never physically abused as a child...but my parents where always the controlling type. they wanted to be on top of everything i did even when i turned 18.

Like i was floored one day when i was walking out the door and said im takin off. my mom n dad turned and said, "well arent you going to ask if you can go?"

you know since when do adults ask to leave the house? lmao...and i was going to work that day!!!

so thats when i had enough and made the plays to win this game called life and got the fuck you.

you can get out of the house...AND have marijuana...AND not live under an overpass.

idk wat state u live in but you can go for a medical MJ card. if you want go ahead and grow it...you can sell it to the clubs legally. its realistic and legal if you have a card.

might be your ticket out. or at least something to think about.

or even a trade school (if you look some of them have lifetime job placement assistance so you wont have it so hard looking for a job)

Yea well others have said it but I'll say it in a clearer way.

WERE YOU EXPECTING A MEDAL??!!

No shit they're treating you like a drug addict. Most people consider weed to be a drug because of mind conditioning, brainwashing - whatever you chose to call it. Your parents aren't going to change their stance on MJ, and as long as you're living under their roof you better do what they say. Trying to resist only creates problems...

Thank God my mom is cool with my horticultural hobby

Think hard and well about what you're doing.

-Rich

P.S.

Greensister nailed it. Get a job if you think your parents are "violating your independance". Legally you have no business with MJ - you're lucky they didn't turn you in.