I know its an extreme sense of insecurity on my part. 
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You serious? They were both afraid their son was going to be gay because of a 'hug?'
my son was maybe 3 years old. he hugged everyone. he has always loved other kids. we went to a friends house. the dad was all macho and into monster trucks and kickin' ass. my son walked over and hugged his son of the same age. dude freaked out. got all scared his boy was gonna be gay. had a little talk with his wife about it who later spoke to me.
I don't think being compassionate and sympathetic is a male or female only trait...I think that has to do with your personality and how you were raised...I am a single father, have been for 13 years and I have had people over the years question whether or not I could do the job...but I have hugged and kissed my son and daughter every day of their life...until my son went away to college
yes...my son and I are very close...my best bud...but he goes to college 300 miles away and he comes home for holidays and such...raised your kids on your own for 13 years.
good for you bongspit. Thta must be where you aquired your patience skills. I can see you being a good dad also.
You still see your son don't you? Isn't he the one who helps you with the cars and stuff?
Lacy the anger thing has to do with american/canadian culture and the way boys/men are raised. True I learned it in college...LOL. But we are not taught to be emotional, it is looked down upon, by the time we are adults we don't know how to express it...anger is how it shows. Most times when I guy seems angry he is upset and unfortunately it's the way it is......I am guilty of it I admit it, I also have not picked the best significant others when it comes to communication. So basically it's the way our culture is. Do we tend to encourage or discourage 2 young boys hugging each other, I would say discourage now how about the girls? The girls are encouraged to do the loving things. It's sad really
And it's biological, men are hunter gather fixer types women nuture and provide emotional support.
Men-- every time we "vent" on you or start talking about things bothering us.. it's not always because there's a problem YOU must fix.. lol.. i swear I hear about that problem too much
LOL... hey FDD I'm not in that category- if I need to vent I usually get high and do some work.why don't you "vent' by fixing something? at least do the dishes. lol
men take the energy that women use to argue and put it to something useful. women will spend hours tiring themselves over drama. men will spend hours tiring themselves cleaning the gutters. which ones more productive?
when i do something that upsets my wife she gets pissy. i stop and say "what's wrong"? she says "I was really hurt when you........." from there it's on me. no need to go into 3 hours of drawn out feelings. "i understand. i will do my best to note my behavior and correct it. i do not want to hurt you."LOL... hey FDD I'm not in that category- if I need to vent I usually get high and do some work.
done. LOL... I hear ya..when i do something that upsets my wife she gets pissy. i stop and say "what's wrong"? she says "I was really hurt when you........." from there it's on me. no need to go into 3 hours of drawn out feelings. "i understand. i will do my best to note my behavior and correct it. i do not want to hurt you."
when i get pissed i go clean the backyard, then i come back and talk about it. it's easier when i'm calm.