Advise please, son caught with small amount on school property.

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anonomom

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woody333333 said:
Suppose it depends on the county but I'll take jail over probation

They get you on probation the next stops prison ....
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That's my fear. He's young, he's going to mess up. Also we just adopted him out of a very restricted foster care program, so the odds are that he would mess up more than your average teen. He's 17 and only got a cell phone when we adopted him last December.
I am expecting him to make some errors in judgement as he gets used to his freedoms.
Totally don't want him going to county though.
 
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anonomom said:
That's my fear. He's young, he's going to mess up. Also we just adopted him out of a very restricted foster care program, so the odds are that he would mess up more than your average teen. He's 17 and only got a cell phone when we adopted him last December.
I am expecting him to make some errors in judgement as he gets used to his freedoms.
Totally don't want him going to county though.
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Is he in therapy ? If not put him in it now
Restricted children can easily go off on the deep end


anonomom said:
It looked like this, but broken up, so not coming up as high in the baggie.

http://www.blogginghigh.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/weed_fullschmiddy.jpeg
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A quarter of weed 7 grams
Prob less than that though seeing as they smoked some but I get what you mean typical amount teens buy

anonomom said:
I'm worried that he will continue to smoke. And they will pee test him.
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Seems like you're trying to give him the best life possible but you're also allowing him to over step his freedom
You have to set boundaries of what's appropriate and what isn't
What priorities are and such
dont forget he's in your house living under your roof

I really don't want to offend your parenting so I wish you all the best in the situation and hope this only turns out in the best for you and your son :)
I do highly suggest he goes to therapy though growing up in the foster system sucks
 
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Nutes and Nugs said:
A real lawyer would be best^.
I don't think the cops could wait and charge him as a adult but they are shifty bastards.
He is a minor when the "crime" was committed and it wasnt his or your car. A lawyer could use that to get him off in ways and less fines.
I'd like to know what he wrote on the statement.
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This forum is tricky, as I didn't see your post initially. I'd like to know what he wrote in the note to the school as well. And I don't think that they could really ask him to do that, without me there. Or they can't hand it over to the police. But I don't know.
I am going to see if I can get a copy of it.
 
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anonomom

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woody333333 said:
Inch of fluffy stuff across the bottom of a bag it was probably more like a quarter.... Seven grams
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Is that a scary amount?
It didn't look like much to me, but I don't know much. He only ever has $20 on him max, but I suppose he could have taken money from friends.
 
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anonomom said:
Is that a scary amount?
It didn't look like much to me, but I don't know much. He only ever has $20 on him max, but I suppose he could have taken money from friends.
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They probably all chipped in

PA goes by 30grams and under

If they didn't have any other dime baggies on them they won't be charged with intent to sell

What happend with the other kids ? Have they been given Court dates or anything ?
 
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anonomom said:
Is that a scary amount?
It didn't look like much to me, but I don't know much. He only ever has $20 on him max, but I suppose he could have taken money from friends.
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What's scary is that if it is an adult conviction they're gonna drag him out the car and shake him down the rest of his life

It should just be a misdemeanor.... A day in jail or a fine and probation
 
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woody333333 said:
What's scary is that if it is an adult conviction they're gonna drag him out the car and shake him down the rest of his life

It should just be a misdemeanor.... A day in jail or a fine and probation
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Or just community service I've seen judges do that instead depends tho
 
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He's been in therapy for a long time. His life was crap. His foster care was only us, and I love him to death, so he didn't have a horrible foster experience. I quit to give him a normal life without a house fill of crazy kids.
My hubby is also totally anti drug and we found out he was smoking shortly before this issue came up.

Hubby was like drugs are bad, don't, never have them in my house.
I talked to him about how to be smart, don't buy it, let someone else. Stay in someone's house etc.

Then he went to the f-ing school for a homecoming with friends, high, and had it on school property. That's just insanity to me.

So now, he's telling me that my advise is good, and he's listening to me more. But no way to prove that, until or if he makes a dumb decision again.
 
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anonomom said:
He's been in therapy for a long time. His life was crap. His foster care was only us, and I love him to death, so he didn't have a horrible foster experience. I quit to give him a normal life without a house fill of crazy kids.
My hubby is also totally anti drug and we found out he was smoking shortly before this issue came up.

Hubby was like drugs are bad, don't, never have them in my house.
I talked to him about how to be smart, don't buy it, let someone else. Stay in someone's house etc.

Then he went to the f-ing school for a homecoming with friends, high, and had it on school property. That's just insanity to me.

So now, he's telling me that my advise is good, and he's listening to me more. But no way to prove that, until or if he makes a dumb decision again.
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My parents told me I could smoke all I wanted just not to leave home w it.....
 
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As we were foster parents, my kids didn't grow up with all the other kids, my kids stayed in the 16-17 range for a decade as foster kids came and went. So I don't know the other parents to talk to them. And as my kid admitted to it, I don't really know how to call them and be like hey, my kid admitted to this, and they likely think their kid is an innocent little butterfly.
From what kiddo is saying, there were 5 of them - none of them have had charges yet. The kid whose car it was, doesn't smoke, and they all said that, but it was found in his car, so I'd have thought there would be something for that.
 
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woody333333 said:
My parents told me I could smoke all I wanted just not to leave home w it.....
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Husband and I totally differ on that issue. I'd buy it, as I'd be safer and have him smoke at home. Hubby doesn't agree on any level with that line of thinking.
I think probably the reasonable point is somewhere inbetween us both. But to me, I don't want my kid making dumb decisions - and there you are, he just did.
 
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anonomom said:
He's been in therapy for a long time. His life was crap. His foster care was only us, and I love him to death, so he didn't have a horrible foster experience. I quit to give him a normal life without a house fill of crazy kids.
My hubby is also totally anti drug and we found out he was smoking shortly before this issue came up.

Hubby was like drugs are bad, don't, never have them in my house.
I talked to him about how to be smart, don't buy it, let someone else. Stay in someone's house etc.

Then he went to the f-ing school for a homecoming with friends, high, and had it on school property. That's just insanity to me.

So now, he's telling me that my advise is good, and he's listening to me more. But no way to prove that, until or if he makes a dumb decision again.
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Haha ok see this is the realistic response I was looking for


My mom always told me she didnt care if I smoked weed just do it at home or at a friends and walk or ride a bike don't drive or get into a car with someone who's high


I'm pretty sure Nothing will happen with this
Chalk it up to a life lesson

Keep in therapy though mental health issues in foster kids is high (for obvious reasons) :)
 
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I got busted when I was 17. And like woody said....it sticks to you. Judge gave me a £60 fine and see said my punishment was my criminal record....didn't think much of it until I graduated and realised i wasn't getting any job that required a background check. I waited 8 months for my court date and made the mistake of not telling anyone and representing myself
...I was guilty so I just thought I'll plead guilty. My Mum found out because it was in the local newspaper. Christ, kids do stupid ass stuff. Speak to a lawyer ASAP. When I got busted with a grow I was on a lawyer straight away. Guy got me off all charges except possession and that was only down to my previous charge. A lawyer will give you more piece of mind than any of us here will. Good luck.
 
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sunni said:
i just wanted to add an ounce of weed is 28 grams

I'm not sure if you got how much he had on him wrong if you're not a smoker yourself
It's quite a large quantity

marijuana is illegal where you are and even if it wasn't he's under 21 so it wouldn't be legal for him anyways

It would depend if they charged him with possession or distribution
Either way it's 500$ fine and a misdemeanour
With a lawyer prob just probation or some community service given his age
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1oz being considered a large quantity is a matter of perspective. For a high schooled, yes it is. Jmo.
 
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