Wompwomp I got a problem...

So yeaaa...I got a problem. I don't know how to tell people that I am Bi. I...I have friends that I have had my whole life. We often would call people gay and shit stuff like that. But yeah...it's been years now and I kinda wanna come clean. My parents are deffinedly going to disown me and I know this is fucked up...I really don't care. They always sucked anyway...but my friends been there for me my whole life. How do I say "hey...yea..ya know how I have had sex with woman? Well I do that with guys too" (that was actually an idea...lol)...some of them are going to feel weird like I want to rape them or something but I ASSURE YOU I DO NOT feel that way towards my friends. The few I ever had I was upfront (guy or girl) honest, and if they wanted to hook up...awesome. If not it is no biggy. I respect their wishes...so ya...any thoughts on how to say this to them? I feel really really nervous...and I have been in ALOT of shit...even shootings...so not much makes me this nervous, but losing my friends? yaaa

hmm...dont wanna be mean but you could always stop sucking dick and be a man.

drolove said:

hmm...dont wanna be mean but you could always stop sucking dick and be a man.

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Hmmm....I never thought of this before! GEE I FEEL SO STUPID!

Coming out the half-closet, huh?

Don't tell them unless they ask. No big deal. If you lose a friend over this then he/she wasn't much of a friend in the first place. The best thing you can do is stop the homophobic behavior. That has a real impact on people's lives. Do us gays a favor.

You wanna be gentle. It can be hard for the unprepared to take in all at once. cn

I'm sure most people were gonna say this but if they're your true friends they'll accept you. They might be shocked at first or for a while but that's normal. As for telling them i'm not so sure what the best way is besides just being honest and saying it how YOU feel is best.

GEEZ their everywhere here...

drolove said:

GEEZ their everywhere here...

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don't drop the soap.

Yea...well I thought about just being quiet but I don't wnt them to hear it from someone else somehow and me look like I was al iar or something (being quiet is often as bad as lying). It's tough. And drolove...I know I SHOULD be offended by what you say bt it is actually pretty funny lol...

carne seca said:

don't drop the soap.

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yes...soon...

AndrewDeeKing said:

Yea...well I thought about just being quiet but I don't wnt them to hear it from someone else somehow and me look like I was al iar or something (being quiet is often as bad as lying). It's tough. And drolove...I know I SHOULD be offended by what you say bt it is actually pretty funny lol...

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lol ya im not trying to be mean, just stir up some laughs. glad everyones laughing along

AndrewDeeKing said:

Yea...well I thought about just being quiet but I don't wnt them to hear it from someone else somehow and me look like I was al iar or something (being quiet is often as bad as lying). It's tough. And drolove...I know I SHOULD be offended by what you say bt it is actually pretty funny lol...

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If you'll forgive the frightful multiple entendre, it's not a straightforward question. Only you can weigh the risks of coming all the way out v. the rewards of not having a deep dark secret. There is no one-size-fits-all solution here. I'm sending good thoughts your way. cn

Ya I think just coming right out is the best way. Maybe just a subtle "IM NOT GOING TO RAPE YOU I PROMISE!"...no...that probably isn't a smart idea...

AndrewDeeKing said:

Yea...well I thought about just being quiet but I don't wnt them to hear it from someone else somehow and me look like I was al iar or something (being quiet is often as bad as lying). It's tough. And drolove...I know I SHOULD be offended by what you say bt it is actually pretty funny lol...

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I didn't say be quiet about it. I said don't say anything unless they ask. One thing people hate is when you make it the main focus of your life. It's a just a part of you. A fundamental part but it doesn't encompass all of you. Be well rounded. It sounds like you want to sit them all down together and make some dramatic announcement. Bad idea. Deal with it on an individual basis. If they ask, be truthful. You're allowing them to take in the information at their own pace. Just my opinion.

AndrewDeeKing said:

Ya I think just coming right out is the best way. Maybe just a subtle "IM NOT GOING TO RAPE YOU I PROMISE!"...no...that probably isn't a smart idea...

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"You might think I'm a HUGE DICK for saying this, but ... " cn

drolove said:

GEEZ their everywhere here...

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Actually...I think you may be right Carne...like I said I jsut don't want them to hear it and be like "WTF..." it wouldnt be sitting them down we ALL hang together. Like the police labled us a "Gang"...lol...and they tohught I was the leader...their big awesome half queer leader...lol...ya...maybe I'll just see if anyone says anything, if they don't...niether will I. I just don't wanna walk in one day and them all look at me like "Wtf" or worst having them argue with people like "NO HES NOT!" when I really am lol...and lol cannabinner.

sworth...it's not funny. Not unfnny cause I'm offended...it's jsut porn lol. This is why I came here...pot heads tend to have a sense of humor. So do I. I need help but it don't have to be liek a cancerward.

i just gotta ask cuz i never understood, why does who you wanna bang have to be known by anyone? what ever happened to class and "thats none of your damn buisness"?

ebgood said:

i just gotta ask cuz i never understood, why does who you wanna bang have to be known by anyone? what ever happened to class and "thats none of your damn buisness"?

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I fucking love that avatar. LOL