A 400 is good for about 3x3 although I get away with them over a 4'4"x 3'6" area with the next light over helping out on the fringes of the longer side...... the venting issue is hard for us to tell you.......if the tent has a large room to draw from and you keep the temps in the room down, venting through the light might be enough.......or you might need another vent to draw from the tent itself.
You could use a 250 and be fine....but any HID puts out a significant amount of heat so you have to have a plan to deal with it.
I'm not familiar with the tents........is it sealed up? are you planning to use co2? all factors to consider.....can you put the ballast outside the tent??