What a shame...

Dinkie

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Well this sucks. This is my first ever grow. I'm growing in hempy buckets. Started out with 5. 3 died from transplant shock, and one male. Now the only beautiful lady I have left may have to be chopped early. 7/31 will be her sixth week in flower, and by the looks of it, I'm almost positive she won't be ready to harvest. But we have to be out by 7/31.

Its just a damn shame, because I've spent all this time reading and learning, and am impressed that I've made it this far. But my boyfriend can't afford his half of the rent, so we have to move back into his parents house.. .and of course I can't grow there. Maybe next season I may drop a few buds in the garden though ; )

Anyone have any suggestions on maybe speeding up the flowering process?

I will post pics of her later tonight.

- Dinkie :peace:
 

korvette1977

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Damn why cant he come up with his 1/2 ....? Dont he work.... Take the plant and put it outside to finish , put a black plastic bag over it to move it .. or even use a large box (hell your moving you should have box's .. ) how much are you short ?
 

Dinkie

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The days are too long here though, since its the summer. He works. lol. Its just tough times in the states for the middle class.
 

Tongbokes

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Drop some seeds in the garden not a Bud !!!! Hope all works out for ya Dink or find a new boyfriend
 

medgrower49

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are you on the coast? I am in the midwest and you can get a place out here for 400 dollars a month for a one bedroom.
 

theloadeddragon

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yeah... we are looking at moving right now.... hehe, 3 bedroom houses for like 1000 everywhere, on acrage! Shitty landlords though...
 

Seamaiden

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fucking rub it in. where i'm at you're looking at 2k for the same place.
I recently learned that our wise county officials put a cap on ALL rentals, no more than $1,500/month. Doesn't matter the age, size, or acreage. No more than $1,500/month. Assholes.
 

Florida Girl

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Maybe... where we live though the apartments start at $1000/month.

Well... now is the time to BUY if you can. If you have good credit you should be able to buy a home.... on your own... don't go in with a b/f.

The market is prime picking for buying now (sorry for anyone who is suffering from the bad market... I'm just trying to help a fellow RIUpper out here).

I bought my first home in CA 9 years ago for 135K and I only put down $1,500..... and after closing I got $200 back (my broker was awesome and caught a charge I shouldn't have paid for). I bought before the RE market went crazy... and got out before it burst... I made a killing on that house :mrgreen:

This is not a hard fact... but generally (if you don't have shitty credit) what you pay is $100 for every $10,000 you borrow. This means if you can find a house for $90 K and put down $2000.00 then you would be looking at the same $1000/mo mortgage (which would include mortgage insurance and home owners insurance and RE taxes). Sure for that amount it would be a fixer upper.... but now is the time if you can. It's better to own then flush your money down the toilet in rent.

You may not think it possible... but it is. Look around in all surrounding areas... there are bound to be some cheaper homes the further from a city you go. If you get a 2 bedroom you could have a roommate and still grow stealth without them knowing.

If you still don't think it's possible then I'd encourage you to take a good hard look at your finances. Do you have a budget? Do you know where EVERY PENNY goes? If you don't then I'd suggest you do it. My sister ... a single mom with a shitty paying job and no child support bought a car and a house. She didn't think she could... but I helped her create a budget so she could really SEE where her money went.... we made adjustments (no more eating out all the time... etc) and she was able to do it. She didn't get a brand new car... and her house is small.... but it's all hers.... and she not only makes it... she is able to put away a little money into savings too.

Don't think you can't find a cheaper home just because "rents" are $1000 a month. I suspect people renting places out are taking advantage of people who lost their homes because they took out a mortgage they couldn't afford so they are upping the rents. In other words... a family who couldn't afford their $2000/mo. mortgage CAN afford a $1000 rent.

I truly apologize if my post comes off "preachy"... it's not meant to. I just want you to know that home ownership is NOT beyond your means.... you just have to make some adjustments... which is worth it to have your own home... which BTW... you get to write off the interest you pay on your mortgage... so you get a bigger tax refund each year... WOO HOO!!!

Lastly... and I can't stress this enough... if you do buy a home.... get a FIXED rate mortgage! I don't care WHAT promises or deals a lender makes on an ARM (adjustable rate mortgage) DO NOT TAKE IT! That's why so many people are losing their homes today. Only get a fixed rate... you can always re-finance if the rates drop.

Apologies for the wordy post.... I just like to see people not be intimidated by the concept of owning a home. I'm 42 now... and I bought my first home when I was 33 .... I'm still kicking myself for not buying one in my 20s.

Best of luck to you :D

P.S. If you want help researching home prices.... google "MLS" + "your county" for your area. If you need help... PM me your zip code and I'll point you in the right direction.
 

shenagen

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I would love to buy right now....just don't think I could. I have some pretty bad credit leftover from a long time ago while in school....defaulted(i think thats what its called) on 2 cards, one of them twice. I know I know ...stupid...I was a different person back then though. My wife has great credit, so I'm sure we could get something in the works. We can't afford 1000 a month for a mortg., so we've been trying to save up a little egglet to lower monthly payments....10k is the goal. Well..humf...we're only 20% there. This is mainly because I have a super shity job right now that pays squat. On the plus side we have a lot for retirement...but its a long way off, and we won't cut into it. We duno where to go from here. You can pm me if you feel like it....so we don't hijack the thread any more.
 

skunk8522

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Fuck iv got it maid then living in a three bedroom house large utility room 1 bath though for 325 i need a roomate lol just playin but the roof looks like it is about to cave in
 

Florida Girl

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I would love to buy right now....just don't think I could. I have some pretty bad credit leftover from a long time ago while in school.... You can pm me if you feel like it....so we don't hijack the thread any more.

Personally I don't think we are hi-jacking the thread... we are talking about a situation that many can benefit from... including the original poster... and posting keeps it on top of the pile too....

OK... here's what you do..

FIRST: Go to a MORTGAGE BROKER... DO NOT start with a RE agent! They will want you to use their own broker and this is NOT in your best interest. Ask around (older, experienced people like relatives, co-workers) for a reference. I got my first Broker through a stellar recommendation from an older co-worker. Best decision I ever made! My home was a small number in terms of loan ($135 K) and commission for him.... yet even after the closing he went through my paperwork again... and found $200 I shouldn't have paid for and made sure I got it back! That kind of service is INVALUABLE! He also called me every time the rate dropped enough for me to benefit and helped me refinance. I think I paid $500 each time. By the time I sold my house I had re-financed 3 times and was paying $300 LESS a month then when I bought it. That broker was AWESOME!!! (ANYONE in Placer County CA should PM me for his name!!!)

SECOND: Meet with the recommended broker in PERSON.... do NOT use an internet broker for your fist purchase... you need that personal contact for your first purchase... someone to hold your hand... be your advocate and attend your closing with you.

THIRD: Be prepared! Get your credit report ahead of time and prepare written & signed statements for ANYTHING bad on your credit report. Your broker will include your statements with a loan request. Being that you are using a person and not the internet... they WILL advocate for you. My credit now is STELLAR... but it wasn't good when I bought my first home... but my broker did a great job in getting me the best possible deal.

Do NOT attempt to hide shit from the broker.... even if you bring your own credit report they will run their own and will quickly find out if you are lying or trying to hide stuff. Be honest and humble... they have SEEN IT ALL! They are there to help you realize what you qualify for. They will dig deep and ask personal questions about your finances... it's their job... be prepared. Even if you have bad credit you may qualify... and they will tell you what you need to do to clean up any bad credit.

FORTH: Wear your thick skin! Do not be offended if they tell you that you don't qualify for what you THINK you should. Remember that these people crunch numbers all day long! It's their job to KNOW what people will get approved for and what they won't. Believe it or not a GOOD broker (again REFERENCES!!!! Don't just open the yellow pages!) will help you buy within your means. It's in their best interest to help you so you are a customer for life and give them references.

FIFTH: The Broker's referrals..... this one is tricky... my broker suggested a RE agent that he liked to work with. I hired her.... she took me to a few houses in my price range..... I made an offer on one...I offered $5K less then they had it listed for (it was an overpriced matchbox). She tried to talk me out of "low balling" them on the offer... but I had done my homework and knew they were asking too much. I was irritated that she tried to talk me out of offering lower money..... anyway... when she let me know the seller's decision she told me "they declined and they were OFFENDED by your offer". I FIRED HER ASS ON THE SPOT! A RE agent works for YOU! They should not insult you by telling you a seller is offended by your offer! She was an uppity bitch and was actually shocked that I fired her. I told my broker about her and he apologized for her actions. I got a referral for another agent from the same co-worker who recommended my broker.... this agent turned out to be FABULOUS!!!! We would go into a house together... walk out and before I would say anything she would say "oh no.... that's not your house for that price"..... she was a great agent!!! She showed my about 20 houses before I made my next offer... which I bought.... at $5K less then the list price... she fought for me!!! Remember this YOUR AGENT WORKS FOR YOU... NOT THE SELLER!

ALSO IMPORTANT: As a BUYER you DO NOT pay a fee! The seller pays the ENTIRE RE FEES!!!! My realtor dropped one percent of her fee to help me get the price I wanted.... realtors SHOULD be willing to negotiate to help you out... if they aren't then DITCH THEM FAST! The standard rate is 6% of sales price divided equally between the selling and buying agents (so each get 3%). Make SURE your RE agent is willing to negotiate their fee BEFORE you work with them! You don't need to get an exact number... just make sure they are open to it.... my RE agent told me UP FRONT she would if I found a house I loved and needed some wiggle room.

SIXTH: Be prepared to look at EVERYTHING.... and HAVE VISION!!! The house I ended up buying had been on the market 8 months.... no takers. It's no wonder... when I went in there were loaded guns on the dresser....dirty underwear on the floor, dried egg on the countertop and the house smelt "dirty". I didn't find the dried boogers on the walls until after I moved in (seller was a single dad with 12 yo son). Anyway... I knew all it needed was some good old TLC. I bought it! 5 years later I sold it for DOUBLE what I paid..... and all I did was re-carpet (cheap) repaint interior (mysleft - Cheap) rebuild one section of fence (Cheap), refinish cabinets and wood floors (myself... cheap). I sold it in 11 days MYSELF (using Help-U-Sell). So don't be afraid of a fixer upper. Just make sure A/C is good and roof is good.

SEVENTH: GET A HOME INSPECTION BEFORE BUYING! This is a must! It will save you BIG TIME in the long run and is worth every cent! I'd also recommend a MOLD inspection (which is more $$... not included in a standard home inspection). These costs are generally out of pocket .... but can be worked into the loan if you DO proceed and purchase the home.


To wrap this up... I bought my second home across country... in one day. I had done internet research on the homes I wanted to see... contacted an agent and flew out from CA to FL to look at them. I had one day with the agent and while not committed to making an offer that day.... I did... it was the last house I looked at... on the water.... beautiful!!!! No one wanted it because the staircase banister was painted black.... as was the fireplace mantle... ROFL!!! People sometimes can't see past bad paint! This time I used Ditech.com.... My credit was stellar and I really didn't need any extra help from a personalized broker. Got my loan in 2 hours.....and was packed up and moving across country within 30 days.

The moral of this long ass post is.... "Home Ownership is DEFINITELY within your reach" ... and you SHOULD reach for it! It builds credit, responsibility and most importantly... the security that your home is TRULY your very own castle :D
 

Seamaiden

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I worked for a Realtor (different from a real estate agent) for about a year. She was the Realtor who got us into the house we're in, and we ended up being friends.

Why does this cottage cheese taste funky? A little odd chemical whiff, just when I take a bite and then it's gone. :?
 

shenagen

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Wow! what an awesome response.+rep to you! Thats the best response I've received from anything in the near year I've been here. Furthermore, I think everyone else on the site(that hasn't ever bought a house) should read this.
I only have one question....point three "prepare written & signed statements for ANYTHING bad on your credit report." Can you elaborate more on this...I don't think I follow.
 

Florida Girl

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I only have one question....point three "prepare written & signed statements for ANYTHING bad on your credit report." Can you elaborate more on this...I don't think I follow.
Sure I'm happy to elaborate.

It means if you have something negative on your credit report that you write a letter explaining WHY you didn't or couldn't pay that debt.

It could be like this:

To Whom It May Concern:

I realize there is a default on a gym membership to XXXXXXX gym in the year ####. When I signed up I had every intention of using the gym and fulfilling the term of the contract. However, after 1 year of using the gym and making all the required payments, my company relocated me and there was no affiilitated gym in the area I was relocated to. I notified the gym and they indicated they would not release me from the contract.

I offered to pay a one month ($50.00) fee to compensate them for the cost of processing the paperwork to process my "dis-enrollment". Please see the attached copy of letter and check I sent in earnest to resolve this matter.

I do not consider it good business to expect me to pay for a service I can't use when I've been relocated to a place they don't offer said service. I believe I acted in good faith by being pro-active by letting the gym know I would no longer be able to use their services due to circumstances beyond my control (employer relocated me). The gym in question cashed my check and still felt it necessary to pursue me without compromise.

Thank you for your consideration

XXXXyour name hereXXXX




That's it.... I can spin most any situation to make a person look good in a lenders eyes... as long is there are no more the say 2 bad things. More then 2 bad things and it gets trickier. For the most part you can explain away everything... EXCEPT a mortgage default to a lender.
 

Seamaiden

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I had a mortgage default and I was able to bring my credit score back up to over 800 at the time we bought this house. It took me several years and an American Express card, but I did it. :D

I'm not joking about the Amex, either. Yeah, it costs that yearly fee, but once you're accepted and charging and paying off, you would not BELIEVE how it affects your score. In no time you'll be receiving offers from other companies, too, it was amazing and still is. It's why I got my son an Amex (on my account, but the card is in his name and thus builds up his score).
 
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