How would you define love and why is it better than sex?
How would you define sex and why is it worse than love?
I think love between partners and sex is interrelated. Good sex is made better by love, and love is made better by sex.Clearly you believe sex with someone you love is the best way to engage in sex, but is sex with someone you don't love considered bad simply because it's not the best? Why is monogamy better than promiscuity? Why does it matter?
Sex is an exciting and pleasurable thing by itself.
Sex tends to cause you to form an attachment to the person you are having sex with. (to different degrees with different people) In sex you are trusting the other person to accept and recieve your body kindly. You are exposing all your flaws and desires in that moment of nakedness. It is a highly vulnerable position to be in for both men and women.
In my experience, if a connection formed by sex is abandoned shortly after, it leaves you feeling cheated. People want to be accepted and loved.
The "One night stand" takes away the comfort and security one needs to feel after sex.
This is why it is a common stereotype that women want to snuggle after sex. It makes them feel that their partner is satisfied and is grateful to be with them. They get the reassurance that the man found them attractive and sexy.
If the first time you have sex with a person and they leave right afterwards, you feel unappreciated. Was the sex good? Was your body attractive? Did you make too much noise? Was this a one night stand?
I believe each time you sleep with a person, you are giving a part of yourself to them and taking a part of them.
