OK i think i have finally got my soil figured out

Top: (works out to about a 4:2:2:1:1 ratio volume-wise)
7.6 ft^3 canadian spaghnum moss
3.8 ft^3 perlite
3.8 ft^3 vermiculite
30lbs worm castings
125 lbs composted cow manure

Bottom:
3 parts native oil, 1 part sand, 1 part manure, mixed with small rocks from dirt dug out of ground

Very bottom:
6-8" of 3 or 4 inch rocks on the bottom of the hole for drainage

I think im gonna dig 4 big holes to plant my seedlings in. I will probably plant another 4 of my seedlings in 5 gallon containers; once i can rip the males in the holes i'll move the other females from the buckets to the holes. Even with the 4 5 gallon pots I will have 15+ ft^3 for the holes... so about 4 ft^3 of the good soil per hole.

Sound good?

You have a VERY good soil mix. I would delete the Peat. See the Library at the Dirt Doctor's web site- "Peat", and you may not want to use it. I would add seaweed, molasses, greensand & Epsom salt with what you have. Either way, your on the right track.

If you dont completely delete the peat, you should only use about half of what your plan says. I used a stronger peat mix like you and all of my plants got root rot because the soil never dries, set me back a few weeks. Just some food for thought.