My Girl Doesn't Want Me Smoke Weed No More

krayz211

krayz211

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i really have a problem with my girlfriend...weve been together for about 4yrs now...i just dnt understand why she doesnt want me smoking weed no more when im smoking weed since the first time she met me(she actually saw me smoking weed the first time we met,then i court her)first 2yrs was all good she dont mind if i smoke weed..then in 3 yrs we broke up coz she has problem with my mj...we sitll keep in touch(talkin about the problem)since the break up...i know my girl loves me and i really do love her..so what i did was...i told her i'll quit smoking weed if she comes back...now wer back together but im cheating on her i always hide my mj so she wont caught me and all she know i totally quit smoking weed....
my problem is...i really dont want to lie on her..i dont know how will i talk to her about it and say i lie...i dont want to lose her again and i dnt want to stop smoking weed...
can somebody help me of my problem how will i talk to her about her problem of me smoking weed...
we live in the philippines and so you guys know we really have a different culture here.. filipinos see weed as a devil..
pls sumbody help me i dont want to lose her and my mj..
how will i talk to her?
tnx in advance and sorry for my bad english
 
mkay420

mkay420

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if you love her you wont lie to her or yourself and the decision shouldnt really be that hard. weed is the greatest plant in the world but it cant talk to you when you need someone to talk to, it cant hold you when you are having a bad day and it cant give you certain things a woman can give you. on the other hand, if she has a problem with something and always has and you really dont see what the big deal is you may never see eye to eye on it and never be able to move further in your relationship without thinking to yourself "man, i wish i really had a joint right now" so illegal smile is right, you have to look deep within yourself and figure out which one is more important.... i would recommend doing this sober....
 
krayz211

krayz211

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my realationship with my girlfriend is more important...but i just cant see anything wrong in smoking weed...to be honest i dont want to lose both of them...i love my girlfriend so much...can any of you guys teach me on how will i convince her to stay even i smoke weed..sorry guys im really bad in english(even im half black)
 
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Illegal Smile

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I think you have to question the value of a relationship with someone who insists you give up something that important to you.
 
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theycallmeoj

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Ask yourself why she's even asking you to quit. You spend too much $$ on it? Are you a dickhead when you smoke? ETC ETC.

If a person cannot accept you for who you are, then it was never meant to be. It sucks, but you must accept it.

I assume there is some underlying problem here, and there usually is. I'd inspect there before i blame it all on MJ.

So why do you smoke in the first place? Explain to her why you do and it's benefits.

Being honest never hurts. Lying and having to sneek around will bite you in the ass someday. I've seen several friends get handed divorce papers over stupid shit like this. Not worth it at all.

MJ is just like anything else. It can create a problem. The cure is to identify the problem(s) and figure out how to fix the problems 1 step at a time.

Good luck with the lady. If she don't treat you right, you know MJ will!
 
krayz211

krayz211

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theycallmeoj said:
Ask yourself why she's even asking you to quit. You spend too much $$ on it? Are you a dickhead when you smoke? ETC ETC.

If a person cannot accept you for who you are, then it was never meant to be. It sucks, but you must accept it.

I assume there is some underlying problem here, and there usually is. I'd inspect there before i blame it all on MJ.

So why do you smoke in the first place? Explain to her why you do and it's benefits.

Being honest never hurts. Lying and having to sneek around will bite you in the ass someday. I've seen several friends get handed divorce papers over stupid shit like this. Not worth it at all.

MJ is just like anything else. It can create a problem. The cure is to identify the problem(s) and figure out how to fix the problems 1 step at a time.

Good luck with the lady. If she don't treat you right, you know MJ will!
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weed is very cheap here in philippines...only 2500pesos per "1kilo" (about 50$ in your money) and i dont think im dickhead when im high..to tell you i've been in a gang in my teenage yrs but weed helps me quit since i really hook in it(i dont wnt gang bangs anymore)...and yes,i ask her b4 what is the problem y she want me to quit smoking weed her answer was"youre getting addicted too much and my family wont accept you if they knew about it"...and to tell you guys her father is a police officer...and yes i dont want to lie anymore thats y im here asking for advice from you guys
 
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Mindmelted said:
Hit the road...lol
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Yep, get the fuck outta Dodge.

No seriously....
There was a previous post that had some good information, find out what she dislikes about you smokin green.

Are you an ass hole when you smoke it? Spend all your money on it? Get lazy and worthless when you're high? Or just because it's illegal? She has to have a good reason, otherwise she's pulling a power play - control freak thing on you.

If it's a control thing with no valid reason for wanting you to stop, then I'll stick by my first statement... Get the fuck outta Dodge!

There are plenty of other women out there, she ain't the only one.

Becides, how old are you anyway?

If you are young, in your 20's, you're nuts for locking yourself into a relationship with one chick. You should be nailing whatever you can and whatever you want. There is plenty of time later on in life to worry about a monogamous relationship.

Have fun while your young, you can't go back.
 
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theycallmeoj

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Damn, she got issues with her parents. That blows. She needs to grow up and make up her own mind.

I'd be sketchy of staying with a chick who has cop parents and has a big mouth. 1 fight and she opens her trap and your locked up. Screw that.

What is wrong with being addicted to something good? Try telling this to the fitness freaks who dont use steriods.

Sounds to me like the weed is interfering with other things. Maybe she needs to keep her mouth shut to her dad about your smoking. Who needs to know?

Might be time to start lookin for another ganja girl.
 
krayz211

krayz211

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im 24 yrs old now....i know you know that its hard to let go of some one you truly love(i had past relationships but not deep as what ive right now)
sigh nyways thanks guys...i think ill stick on hiding and wait whats gonna happen...
 
erkelsgoo420

erkelsgoo420

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Well if u turn into a dick when ur dry or shit like that it is time to stop. Itherwise its time for a new girl. Lol really though it sounds like u need to step back and reasess ur situation. Decide what means more to u and be happy. Or u could do what I would and say bitch u spent all these years letting me believe u love me for who I am.. And in the meantime u want to change me? Fuck u take me as I come or leave me as I am... Take shit fom no one man. Good luck and remember there are plenty of fish in the see all u need is a sea bearing boat ;)
 
erkelsgoo420

erkelsgoo420

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Oh snap just read the 5-0 parentals and big mouth statement. GTFO GTFO MOVE MOVE MOVE! Seriously. That situation doesn't sound like it will end well
 
krayz211

krayz211

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theycallmeoj said:
Damn, she got issues with her parents. That blows. She needs to grow up and make up her own mind.

I'd be sketchy of staying with a chick who has cop parents and has a big mouth. 1 fight and she opens her trap and your locked up. Screw that.

What is wrong with being addicted to something good? Try telling this to the fitness freaks who dont use steriods.

Sounds to me like the weed is interfering with other things. Maybe she needs to keep her mouth shut to her dad about your smoking. Who needs to know?

Might be time to start lookin for another ganja girl.
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i told you we have a diff culture here...family first b4 anything else...damn how i wish my father did not left me and my mom b4 i probbly not living here....

@erkelsgoo420 i really dont have a problem with my girl except for my weed...she is so nice and maybe thats the reason im afraid of losing her..but with all of the the replies im kinda thinking now...hehe and its not easy to find a ganja girl here in the philippines hahaha
 
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Warmonger

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erkelsgoo420 said:
Oh snap just read the 5-0 parentals and big mouth statement. GTFO GTFO MOVE MOVE MOVE! Seriously. That situation doesn't sound like it will end well
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LOL!

Yeah I have to agree after hearing about her pops being a cop.

If you stay with her and somehow manage to piss her off big time, she can spill her guts to pops and get you in a load of trouble with the authorities. That is if you don't give up the green and continue to smoke it behind her back.

Don't think she would ever do that?? Man, I've seen and heard of too many chicks flipping their wig and doing some real nasty shit to a guy they were dating/married to.

Never underestimate the amount of hell a scorned woman can rain down upon you.

And once again... at 24 years old, you should be out there playing the field. Hell, you might actually come across a chick you like and enjoy spending time with BETTER than this current one. And she might even blaze up with you.

Whatever you decide to do, best of luck.
 
Green Cross

Green Cross

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krayz211 said:
my realationship with my girlfriend is more important...but i just cant see anything wrong in smoking weed...to be honest i dont want to lose both of them...i love my girlfriend so much...can any of you guys teach me on how will i convince her to stay even i smoke weed..sorry guys im really bad in english(even im half black)
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Here's what yo u tell her:

"I smoked weed when you met me"

That's it.

Maybe it's something else, so she's nit picking?

Don't start changing to please her or it will not end with weed. Stand your ground :peace:
 
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