Is she dying ??!!! Please help !!!

I was given this plant about three weeks ago, She was pretty beat up , the tops were cut, I noticed a couple days ago she was covered in webbing, I did research, found out she had the dreaded spider mites!! I made the reccomended mixture of nicotine water and soap, I misted her periodicaly untill i saw no signs of mites. Now I have noticed all her pistols withered, Is she stunned?, Dead!? what are her chances .... please help!

Depends how many spidermites there were. Chances are she will recover.

All i can think of is her growth has been stunted because of the mites. This is pretty common. She will recover and I doubt she will die. The only thing that might happen is she might hermie from too much stress but this depends on how many mites and how long they were on her?

Sounds like you did a good job and spotted them quickly so all should be fine.

Also I just realised the only light I can see in those pictures is a single 4ft long fluorescent?

I can see some buds on her aswell which tells me she is flowering. If thats the only light you have she may be dying because she isnt getting enough light at all. Invest in a decent light and your chances will improve.

definately getting more light i have a socket flouresent on her right now for side lighting too