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plantvision said:

Jeez Dude, have a little sympathy, depression can last a long time in some people.

We are all connected, when you hurt somebody you hurt yourself, likewise when your help somebody your helping yourself.

If you don't have something helpful to say, why say it at all.

Peace to you, and hopefully you can rid yourself of that dark spot.

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I am trying to help this member.

Occasionally tough-love is more effective than the touchy-feely approach.

In other words, sometimes honesty is the most appropriate response.

And the truth is not always easy to hear, or read in this case.

I am providing an honest reaction to the retch-inducing threads consistently offered up by this particular member.

And any dark spots I deal with MYSELF; rather than go on an online sympathy-expedition.

If you don't like it, that is A-OK with me. You can go pound sand.

dear OP,

find a hobby. something you can feel good about at the end of the day.

the end

Johnnyorganic said:

I am trying to help this member.

Occasionally tough-love is more effective than the touchy-feely approach.

In other words, sometimes honesty is the most appropriate response.

And the truth is not always easy to hear, or read in this case.

I am providing an honest reaction to the retch-inducing threads consistently offered up by this particular member.

And any dark spots I deal with MYSELF; rather than go on an online sympathy-expedition.

If you don't like it, that is A-OK with me. You can go pound sand.

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Did not mean to offend you!

plantvision said:

Jeez Dude, have a little sympathy, depression can last a long time in some people.

We are all connected, when you hurt somebody you hurt yourself, likewise when your help somebody your helping yourself.

If you don't have something helpful to say, why say it at all.

Peace to you, and hopefully you can rid yourself of that dark spot.

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having people around you who are willing to "enable" you, does not help.

fdd2blk said:

having people around you who are willing to "enable" you, does not help.

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I agree completely, I don't think this is the best place for Urca to be searching for help.

But before somebody can help another trust must be developed. An initial blast can turn the persons mind off from ever hearing any advise.

I tend to feel quite deeply about people who are going through depression, because I lived it for more than 30 years, I finally got the help I needed.

Life for me is great now, at times I suffer, but I realize it is only my own mind that is causing it, not external forces.

plantvision said:

Did not mean to offend you!

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On the contrary, based on your repsonse; obviously it is I who offended YOU.

And although I did not mean to offend your precious sensibilities, I am not sorry one bit.

You need to try a little harder if you wish to offend me.

Johnnyorganic said:

On the contrary, based on your repsonse; obviously it is I who offended YOU.

And although I did not mean to offend your precious sensibilities, I am not sorry one bit.

You need to try a little harder if you wish to offend me.

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Not sure how to respond to this, but I will always be the one to humble myself.

I will take your comments into consideration.

Peace and happiness to you my friend.

Urca said:

its hard to explain... just so sad. been thinking alot about this thing i had going with a guy, and how he's changed, and how its problably over... then i ask myself why... where is god? fuck im not even religious just looking for some peace. i lost my peace about 4 years ago, went through a really tough bout of depression, lost all my faith except for an intrinsic one in a universal god... there is no afterlife, no heaven or hell, just a huge rush to an abyss of nothingness... and i feel empty and i hurt. guys hurt me, i hurt me, family hurts me... and the one thing you're supposed to be able to go to doesnt even seem real anymore... where do i go? i dont feel god the way i used to, now it seems all made up, and yet i cling to the notion that there is a god, i used to feel it...

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you start a new thread every day about the "adventure" you had the day before. you have friends, you date, you party.


what's the problem again?

ok... if you're tired of my posts or whatever, then dont read them? my problem? That those dates, those friends, those parties, are very rare. Most of the time Im chilling at home, bored out of my mind and lonely. I feel like my life is wasting away. And they arent adventures, its whats on my mind, or something that has happened in the past, or questions I post to the forum to hear what people have to say... And since you guys all obviously read them, dont bitch to me about the quality of the threads I post or the subjects, just avoid the thread. I posted this thread in a bout of depression, which I struggle with.

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Urca said:

ok... if you're tired of my posts or whatever, then dont read them? my problem? That those dates, those friends, those parties, are very rare. Most of the time Im chilling at home, bored out of my mind and lonely. I feel like my life is wasting away. And they arent adventures, its whats on my mind, or something that has happened in the past, or questions I post to the forum to hear what people have to say... And since you guys all obviously read them, dont bitch to me about the quality of the threads I post or the subjects, just avoid the thread. I posted this thread in a bout of depression, which I struggle with.

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Orca, I explained in my very first post in this thread that I intended to avoid your insipid threads from then on.

As such, your attempt to dictate to me where I choose to post is completely wasted.

So I will not be dropping by your thread sniveling about posts in THIS thread.

That was PRICELESS, btw.

Nor I will not be commenting in any of your other threads, including:

The thread about having your nails done in a garage.

Or the follow-up thread about how said garage-nails broke.

Or thread about you going on a date.

Or the thread about the dude you are dating having a daughter.

Or the thread about you having leprosy, or some shit like that.

It goes on and on; ad nauseum.

So fear not. Your tiresome introspective angst will not be interrupted by me.

I will not be polluting your darling, cherished, and copious thread-vomit where I have not previously posted.

Urca said:

ok... if you're tired of my posts or whatever, then dont read them? my problem? That those dates, those friends, those parties, are very rare. Most of the time Im chilling at home, bored out of my mind and lonely. I feel like my life is wasting away. And they arent adventures, its whats on my mind, or something that has happened in the past, or questions I post to the forum to hear what people have to say... And since you guys all obviously read them, dont bitch to me about the quality of the threads I post or the subjects, just avoid the thread. I posted this thread in a bout of depression, which I struggle with.

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i think you are taking this wrong. i have told you numerous times i have NO problem with your posts.

you started a thread about hanging out with the girls all night and getting your nails done.

you started a thread about going on a date.

you started a thread about getting drunk with friends.

you DO have "adventures" on a regular basis. and you share them with us. are we not supossed to comment?

i am in no way "bitching".

you seem really uptight for NO REASON.

Urca said:

its hard to explain... just so sad. been thinking alot about this thing i had going with a guy, and how he's changed, and how its problably over... then i ask myself why... where is god? fuck im not even religious just looking for some peace. i lost my peace about 4 years ago, went through a really tough bout of depression, lost all my faith except for an intrinsic one in a universal god... there is no afterlife, no heaven or hell, just a huge rush to an abyss of nothingness... and i feel empty and i hurt. guys hurt me, i hurt me, family hurts me... and the one thing you're supposed to be able to go to doesnt even seem real anymore... where do i go? i dont feel god the way i used to, now it seems all made up, and yet i cling to the notion that there is a god, i used to feel it...

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You need your own personal Jesus
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Hey Urca,

Do not let anyone on this thread get to you. People who try to make a person they do not know feel horrible on a website are obviously very insecure or unhappy in their own lives.

The best advice I can give you for moments of depression is to keep moving forward. Getting caught up in the past or feeling sad about a boy (or girl) is not healthy.

As for your lack of faith: any person who does not go through a spiritual crisis at least once in his or her life is not a true believer. Being concerned about a higher power (or lack thereof) means you are thinking for yourself and not merely following societal views like a blind sheep.

I hope this message finds you in a better place, but everyone struggles in a unique way. Just keep struggling. Stay strong and keep pushing forth.

Mary Jane is my love said:

Hey Urca,

Do not let anyone on this thread get to you. People who try to make a person they do not know feel horrible on a website are obviously very insecure or unhappy in their own lives.

The best advice I can give you for moments of depression is to keep moving forward. Getting caught up in the past or feeling sad about a boy (or girl) is not healthy.

As for your lack of faith: any person who does not go through a spiritual crisis at least once in his or her life is not a true believer. Being concerned about a higher power (or lack thereof) means you are thinking for yourself and not merely following societal views like a blind sheep.

I hope this message finds you in a better place, but everyone struggles in a unique way. Just keep struggling. Stay strong and keep pushing forth.

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Most members are too polite to tell this girl the truth. Happily, I am not.

I was 'sharing my feelings' about how Orca's incessant self-absorbed musings make me want to upchuck.

If one is so defenseless to the opinion of others, they really should avoid posting online.

Narcissism is boring, Dr. Laura.

Orca?? Its Urca.. or Erica, which ever you prefer.... I am far from self abosrbed, nor am I narcisstic. The great thing about the internet is you never truly know the person which you are talking to... so you dont really know me, you have the right to interpret my posts as you please, to avoid them as you please... I dont care.

for fdd2blk, the majoirty of the post was meant for johnnyorganic... You do have a valid point, I was not mad at you

Urca said:

Orca?? Its Urca.. or Erica, which ever you prefer.... I am far from self abosrbed, nor am I narcisstic. The great thing about the internet is you never truly know the person which you are talking to... so you dont really know me, you have the right to interpret my posts as you please, to avoid them as you please... I dont care.

for fdd2blk, the majoirty of the post was meant for johnnyorganic... You do have a valid point, I was not mad at you

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((((cyber-huggles)))) Don't let the sphincter siphons get you down. You do realize that most of the negative responses are due to jealousy. Some just do it to try and bring people down so they can feel better about themselves. No need to waste time on people like that. Like my mama always says, "The opinions of worthless people are worthless."

Urca said:

Orca?? Its Urca.. or Erica, which ever you prefer.... I am far from self abosrbed, nor am I narcisstic. The great thing about the internet is you never truly know the person which you are talking to... so you dont really know me, you have the right to interpret my posts as you please, to avoid them as you please... I dont care.

for fdd2blk, the majoirty of the post was meant for johnnyorganic... You do have a valid point, I was not mad at you

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Your posts paint a different picture entirely.

And if my opinion has no bearing on you, why is your thong in a wad?

You want sympathy. Fine.

But you should understand that emotional vampires are major buzz-kills, and you will not always get the reaction you are seeking.

You want attention. Again, fine.

You should be kissing my ass because, thanks to me, you have the opportunity to play the victim. And you are playing it like a Stradivarius.

Think about all the warm fuzzies you are receiving as a result of our exchange.

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Johnnyorganic said:

Your posts paint a different picture entirely.

And if my opinion has no bearing on you, why is your thong in a wad?

You want sympathy. Fine.

But you should understand that emotional vampires are major buzz-kills, and you will not always get the reaction you are seeking.

You want attention. Again, fine.

You should be kissing my ass because, thanks to me, you have the opportunity to play the victim. And you are playing it like a Stradivarius.

Think about all the warm fuzzies you are receiving as a result of our exchange.

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Or you could just avoid her threads thus sparing you the painful realization that you are dead inside. The Grinch who stole Christmas on a PCP rampage has a bigger heart.

(kidding)