Mr, dude, I feel your pain. If I were in your shoes, I'd forget the plants and focus all my energy on saving the marriage. Even if just for the kids' sake. Put the pride and wounded ego aside and focus on your family, even if it means grovelling a little bit. I would get some flowers and a card on the way home. If the kids are old enough to be left alone for a couple hours, see if the wife is willing to go out with just you for a quiet dinner. Tell her you are sorry for what happened and that she and the kids mean everything to you. Tell her you will try and help out a little more around the house and tell her specifically the things you will do - maybe she needs help putting the kids to bed or maybe just packing away dishes after dinner. JMO but I'd think putting in an extra hour helping my lady out even if I'm dead tired HAS to be much better than going through a divorce ($$$$) and losing your kids or worse, going to jail. Mr, I've been through a divorce once and although it was amicable, it's still the toughest thing emotionally I've ever been through. Good luck.
