how long is too late when spotin a male?

I have a stressed out 5 month old Afghani about a week and a half into 12/12.

I also have Columbian, Mexican redhairish stuff or something . Bag Seeds. 2.5 months old week into 12/12.

Anyways the Bag Seed stuff was gonna be good real good. I can't seem to clone the Afghani as a matter of fact that stupid weed has been nothing but trouble to my first ever attempt at growing.

The red hair stuff smells great grows great. I'm debating letting the Afghani seed and hope the cross breading makes a more begginer level sativa/ indica blend?

Maybe it's too late already? Is it? They've been together for about a month but the male just started to show.

I took pics today. Best i can get. Lets see if we can figure out whos the male and whos the female? i Know for sure the Afghani is feemale but how abou the other?

you will be able to see the "sac" or "balls" like structure developing while the females will start with the same "spikes" but you will see the white pistil in the middle.

It is too late when the sacs open up and look almost like bananas hanging. Pull them out (garbage) once you notice the "balls" like structure and no white pistil. If a plant has both..either toss it or pick off all the male sacs you can see and hopefully you can prevent it from self pollinating and you will still get some bugs from it.

the Afghani has been nothing but trouble. I'm wondering is I shouldn't seed her with something easy to grow like "red". Smoke he bud and have feminized seeds. Cloning isn't all that easy for me.

How many days does it usually take before a pant starts showing its sex?

Thanks in advance!
-MD