Hey there, you shouldn't have to change who you are to please someone else. If they love you, they love all of you. There is no need to change who you are, but you may have to adapt to other's feelings and they way they do things (ie: living together). If she can't handle you smoking weed, too bad. You smoked it long before she was around right? I am sure there are things she does that bother you, but you don't ask her to change. Be you, if it bothers her that much, don't smoke it around her or tell her to get away when you are, lol. Be you.