Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

Hello RIU,

I am seriously distraught over this. We have been together for 11 years and married for 6. I have always smoked weed around her and even with her uncle. She has only taken a few hits in her life and is not a smoker. I have changed my life for the better since I've met her; she encouraged me to go to college, to quit smoking cigs and to be more financially responsible. We don't have children but do have a cat together. After she lost her job a few months ago, she decided to return to school to get a masters degree and has been working part time in the field she wants to transition to. I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. I suggested that I quit growing and she wants weed out of my life all together, so that is not even an option now.

I feel that I have already given up on old friends, habits and sacrificed much for her. Now I think that this has gone too far and that I have changed enough for her and am prepared to go through with the divorce and move to Cali.

I really need some advice. What you would do?

Thanks.

Wow, give me a sec to soak that in before I comment and just say some stupid shit, brb buddy hang in there.

damn bro...im sorry to hear that...

i wouldnt do it around her anymore. I would still let her know that i do it just not around her..

I would say see ya. But thats just me. she might be having issues with loosing a job starting classes and what ever else. I have a buddy same boat as you married this gal. She knew full well he smoked but now if he smoke she wants a split. he just sneaks around behind her back to do it. I think it's stupid to sneak. what age group you guys in? Oh one other thing. She might be having issues with something else and using the pot to vent. she might not even know she has other issues.

marriage is a two way street. if she cant cope with a habit of yours I am sure there s a habit of hers you dont like. I say introduce some cannabis to her diet and see how she gets.

Female perspective here. SHE WILL NEVER LOVE YOU IF YOU KEEP SMOKING OR GROWING. It'll eventually be the straw that breaks the camels back even if it continues now. Some chicks dig it, (most) some dont. I feel terrible your marriage has continued this long. Since your asking for advice, find a chick who is a stoner and loves you. If it were in my shoes, regretfully, I'd leave, and continue my lifestyle. This advice is ONLY if you DONT HAVE CHILDREN, which you say you dont. As for the cat, I hate them so my suggestion is a shooting range, but that's my own issues to overcome.

You also have to be concerned during divorce court. If (when) it gets ugly, she's the one going to school and you've been the bread winner. Illegal proceeds are the same as legal proceeds in a court of law. She shows the judge how much weed you grow and how much money you make, and guess who gives you a knock on the door a little while later. 5-0! Be *VERY* cautious and NEVER grow at home for probably a year after your divorce. Grow it with a friend at their house or something. Or heed your own advice and move to California or another state of your choosing where its lawful.

Good luck man, I feel for ya, but remember, this is just one chicks point of view. ONLY your opinion matters, follow your heart and look out for yourself.

We're in our mid 30's.

Second piece of advice, this time from a MAN...... William Shakespear:

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned / Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned."

Those are words from his writing in 1697 a.d., "The Mourning Bride"

"...and despite popular belief, Tarzan never said "Me Tarzan You Jane," Bogart never said "Play it again, Sam," and Sergeant Friday never said "Just the facts, Ma'am." It's all true, honest! But Shakespears line holds true even more so today in divorce court!

yea some canna cookies shell be alright lol jesus, but it sucks man, go big on ur grow and make a bundle of $$$ i bet she would like to see the financial benefits it can pose. But if its love and by the way ur distraught, dont make a mistake and mess up a good thing w a women. Stpo smoking and just get beligerant drunk everynight and i bet shell beg for u to smoke again

ya no i left my girl cause i don't need that hoe!!!!!!!

seriously , do you love her, does she let you live your life outside of the weed thing, does she give out pussy-
if you answer no to any of these it's time too go
regardless of the outcome, sorry to hear about your grief

Hang on just a minute ....... has any1 considered how the cat feels about all this ?

In all seriousness mate if you have done all your can, you dont have kids and she's creating negativity in your life that doesent need to be there. well i know what i would do. just make sure u take the cat with you. alternatively slowly but surely addd more cannabutter to her meals and see if that shuts her up

Above all things in my life i need to be happy, because living is merely an existance without happiness,not a life.

good point my wife would rather see me smokin not drinkin.

Who do you love more? Your wife, or your mistress, MJ? Nobody here can make that decision for you. I am sorry for your pain, but man up and make the choice.

siht7419 said:

Hello RIU,

I am seriously distraught over this. We have been together for 11 years and married for 6. I have always smoked weed around her and even with her uncle. She has only taken a few hits in her life and is not a smoker. I have changed my life for the better since I've met her; she encouraged me to go to college, to quit smoking cigs and to be more financially responsible. We don't have children but do have a cat together. After she lost her job a few months ago, she decided to return to school to get a masters degree and has been working part time in the field she wants to transition to. I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. I suggested that I quit growing and she wants weed out of my life all together, so that is not even an option now.

I feel that I have already given up on old friends, habits and sacrificed much for her. Now I think that this has gone too far and that I have changed enough for her and am prepared to go through with the divorce and move to Cali.

I really need some advice. What you would do?

Thanks.

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BROS BE4 HOES.. i was in your situation a few years back. the only thing my wife did smoke back when but not now for 8 years.. it was the $ i spent on it that caused my problems.. so when i go legal to grow that solved that problem , well all it did was put a bandaid on it. when the sticky wore off the band aid the bitching start again, but this time its about i smoke too much.. ITS LIKE THIS BRO, WOMAN IS WOMAN~~~~~BORN TO BITCH 24/7~~~~~~ most of the time they say yes to to bitch about it latter. from what what your saying it sounds like MJ is not the reason why she wants to leave.. sounds like she is just using it as an excuse..THEY DO THAT YOU NO...

GOOD LUCK AND I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST AT WHAT EVER YOU, OR SHE DECIDES....

agreed with dam she should love you for who you are not what you do...but now and days that just isnt the case also mention to her that many other people in the world smoke the ganj

mygirls said:

BROS BE4 HOES.. i was in your situation a few years back. the only thing my wife did smoke back when but not now for 8 years.. it was the $ i spent on it that caused my problems.. so when i go legal to grow that solved that problem , well all it did was put a bandaid on it. when the sticky wore off the band aid the bitching start again, but this time its about i smoke too much.. ITS LIKE THIS BRO, WOMAN IS WOMAN~~~~~BORN TO BITCH 24/7~~~~~~ most of the time they say yes to to bitch about it latter. from what what your saying it sounds like MJ is not the reason why she wants to leave.. sounds like she is just using it as an excuse..THEY DO THAT YOU NO...

GOOD LUCK AND I WISH YOU BOTH THE BEST AT WHAT EVER YOU, OR SHE DECIDES....

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As poor as your English sentence construction may be, I agree with your principles here. Not liking weed in one way wont make her suddenly like it some other way. Its her or the pot, your call!

researchkitty said:

As poor as your English sentence construction may be, I agree with your principles here. Not liking weed in one way wont make her suddenly like it some other way. Its her or the pot, your call!

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em ton lleps os doog, i wonk.....yrros.....LOL

smalltownfella said:

Who do you love more?

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I love her (wife) more, I just am tired of always changing for her. And besides, I never hid the MJ from her and really enjoy smoking. She says that she has always been uncomfortable with it.

Her uncle (the smoker) just got divorced for the same reason. His wife left, actually called the cops and had him arrested, for smoking. My wife just told me that her uncles ex would call her and cry that he would be smoking in the morning (which wake and bake used to be my favorite, so jealous). Is it possible she's playing copycat?

BTW, thank you everyone.

on the other hand you could have the aditude
TWO TEARS IN A BUCKET MOTHER FUCK IT
and find one that wants to do the same things you do.. AND LIKES WHAT YOU LIKE....MJ

im getting ready to start me a thread
MYGIRLS LOOKING FOR A WOMAN THAT LIKE WHAT I LIKE......LOL