The Sex Talk Thread

BygonEra

BygonEra

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mindphuk said:
That's a very narrow-minded value judgement IMO, and in many cases very wrong. It is sad that people think this way, that their 'position in the world' is so lowly yet repeatedly demonstrates that they are an industry in extremely high demand all over the world. IMO, your attitude is the result of western, Christian brainwashing.
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It's not narrow-minded judgement, and it might be wrong, but I started my sentence out with "I feel like". Have you ever known a female porn star or stripper before and after taking a job like that? Because I have, and I've noticed two trends: 1. having a job like that creates judgement and that can seriously hurt your feelings of self worth, and 2. it can totally change your lifestyle. My best friend in middle school, whom I've known for over a decade, is now a stripper and is making great money. She works at one of those totally nude places and gets paid top dollar. Growing up, she had some hard core moral values that don't even exist to her anymore. She has genital herpes, warts, HPV, has been treated for a ton, is addicted to Molly, and is the most insecure person I know. It's just sad. She puts off this very fake confidence and it's so obvious.

I didn't say porn stars were stupid... Like you said, it's in extremely high demand all over the world and you can make a shit ton of money fast. It certainly has it's benefits. But at the same time, I think there's a LOT of emotional baggage that goes along with it and you have to be an INCREDIBLY confident and secure person to not let that get to your head and throw away your morals.

And BTW, there's no "Christian brainwashing" occurring in my head... I'm anything but a Christian, sorry. That said, I do have a pretty western culture upbringing lol.. not that it matters. I don't think people realize how easy it is to destroy a woman's sense of self worth.
 
Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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BygonEra said:
It's not narrow-minded judgement, and it might be wrong, but I started my sentence out with "I feel like". Have you ever known a female porn star or stripper before and after taking a job like that? Because I have, and I've noticed two trends: 1. having a job like that creates judgement and that can seriously hurt your feelings of self worth, and 2. it can totally change your lifestyle. My best friend in middle school, whom I've known for over a decade, is now a stripper and is making great money. She works at one of those totally nude places and gets paid top dollar. Growing up, she had some hard core moral values that don't even exist to her anymore. She has genital herpes, warts, HPV, has been treated for a ton, is addicted to Molly, and is the most insecure person I know. It's just sad. She puts off this very fake confidence and it's so obvious.

I didn't say porn stars were stupid... Like you said, it's in extremely high demand all over the world and you can make a shit ton of money fast. It certainly has it's benefits. But at the same time, I think there's a LOT of emotional baggage that goes along with it and you have to be an INCREDIBLY confident and secure person to not let that get to your head and throw away your morals.

And BTW, there's no "Christian brainwashing" occurring in my head... I'm anything but a Christian, sorry. That said, I do have a pretty western culture upbringing lol.. not that it matters. I don't think people realize how easy it is to destroy a woman's sense of self worth.
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But isn't that making a judgment about a profession based on the girl you used in your example?

Also, are you saying she is this way because of the life job she chose?
 
BygonEra

BygonEra

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Padawanbater2 said:
But isn't that making a judgment about a profession based on the girl you used in your example?

Also, are you saying she is this way because of the life job she chose?
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Sure, it is making a judgement. But it's based not only on her, but some other acquaintances, she was just a good example because I've seen the change first hand and used to be so close to her.

And yes, a lot of the emotional baggage she is dealing with has to do with potential boyfriends turning her down, calling her a slut, and friends parents passing major judgement on her. She changed her friends, she changed her lifestyle. She ruined her relationship with her mother because she didn't approve of her career path... and I think that's had a HUGE effect on her emotionally.
 
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silasraven

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  • Originally Posted by sunni
    yall don't even wanna know what kinda porn I watch

    slightly kinky, corset,boots, kinda thing.





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kpmarine

kpmarine

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BygonEra said:
Sure, it is making a judgement. But it's based not only on her, but some other acquaintances, she was just a good example because I've seen the change first hand and used to be so close to her.

And yes, a lot of the emotional baggage she is dealing with has to do with potential boyfriends turning her down, calling her a slut, and friends parents passing major judgement on her. She changed her friends, she changed her lifestyle. She ruined her relationship with her mother because she didn't approve of her career path... and I think that's had a HUGE effect on her emotionally.
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My aunt stripped for years; bartends at a topless bar now; and never had any of these problems. She now has 2 grown daughters that are holding their own jobs and in healthy relationships. She has no emotional baggage, and doesn't associate with people that judge her based on her career choice. It sounds to me like your friend has problems because of the judgement her family and "friends" give her. She didn't ruin her relationship with her mother; her mother was the one not accepting her own child. How fucked up is that? I honestly can't imagine rejecting my own child based on her being a stripper.
 
sunni

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kpmarine said:
That raises question I have pondered in the past. Is guy on guy as interesting for straight women as lesbian porn is for straight men?
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makes sense to me since they highlight the part that is most interesting to women. though I could be wrong, LOL I don't watch it, but it would make sense it would go both ways
 
sunni

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Flaming Pie said:
So are you gonna tell us Sunni?

All of us are waiting to watch your type of porn whilst thinking of you.
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Hehe for you I will tell! Double pen. Interacial (black man and white female) or gangbang brt yall werent expecting that! Or mandego lol !!!
 
Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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sunni said:
Hehe for you I will tell! Double pen. Interacial (black man and white female) or gangbang brt yall werent expecting that! Or mandego lol !!!
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Read this on Reddit..

Most chicks fantasy is DP

I'm wondering why in your case it's specifically with black dudes?

In your opinion, what is the appeal of DP? (you know me, no judgments, just curious) I read a lot of women feel it's taboo and definitely somewhat 'naughty'. The dirtiest thing they can think of, and to be honest, in my opinion, I would probably find it pretty hot myself to tag team a chick with a friend and treat her the way the act requires!

Is it the whole 'taken advantage' thing that you find appealing?

Also, thanks for your honest reply
 
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