Questioning my Sexuality? Will this change?(Non Identifiable?)

torched

torched

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Right, so.

I'm what what you would call a body connoisseur. I appreciate and am aroused by human beings in general.

Yet when it come down to the deed, I cannot perform. I've chickened out with guys, girls, transgenders etc.

Even people I think are attractive cannot arouse me enough with physical stimulus to get me to actually want to fuck them. I just want to look at them :-(:wall:

It's a real problem. I've looked into all sorts of mediums : astrology, psychology et cetera; so far all they've suggested is that I am either asexual or cannot have sex with someone I'm not emotionally attached to.

Sense I've never wanted to fuck my friends, and never bothered to get to know people that wanted to fuck me, I'm afraid I may actually be in some way shape or form asexual.

So I figure as a last resort I could use some advice from some potheads.
 
UncleBuck

UncleBuck

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this was interesting so i read it to my wife. she asked if you had any sexual desires at all? does anything get you off? guy or girl?
 
torched

torched

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UncleBuck said:
this was interesting so i read it to my wife. she asked if you had any sexual desires at all? does anything get you off? guy or girl?
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no, yeah! I get off on practically everything when I'm alone. I can finish to gay porn, lesbian porn, shemale and even some fetish flicks. I can go into a situation horny as all hell, but as soon as they start touching me, or try to seduce me: i feel something akin to disgust.

There's never any sparks, chemistry, nothing. It's just awkward fumbling and I just get completely put out.
 
UncleBuck

UncleBuck

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torched said:
no, yeah! I get off on practically everything when I'm alone. I can finish to gay porn, lesbian porn, shemale and even some fetish flicks. I can go into a situation horny as all hell, but as soon as they start touching me, or try to seduce me: i feel something akin to disgust.

There's never any sparks, chemistry, nothing. It's just awkward fumbling and I just get completely put out.
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any history of sexual trauma?

how old are you?

(i'm just dictating what my wife is asking)
 
Dislexicmidget2021

Dislexicmidget2021

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You have to get with a chik who is cool as shit and good looking,plus well experienced so she knows what shes doing.Be totaly honest with her if youve ever been laid or not,let her work on you.She will probably give you the experience of a lifetime if you let it happen.It comes down to honesty and how you really are as a person.You dont want youre standards to high in the first place,,,disappointment will be abound if it is so.
 
torched

torched

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Dislexicmidget2021 said:
You have to get with a chik who is cool as shit and good looking,plus well experienced so she knows what shes doing.Be totaly honest with her if youve ever been laid or not,let her work on you.She will probably give you the experience of a lifetime if you let it happen.It comes down to honesty and how you really are as a person.You dont want youre standards to high in the first place,,,disappointment will be abound if it is so.
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I only know cool chicks. Plus, I happen to be a chick.
I have weird standards that are sometimes high. Like you have to have thick eyebrows and a big nose idk I'm odd.
I've been with people before, just never enjoyed it and never came or even wanted to finish it.
 
UncleBuck

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torched said:
I used to sexually abuse my peers when I was like 5-7, but that's about it. I'm 17, three months from 18.
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my wife says that if you were sexually abusing your peers at that age, there is pretty much no other explanation besides you having been sexually abused at an even earlier age.

sexual exploration with consenting same age peers without prior sexual abuse is possible though (and relatively normative).

so please clarify, were you sexually abusing them, or sexually exploring (mutually)?
 
Krondizzel

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torched said:
I only know cool chicks. Plus, I happen to be a chick.
I have weird standards that are sometimes high. Like you have to have thick eyebrows and a big nose idk I'm odd.
I've been with people before, just never enjoyed it and never came or even wanted to finish it.
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Bock bock bock bock
 
Flaming Pie

Flaming Pie

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You may be over thinking things. It is easy to zone out to visual stimuli. Interacting with another person can make you nervous and cause you to not be able to keep an erection.

Takes some people a long time to be comfortable enough to get it on. It's all in your head.
 
torched

torched

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UncleBuck said:
my wife says that if you were sexually abusing your peers at that age, there is pretty much no other explanation besides you having been sexually abused at an even earlier age.

sexual exploration with consenting same age peers without prior sexual abuse is possible though (and relatively normative).

so please clarify, were you sexually abusing them, or sexually exploring (mutually)?
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It was exploration. I mean, I didn't rape them. And they never said no but I always initiated and about 1/3 of them had really no idea what I was doing, but the rest it was give and take.
 
Flaming Pie

Flaming Pie

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Oh lordy, you're a chick with this prob? Dang.. that makes the problem more complicated.

Generally once you get a man going, there is no stopping.

A woman can get turned off at any moment.
 
UncleBuck

UncleBuck

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torched said:
It was exploration. I mean, I didn't rape them. And they never said no but I always initiated and about 1/3 of them had really no idea what I was doing, but the rest it was give and take.
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that's not mutual exploration. approximately how many kids are we talking about here?
 
Flaming Pie

Flaming Pie

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5-7 years old is a bit young for sexual exploration. You must have been introduced to something sexual to know how to pursue it.
 
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