just hit by the searing blade of a bad breakup.

The turning point was when you gave her that ride... bitches are sneaky and judge you based off your decisions. That was a mental check. First hint of her straying I'd cut a chick loose.

You want a ride or die chick. Someone you feel comfortable telling your deepest darkest secrets too. Find her marry it... until then don't get emotionally tied up.

Oh and it will go away quick once you started talking to girls that you enjoy. Listen to some Maroon 5 and cry it out.

Last thing get your dinky stinky because until then you'll be thinking about who she's fucking.

Good luck! At least you know got some girls who'll never leave you

CannaCole said:

Last thing get your dinky stinky

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This is always solid advice.

Pinworm said:

This is always solid advice.

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I say twinkie stinkie (because its cream filled) but it is solid advice...and take chars advice to use the dry time to work on yourself be carfeul not to just jump into another relationship though just cause you want to get some...and dont go cold thats where Im at right now... in the cold Im thoroughly convinced that all women have cold black hearts and I can currently feel no affection for them I try, but just cant, it frightens me. dont let that happen to you feel while you can..

sex is the easy part imho...getting along can be a bitch... youre better off with someone who wont stray away.

you seem like a good person by giving that last ride...someone is going to appreciate that kind of thing and embrace it...not abuse it.

charface said:

I used those dry times to work on myself. Sure they hurt and I don't wish that pain on anyone.
However thanks to those trying times I can almost get the tip in my mouth.
Get better man.

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Charface you are one of a kind for sure LOL

poplars said:

thanks everyone I was not expecting all the response, I am definitely taking time to myself to get better, and am over all being positive about this and to her, this is just a lot to process. greatly appreciate all the responses

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If all else fails, return to this thread for comic relief. You know it will go downhill from here.

Recently finished a 3 year long relationship moved countries and shit to one day come to find im too much of a weed nerd for her. ANd i dont mean weed nerd cause im contantly getting stoned all the time and being a lethargic stoner, just all the growing and breeding talk. Kinda baffled me, but i didnt let it get to me too much. Just forget about it man smoke some good weed and keep yourself busy even if its something pointless, it will help your mind process it. Plus i really think weed helps you forget bad spells in your life, so have a lot of bong sessions.
Im still hoping for a date with Bigsby''s niece...

ChingOwn said:

..... Im thoroughly convinced that all women have cold black hearts ..

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Not all of us Ching

Hookabelly said:

Not all of us Ching

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It comes out when you're pregnant.

CannaCole said:

It comes out when you're pregnant.

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Lol

ChingOwn said:

be carfeul not to just jump into another relationship though just cause you want to get some...and dont go cold thats where Im at right now... in the cold Im thoroughly convinced that all women have cold black hearts and I can currently feel no affection for them I try, but just cant, it frightens me. dont let that happen to you feel while you can..

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I'll say it again, a healthy period of abstinence, reflection, a surfing trip to El Salvador, your first (or a new) tattoo. They can all do ya good. After a little time, when you finally break back IN to romance (or at least you feel like your heart is "healthy enough for sexual activity" and not cold and shattered), you'll be banging a 22 year old on top of a pool table after closing down the bar.

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I did all of those things mentioned above. And met my current sweetie a few months later......awwww....

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I'll say it again, a healthy period of abstinence, reflection, a surfing trip to El Salvador, your first (or a new) tattoo. They can all do ya good. After a little time, when you finally break back IN to romance (or at least you feel like your heart is "healthy enough for sexual activity" and not cold and shattered), you'll be banging a 22 year old on top of a pool table after closing down the bar.

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I did all of those things mentioned above. And met my current sweetie a few months later......awwww....

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D'awwww that's fucking cool.

Vampire Vaginas all of them sucking away my precious knuckle children

Pinworm said:

D'awwww that's fucking cool.

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Not bad for a mid-40's, post divorce, English teacher chick with 6 cats and a kid, huh!

Total Breakup/Bucket List kind of stuff.

To OP, I'm not saying that everything is roses now, but life ebbs and flows. You will be ok. You will be better than ok, you will be great!

1 year 3 months aint shit lol ...thats like nothing in ur life man move one quite whining

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Dannoo93 said:

1 year 3 months aint shit lol ...thats like nothing in ur life man move one quite whining

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yup 1st one was 5 years had a baby she left me for a woman, not sure if that was my fault or not. next was another 5 years never asked her to pay a bill and put her through college monetary wise (at the time we are about the same age late 20's) as soon as she graduated and got a job...well I had to go out of town for work for a weekend when I came back everything in the house was gone.. thats pretty much the last decade of my life I would much rather one of those have been a year and 3 months and done.

Im 3 years in to my relationship in September. We started dating a month after graduation im not even 21 yet man...you could spend 10 years and really u probablt still got a bit of life still ahead of you man think of it our first 20 years we are children pretty much still and fuck this seems like 20 years took for ever. Im 21 in July and these last 3 years have flown by being I work a job same thing ever fucking day production shit ...live life to the fullest and do what ever you want to make this shit last and not be boring man

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It's all about the upgrade.
Just make sure your next woman is better.

Yeah thats shitty but if it goes south after 1 year, shit just wasn't meant to be. Use this new freedom to do something you've always wanted to do and time will take care of the rest.