I Need Advice About A Threesome?

dude, I FINALLY go another message from him. "how are you doing."

lol, jesus, had me all worried over nothing. At this rate, I won't have to deal with him in person for another few months.

Okay....I still don't really kow what he wants.

He told me he's getting married, I assume to the girl he's messaging me from...and he wants to know if he could get together with me and my family (he used to spend a LOT of time around my family). Then he asked me if I still smoke bud. And then he asked me if I remember this movie. He described a movie that I'm pretty sure he saw with me, because I own a burned copy of it, and I've honestly never heard of it anywhere else. I don't know if he really doesn't remember the movie and just happens to be asking ME about it...or if he remembers and he knows.

God, that's something I hated about him. He'd ask me questions he already knew the answer to, like he was trying to catch me lying, constantly. I mean, it didn't matter because I didn't lie to him, but it just irked me....

So why is he getting in touch with me because he's getting married. I mean, I've heard of people doing it, so I know it happens, but why?

He wants to fuck maybe

No fucking way. He wouldn't have told me he's getting married then, because everyone knows how I am. I not down with being "the other woman"

Well Im saying what else do you think he wants...People that get married have bachelor parties, maybe he is trying to see you 1 last time...I dunno

Wikidbchofthewst said:

Okay....I still don't really kow what he wants.

He told me he's getting married, I assume to the girl he's messaging me from...and he wants to know if he could get together with me and my family (he used to spend a LOT of time around my family). Then he asked me if I still smoke bud. And then he asked me if I remember this movie. He described a movie that I'm pretty sure he saw with me, because I own a burned copy of it, and I've honestly never heard of it anywhere else. I don't know if he really doesn't remember the movie and just happens to be asking ME about it...or if he remembers and he knows.

God, that's something I hated about him. He'd ask me questions he already knew the answer to, like he was trying to catch me lying, constantly. I mean, it didn't matter because I didn't lie to him, but it just irked me....

So why is he getting in touch with me because he's getting married. I mean, I've heard of people doing it, so I know it happens, but why?

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You could be right regarding the contacting you because he is getting married. Who knows what his real motivation is. I just hate it when people aren't clear about their "agenda".

It is very obvious that you are way too good for him. You need to look forward and not back. Tell him you wish he the best with his relationship and marriage to his new girl and reconnecting with your family is not the best idea for either of you or his current relationship.

From what I know of you so far through this site, you are very intelligent, have a lot of common sense, you are wickedly awesome and you've been through some tough times and quite frankly you deserve much more than what this guy has to offer - no matter how good he was in the sex department.

It's not uncommon to visit your past life prior to making a major committment in you next.

Just my thoughts...

Wikidbchofthewst said:

Okay....I still don't really kow what he wants.

He told me he's getting married, I assume to the girl he's messaging me from...and he wants to know if he could get together with me and my family (he used to spend a LOT of time around my family). Then he asked me if I still smoke bud. And then he asked me if I remember this movie. He described a movie that I'm pretty sure he saw with me, because I own a burned copy of it, and I've honestly never heard of it anywhere else. I don't know if he really doesn't remember the movie and just happens to be asking ME about it...or if he remembers and he knows.

God, that's something I hated about him. He'd ask me questions he already knew the answer to, like he was trying to catch me lying, constantly. I mean, it didn't matter because I didn't lie to him, but it just irked me....

So why is he getting in touch with me because he's getting married. I mean, I've heard of people doing it, so I know it happens, but why?

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sorry, I've been away again....... is this the dude from the threesome? well, the almost threesome?

or he wishes it was YOU that he is marrying, maybe its his way of trying to make you jealous..I dunno

ooooo sorry, read the post above me, it can't be the same dude.... just an ex i take it.

See, up until he told me he was getting married, I was with you Zeke, I just thought he wanted to fuck, which MAYBE could have worked out for both of us...lol, probably not, but I can joke.

As for making me jealous...he used to do shit to try to make me jealous, and I never really wanted to play that game. So I don't see why he would want to try those same old games NOW.

The part that really threw me is him asking to get together with me and my family. He offered to take us all out on his dime....

And no, this isn't the same guy from the threesome, this is something older

thewood66 said:

You could be right regarding the contacting you because he is getting married. Who knows what his real motivation is. I just hate it when people aren't clear about their "agenda".

It is very obvious that you are way too good for him. You need to look forward and not back. Tell him you wish he the best with his relationship and marriage to his new girl and reconnecting with your family is not the best idea for either of you or his current relationship.

From what I know of you so far through this site, you are very intelligent, have a lot of common sense, you are wickedly awesome and you've been through some tough times and quite frankly you deserve much more than what this guy has to offer - no matter how good he was in the sex department.

It's not uncommon to visit your past life prior to making a major committment in you next.

Just my thoughts...

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how do you know whether or not being friends with him is a good idea? seems like she should make that decision. (no offense, srsly)

Eek, getting in the middle of a an on-again-off-again relationship can be a messy thing indeed. Let's just say you have the threesome and it all goes fine, then ... two months down the road when their fighting, one of 'em might bring you up or use you as a weapon somehow.

I'd say keep them as friends, there's nothing wrong with a little flirting (fuck, it's fun!) and go with your gut feeling.

Shook said:

how do you know whether or not being friends with him is a good idea? seems like she should make that decision. (no offense, srsly)

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No offense taken...

Wikid asked for some opinions and I gave mine. I don't believe I said anything pertaining to her not ever being friends with the guy. I just don't feel right now is the best time.

It doesn't make a lot of sense that he is making plans to marry his new girlfriend and all of a sudden he wants to start spending time with the family of his Ex. Does that make any sense to you?

Also based on what Wikid told us, the ex boyfriend was plaqued with many issues involving head games, deception and drug problems. Definitely not the basis for a healthy relationship. Relationships aren't about playing with the head of the person you love even if the sex is really good - no pun intended... There are people out there that are good in bed and will also respect you.

Once again, this is just my opinion and Wikid will make whatever decision she will make. She is a friend on this board and I hope she makes the decision that is the best for her. Based on what I read from her, it appears her decision is a "no brainer".

Does that answer your question?

OMG, lol, I just got another message from him, and he was telling me where he lives now and yada yada yada, and then he asks if we could hang out. He said that he has the 9th-11th of May off work and he wants to get together. Apparently he moved quite a ways away, and he would have to make the trip here. It's far enough that I'm sure he'll have to stay the night (or more if he plans on staying longer...) somewhere out here. I just wonder where he plans on staying...

AND, it kinda threw me when he told me those dates, the 9th thru the 11th....because my birthday is on May 10th. He didn't say anything, but it's kinda wierd that he would pick those dates....am I reading to much into that? When I'm high I tend to get pretty out there with my thoughts...

I saw harold and kumar on the night it came out! so fun, i got smashed at the theatre and watched it

Wikidbchofthewst said:

OMG, lol, I just got another message from him, and he was telling me where he lives now and yada yada yada, and then he asks if we could hang out. He said that he has the 9th-11th of May off work and he wants to get together. Apparently he moved quite a ways away, and he would have to make the trip here. It's far enough that I'm sure he'll have to stay the night (or more if he plans on staying longer...) somewhere out here. I just wonder where he plans on staying...

AND, it kinda threw me when he told me those dates, the 9th thru the 11th....because my birthday is on May 10th. He didn't say anything, but it's kinda wierd that he would pick those dates....am I reading to much into that? When I'm high I tend to get pretty out there with my thoughts...

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I think you should just go with the old plan and meet at Cali's house....wait im CALI....score..

Keep it strickly friends tell them bolth no separetly(spelling)and avoid it all together..If you like the woman then wait till thier relationship is over and persue. or vice versa

CALIGROWN said:

I think you should just go with the old plan and meet at Cali's house....wait im CALI....score..

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You know what's coming...

*tackles CALI to the ground and cops a feel*

Well, in one message he did ask me if I could get bud around here of if he would need to bring some...and everyone knows that they only smoke the dankest at CALI's house....

God, don't I wish? Then I could use CALI as a buffer between me and him.

lol, but seriously, it would never happen. He never likes when I give attention to any male besides him. And we all know I couldn't keep my hands off CALI.

Ok, so I asked him straight out what's up with him contacting me now. He responded and totally avoided the question, so I responded by reposting the same question and telling him I don't want him to tell/ask me anything else until he answers my question.

So he told me about how bad things got for him and that he finally got his shit together, and one day he was thinking of me, and decided to look me up, and there I was...

I'm happy for him getting his shit together, cuz I know it's not easy, but I wish he could have just left me out of his life. I mean, some friends you can not see in YEARS, and when you see them again, it's like you pick up right where you left off. But in my experience that's only really GOOD friends, like REAL friends. I've seen other people who I called friends after years of not seeing them -- and it'll be awkward and wierd and all you can do is wonder what the fuck happened to the person you used to know.

The way i figure it, if you didnt sleep with me before, you probably wouldnt now. Chicks are wierd like that. Truthfully, i never really enjoyed sleeping with a girl more than once or twice anyways.
They get spoiled after that and it becomes to much work. I have to change my voice message to the "sprint message 1234 , this number is no longer in service". Way too much work.