i hate that f*****g B****

april said:

Blame urself and choice in women lol Sorry but i giggle when guys complain about the bitches THEY CHOOSE to be with or around

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Yes and no, there are parasites on both sides of the sexes. sometimes someone can really manipulate you and keep you under their thumb, or crush your soul.

malignant said:

Yes and no, there are parasites on both sides of the sexes. sometimes someone can really manipulate you and keep you under their thumb, or crush your soul.

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This is very true, and when u realize what's going on, u feel like a fool

D.B.Doober said:

Remember - when you see a woman on the street, no matter how hot she is, no matter how good in bed she is, how great of an ass she has...some guy is SICK and TIRED of her bullshit.

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Pure brilliance, it goes both ways, and this should be on a t shirt, or painted on the side of a bus.

april said:

This is very true, and when u realize what's going on, u feel like a fool

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The story of my life, I'm always realizing I'm a complete utter fool when it comes to love, and it always ends badly. I'm suffocating now, walls are always closing in, and cant escape the hell I've put myself in this time.

D.B.Doober said:

oh most definitely, it applies to both sexes.
I think that the reason we pick partners based on looks is that it's in our evolutionary history...it's almost part of our DNA...we seek out the fittest, most viral, most attractive. The problem with that is what we have today - divorce rates of like 75%. The people who pick the attractive but non-compatible partner end up getting sick of putting up with the person just for sex and leave. If they had chosen the right partner they would have been fine.
What really sucks is falling in love...when the person becomes so much a part of you that you're either with them all the time or thinking about them. When those relationships end it is devastating.
idk what I'm saying i just smoked my own weed

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Do your research. Divorce rates are NOT 75 percent. It's actually still around 50, maybe less if I recall. I think you're thinking or something else. I know acctual marriage rates are down. Mostly because we all watched adults around us getting divorces a lot, so it makes us think twice before getting married.

malignant said:

The story of my life, I'm always realizing I'm a complete utter fool when it comes to love, and it always ends badly. I'm suffocating now, walls are always closing in, and cant escape the hell I've put myself in this time.

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LOL damn, we must be living very similar lifes But i only blame myself, the choices i made have put me where i am today, but i don't believe in mistakes, i prefer to learn from my choices/experiences and grow from them. Learning how to truly forgive would make me the better person, but i question who is worthy of such grand actions

april said:

LOL damn, we must be living very similar lifes But i only blame myself, the choices i made have put me where i am today, but i don't believe in mistakes, i prefer to learn from my choices/experiences and grow from them. Learning how to truly forgive would make me the better person, but i question who is worthy of such grand actions

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...Everyone? ... cn

PeyoteReligion said:

Do your research. Divorce rates are NOT 75 percent. It's actually still around 50, maybe less if I recall. I think you're thinking or something else. I know acctual marriage rates are down. Mostly because we all watched adults around us getting divorces a lot, so it makes us think twice before getting married.

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I promised myself at a very young age i would only marry one man , then my father passed away, my mother was destroyed, she said she would never marrry again. Well her best friend passed away 7 yrs ago from a brain aneurysm, my mother and "BOB" lol (best friends husband) became very close, a year and a half later they were engaged, to this day my mother is utterly in love. Seeing all this happen has made me wait, until i find the perfect man to marry, i'm the type to dedicate my heart and soul to one man. I don't agree with divorce, too many people give up and bail on each other, my grandparents have been together 65 years, and he still smiles whenever she walks in the room. Maybe i'm a hopeful romantic, i have hope and faith that true love is real, either way people need to fight for love, not hump the first person they find sexy and marry for money and looks

Corbat420 said:

i hope she gets hit by a car on her way to work. major accident. dies on the scene.

seriously. i HATE her dumb ass.

just had to tell ya.... anyone else have a mean hate on for some b****?

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Yes, right here. especially little sawed off bitches with a higher body weight than IQ... oh wait... I mean an IQ lower than, umm... yea, fuck bitches!!

cannabineer said:

...Everyone? ... cn

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Not always it's pretty hard to forgive someone who does not show remorse If the actions they did were repeated knowing how much pain in would cause u, should u forgive them? I know i could have walked away but putting one foot in front of the other seemed impossible then, damn crawling seemed like running a marathon
LOL ok bong time, enough self pitty lol

My "forgive&forget" policy:
Always forgive.
Never forget. cn

cannabineer said:

My "forgive&forget" policy:
Always forgive.
Never forget. cn

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But this is what confuses me, how can i forgive and not forget, meaning not replay these events in my mind and get angry ??? I've always struggled with this, and had to push people I loved from my life I hate playing things over in my mind and feelings those feelings again !!!! Any suggestions?? I've done a ton of reading on this, and still feel like i have no solution

It probably comes down to one's personality. I don't consider forgetting to be forgiving ... that would be too easy; no real growth involved. Forgiving something remembered is harder, to be sure ... but the payoff comes in getting to the point where the memory of the person who done you wrong no longer has the power to get you upset or angry. Anger has many habit-like qualities imo ... very much sustained effort was needed to break the habit, but it got easier&better over time (speaking of my experiences). cn

cannabineer said:

It probably comes down to one's personality. I don't consider forgetting to be forgiving ... that would be too easy; no real growth involved. Forgiving something remembered is harder, to be sure ... but the payoff comes in getting to the point where the memory of the person who done you wrong no longer has the power to get you upset or angry. Anger has many habit-like qualities imo ... very much sustained effort was needed to break the habit, but it got easier&better over time (speaking of my experiences). cn

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So maybe i should learn to forget about the ones who don"t matter and forgive those who do? lol but now i question who is worthy lmfao
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There are people I continue to love and care for, acting like nothing happened between us because I tell myself if they were real people, their own conviction will be enough. I hate being bitter, I feel like a bad person, even if it was they who hurt me. I forgive them, but I never forget. Just keep it inside and hope one day I will forget the things they did. Someone else will judge them. I don't want to be an angry person ever again.

April, bitterness drives you crazy, and if you don't forgive, you'll never get over the wrong they have done you. It will play on your mind and make you feel bad if you want to look at it from a less 'sympathy for the bad guy' perspective.

There are people in this thread who need a hug. I'm holding my arms out or all of you

april said:

So maybe i should learn to forget about the ones who don"t matter and forgive those who do? lol but now i question who is worthy lmfao
See right back where i started

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Imo you never know who will matter, how, when. If it were my story, I'd tiptoe with great care around the worthiness question, because that sort of automatically presumes that I'm the wiser party. I'm aware of the paradox there ... and I don't have a one-size-fits-all answer, but when in doubt, I'll assign the benefit of the doubt. Not much downside there. cn

Dude i've got 99 problems.

LMAO. Good read.

PeyoteReligion said:

Do your research. Divorce rates are NOT 75 percent. It's actually still around 50, maybe less if I recall. I think you're thinking or something else. I know acctual marriage rates are down. Mostly because we all watched adults around us getting divorces a lot, so it makes us think twice before getting married.

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in the military its about 75%

april said:

LOL damn, we must be living very similar lifes But i only blame myself, the choices i made have put me where i am today, but i don't believe in mistakes, i prefer to learn from my choices/experiences and grow from them. Learning how to truly forgive would make me the better person, but i question who is worthy of such grand actions

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it is my fault, i dont have enough of a backbone to get out, but im still pretty messed up from iraq, its hard for me to interact with anoyone once there is the slightest amount of stress or friction.