EarthlyPassions
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So, after four years of being out of the closet, I finally manage to find another chick who's seeking too.
Problems: She's a bar-head, and while I find her absolutely enchanting when she's sober, she's intolerable when she's bar-ed out. She becomes very confrontational, whiny, and moochy.
She's bi. This wouldn't be a problem, but she is still in contact with a guy she was actively interested in when I first met her.
She likes public displays of affection, like passionate kissing, whereas I'm very conservative.
Despite all of these things, I still asked her out. She's very attractive, and when she's sober she's a great conversationalist, very elegant and well-kept. (My ideal girlfriend.) She had informed me that she had stopped taking bars and I jumped on the opprotunity to take her out. Since she didn't have much money, I treated her to dinner and a movie, and bought an ounce to share some with her. It was my first date, so I'm not sure whether ordering multiples of the most expensive drinks on the menu is a foul. But texting the dude that she was into before dating me during the entire movie, seems rude, especially since I paid for her to see it. Not only that, but she tried to convince me to go and pick the dude up after the movie, because he supposedly got kicked out of his house. I refused, unless the dude was willing to pay me gas money. After the movie, we crashed at a friends' house, and got high.
Despite the fact that I was sore at her, when she made advances, I was rather, um, earnest in responce. We were sleeping together in a spare bed, in the dark, privacy, ideal conditions for physical intimacy, in my mind. Heavy petting is really all it amounted to, but being a first time, it was a big deal for me.
Later my friend informed me that he had been given bars by her, and saw her take some herself. That explains a lot of her behavior, but since she had told me she had quit...
The next morning, she insisted we go to breakfast, ordered plenty of food and then walked away from the counter, leaving me to pay.
So here's the question, do I confront her about her behavior and her dishonesty about the bars, and then try to patch things up? Or do I just drop her, with or without telling her why? She's inclined to throw a hissy fit if I tell her why, but since she did happen to favor me sexually that night, I feel I owe her an explanation.
Well? What do you guys think? I'd go to other people for the advice, but I want to hear adult opinions, from people who've had plenty of dating relationships.
Problems: She's a bar-head, and while I find her absolutely enchanting when she's sober, she's intolerable when she's bar-ed out. She becomes very confrontational, whiny, and moochy.
She's bi. This wouldn't be a problem, but she is still in contact with a guy she was actively interested in when I first met her.
She likes public displays of affection, like passionate kissing, whereas I'm very conservative.
Despite all of these things, I still asked her out. She's very attractive, and when she's sober she's a great conversationalist, very elegant and well-kept. (My ideal girlfriend.) She had informed me that she had stopped taking bars and I jumped on the opprotunity to take her out. Since she didn't have much money, I treated her to dinner and a movie, and bought an ounce to share some with her. It was my first date, so I'm not sure whether ordering multiples of the most expensive drinks on the menu is a foul. But texting the dude that she was into before dating me during the entire movie, seems rude, especially since I paid for her to see it. Not only that, but she tried to convince me to go and pick the dude up after the movie, because he supposedly got kicked out of his house. I refused, unless the dude was willing to pay me gas money. After the movie, we crashed at a friends' house, and got high.
Despite the fact that I was sore at her, when she made advances, I was rather, um, earnest in responce. We were sleeping together in a spare bed, in the dark, privacy, ideal conditions for physical intimacy, in my mind. Heavy petting is really all it amounted to, but being a first time, it was a big deal for me.
Later my friend informed me that he had been given bars by her, and saw her take some herself. That explains a lot of her behavior, but since she had told me she had quit...
The next morning, she insisted we go to breakfast, ordered plenty of food and then walked away from the counter, leaving me to pay.
So here's the question, do I confront her about her behavior and her dishonesty about the bars, and then try to patch things up? Or do I just drop her, with or without telling her why? She's inclined to throw a hissy fit if I tell her why, but since she did happen to favor me sexually that night, I feel I owe her an explanation.
Well? What do you guys think? I'd go to other people for the advice, but I want to hear adult opinions, from people who've had plenty of dating relationships.
