Dealing with Kids that aren't yours.

sunni said:

im not saying go in an act high and mighty, im saying he isnt their friend,
if that worked for you im glad
but anytime any step parent came around me acting like "my friend" i disrespected them..they arent my fucking friend...if i wanted a new goddamn friend i sure as fuck wouldnt pick them either.

theres a different between mutual respect , and being friends.

there are boundaries...proper adult to teenager dont try and cross that by being their "friend" we all know you arent actually

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sunni said:

ill give you an honest answer. stop smoking pot with your step kids. first and foremost you chose to be with someone who had children, while they are not your children you have now taken on responsibilities of being a semi-parent. youre not their friends, their buddy youre a goddamn role model and authority figure , but youre not acting like one, so youre not getting any respect they dont give a shit about you, what youre issue with them is or anything because youre acting like a 16 year old right on with them.

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ricky1lung said:

It's all about the choices you make. Sorry man, but after reading your threads and seeing your antics I believe You could put yourself in better situations and be far happier yourself. If you want to toss out back handed memes because you think you're clever, expect them back in kind. I'm downing the actions of an individual who clearly acts in ways that are less than respectable imo. I don't care where you work, but someone flipping burgers shouldn't be telling other people they've never done anything in their lives. Buy a house completely outright for your family on your 30th birthday then comeback and talk about what it is to make it. I can't respect someone who tears families apart and thinks it's funny to vandalize property and then complain over ten bucks.

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ricky1lung said:

It's all about the choices you make. Sorry man, but after reading your threads and seeing your antics I believe You could put yourself in better situations and be far happier yourself. If you want to toss out back handed memes because you think you're clever, expect them back in kind. I'm downing the actions of an individual who clearly acts in ways that are less than respectable imo. I don't care where you work, but someone flipping burgers shouldn't be telling other people they've never done anything in their lives. Buy a house completely outright for your family on your 30th birthday then comeback and talk about what it is to make it. I can't respect someone who tears families apart and thinks it's funny to vandalize property and then complain over ten bucks.

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sunni said:

ill give you an honest answer.

stop smoking pot with your step kids.

first and foremost you chose to be with someone who had children, while they are not your children you have now taken on responsibilities of being a semi-parent.
youre not their friends, their buddy youre a goddamn role model and authority figure , but youre not acting like one, so youre not getting any respect
they dont give a shit about you, what youre issue with them is or anything because youre acting like a 16 year old right on with them.

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ricky1lung said:

It's all about the choices you make.
Sorry man, but after reading your threads and seeing your antics I believe
You could put yourself in better situations and be far happier yourself.

If you want to toss out back handed memes because you think you're clever, expect them back in kind.

I'm downing the actions of an individual who clearly acts in ways that are less than respectable imo. I don't care where you work, but someone flipping burgers shouldn't be telling other people they've never done anything in their lives.

Buy a house completely outright for your family on your 30th birthday then comeback and talk about what it is to make it.

I can't respect someone who tears families apart and thinks it's funny to vandalize property and then complain over ten bucks.

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a mongo frog said:

Your right about the no smoking pot with the step kids, but your way off with rest of your comments. Being the kids friends is what I did 10 years ago and gaining some trust is also very important. Its a new situation for everybody involved, and unless your smack dab In the situation you really don't know how to act at first. Being an authority figure and a role model with your chest bumped out is not the right way. Playing Daddy is a car wreck waiting to happen. Its all about respect for people, and the simple saying treat people how you want to be treated is how you have to play those cards when their dealt to you.

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mr sunshine said:

As a step parent you should never become a child's friend. That doesn't mean you can't be friendly. Never smoke weed with your kid.. I smoke, my dad smokes. I give him ounces when I got it but I will never smoke with him..He might be willing to smoke with me. But I'm not cool with that at all. when I have kids I won't smoke with them either. It's classless and irresponsible. Imo.

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mr sunshine said:

I smoke, my dad smokes. I give him ounces when I got it but I will never smoke with him..He might be willing to smoke with me. But I'm not cool with that at all.

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abe supercro said:

whaaathefuck, ................you're both adults.

you're saying you won't celebrate w/ an occasional joint with your pops?

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Stoney McFried said:

I'm on a different end of the spectrum here...I have no problem if the kid is an adult if you smoke with them. There is no reason to be ashamed of the fact that you enjoy cannabis...it's not a bad thing or even a moral issue. As for becoming friends with kids, I'm glad to say that I and my oldest became friends after going through the requisite period of butting heads because I was trying to control her. When I realized the whole reason for me getting on her case for certain behaviors was actually a product of me trying to live up to what I'd been told a parent SHOULD be and the issues I SHOULD be concerned about instead of really examining what I felt was truly important, stress levels went down all around. She calls me by my first name, for example, and so many parents act all shocked, but who really gives a shit? We have a snarky rapport; people again act shocked. Who gives a shit? This is my kid, and she's fricken stubborn like me, and I will deliberately do the opposite of what someone tells me to do if I think they're trying to control me. The harder they try, the harder I fight. She's exactly the same way.

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oldtimer54 said:

I once knew a 350lb waitressarus that worked at the Waffle house. When she talked about Girl scout Cookies she wasn't referring to weed.
That's about all the experience I have with women from waffle house.
Good luck !

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vro said:

This is why young women are better. Once a woman is past her formative years there is no changing her. On top of thay sje already had kids? Leave her and never talk to her again, why would you take care of someone elses kids she made that shit decision this is why women shouldnt and were not able to chose who they wanted to have kidds with throughout history. They make terrible decisions. Women are supposed to take care of men, men arent supposed to take care of women.

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TripleMindedGee5150 said:

One thing is for sure....he is my child. Shit if I ever need to bury a body?

Hahaha Just playin. My wife used to be upset that I let him play with the axe. But once I saw that he was controling it proper and had a good grip on it.

I do tend to keep my on him though. It's really not something I like to see... LOL but it's either dig holes or play video games . I busy watching football

My wife says "if I didn't push that kid out I'd be asking for DNA test" LOL inside joke. View attachment 3499337
This should be the PARENTS THAT SMOKE THREAD

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TripleMindedGee5150 said:

One thing is for sure....he is my child. Shit if I ever need to bury a body?

Hahaha Just playin. My wife used to be upset that I let him play with the axe. But once I saw that he was controling it proper and had a good grip on it.

I do tend to keep my on him though. It's really not something I like to see... LOL but it's either dig holes or play video games . I busy watching football

My wife says "if I didn't push that kid out I'd be asking for DNA test" LOL inside joke. View attachment 3499337
This should be the PARENTS THAT SMOKE THREAD

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vro said:

This is why young women are better. Once a woman is past her formative years there is no changing her. On top of thay sje already had kids? Leave her and never talk to her again, why would you take care of someone elses kids she made that shit decision this is why women shouldnt and were not able to chose who they wanted to have kidds with throughout history. They make terrible decisions. Women are supposed to take care of men, men arent supposed to take care of women.

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