Do you think asexuality is a true sexual orientation or a psychological/environmental thing? I mean I would assume it's just an inherent trait, but my best friend is asexual and I can't for the life of me understand it! It drives me insane! We actually used to live together, but one night she freaked out so bad because she heard me having sex that she told me she had to move out... said it "really grossed her out"... and then the final straw was when she heard the downstairs neighbors having sex lol. So yeah, my best friend couldn't live with me any more because I was accidentally too loud in a house that has terrible acoustics. Sorry thats unrelated really... just needed to emphasize her aversion to sex lol. I mean she'll talk about sex with me all day long and we sometimes we do... its just when it comes down to the actual act I guess. I realize there are different types of asexuals, but I'm hoping someone can give me some insight here. How can someone be attracted to the opposite sex, and act otherwise totally sexually attracted to another person, but just not want to have sex with them? My friend has had a boyfriend for 2 years now that she has no desire to have sex with and would be incredibly bothered even if she saw him naked. Yet, I've seen them making out in public. She never masturbates and finds it weird that most people do... But seriously, how can you not get anything out of violently making out with someone?! lol So, I've thought about it, and I don't understand how that kind of thinking is genetically predisposed.... My friend and I think her dad molested her because he's creepy as fuck, so that would make it environmental. Idk.... just a thought..