I'm not one to normally ask for relationship advice on the internet but I needed to bounce some ideas off people, and everyone on here seems pretty smart.
Soo...was seeing this girl for about 2yrs...she was fun, smart, witty, kinky, got all my jokes and quotes, we got along pretty well. She was also a demon in the sack, gave amazing head and wanted sex just as much, if not more than I did. Problem was, I couldn't see myself being with her long term.
I knew this after about 8 months but never had the heart to break up with her. Things went on and I did a few things on the side with some other girls, I guess I didn't want to feel tied down and wanted to see what I was missing out on with other girls. I think It was because she was more my best friend who I slept with rather than a serious girlfriend that I didn't want to end it and lose her.
Anyway, along came another girl, we started hanging out, just as friends, but it lead to something more and with my girlfriend going to Europe for a month I thought it best we breakup. So we did.
She came back and I had to make a decision and chose to stay with the new girl, she was someone I could see myself with long term...more like the kind of girl you'd move with, get a place together, settle down, that sort of thing.
Anyway...its been 5 months and I'm really questioning my decision. Oh, she's 19 by the way and I'm 22.
There's a few things...first of all I consider sex and having a good sex life an important thing, this girl is totally inexperienced and doesn't seem interested at all. She isn't interested in getting herself off if I'm not there or anything...after alot of effort we got to the point where she can reach climax, before this she had been with a few guys but never been able to. She doesn't give blowjobs...like...at all. With her the curtains match the drapes, both in colour and length...its ridiculous. I'm a guy who really likes to go down on girls, nothing is better than having them moaning and pulling your hair, its just awesome. She's not a fan plus the hair thing means its not too enjoyable for me. It's something I've spoke to her about once or twice and she said she would get it fixed, but so far nothing. And when we're actually having sex, she just totally starfishes it, like just lies there.
Coming from a relationship where the sex was crazy (in comparison) and just my sex life in general usually being in pretty good condition, I have become really frustrated, to the point where I'll be having dreams about my ex/others while sleeping right next to her in bed.
Otherwise things are alright, like I said, shes closer to the kind of girl I'd like to bring up my kids than anyone else I've been with. And we never fight, like ever, don't think we've had a single fight this whole time we've been together. Its just sometimes we don't connect quite as good as me and my ex did, and I know its unrealistic to expect to cos 2yrs doesnt equal 5months, but me and my ex hit it off from day 1.
Its like we seem to be on different intellectual levels. Like the kind of things her and her friends get up to, it just seems a bit childish to me, I dunno.
The other thing is she has really fallen for me, like badly, and I'm gonna feel really bad if I break up with her, and I know she is going to be really upset. I dunno if I am making mountains out of molehills and I should just suck it up...Mmmm.
Also most of my mates have all dissapeared, when we go out its with her friends, and they're cool enough, especially one of them who is totally on my level in so many ways, like music, humour, just everything about her, but I can't dump her for one of her friends. But all my mates are on holidays overseas till the end of the year, or I don't see them anymore because I spend all my time with my current girlfriend and I'm sleeping at her place every night.
Anyway yeh, I dunno what to do and would love some advice or to bounce some ideas off of people. Like I don't really expect my ex to take me back, and I'm not sure if I would go back if I could, but should I be getting out anyway and just being single...with the 2 relationships being back to back its been 3yrs since I was single.
I really need to smoke and chill the fuck out, but I'm dry so thats not helping.
Cheers in advance RIU
Soo...was seeing this girl for about 2yrs...she was fun, smart, witty, kinky, got all my jokes and quotes, we got along pretty well. She was also a demon in the sack, gave amazing head and wanted sex just as much, if not more than I did. Problem was, I couldn't see myself being with her long term.
I knew this after about 8 months but never had the heart to break up with her. Things went on and I did a few things on the side with some other girls, I guess I didn't want to feel tied down and wanted to see what I was missing out on with other girls. I think It was because she was more my best friend who I slept with rather than a serious girlfriend that I didn't want to end it and lose her.
Anyway, along came another girl, we started hanging out, just as friends, but it lead to something more and with my girlfriend going to Europe for a month I thought it best we breakup. So we did.
She came back and I had to make a decision and chose to stay with the new girl, she was someone I could see myself with long term...more like the kind of girl you'd move with, get a place together, settle down, that sort of thing.
Anyway...its been 5 months and I'm really questioning my decision. Oh, she's 19 by the way and I'm 22.
There's a few things...first of all I consider sex and having a good sex life an important thing, this girl is totally inexperienced and doesn't seem interested at all. She isn't interested in getting herself off if I'm not there or anything...after alot of effort we got to the point where she can reach climax, before this she had been with a few guys but never been able to. She doesn't give blowjobs...like...at all. With her the curtains match the drapes, both in colour and length...its ridiculous. I'm a guy who really likes to go down on girls, nothing is better than having them moaning and pulling your hair, its just awesome. She's not a fan plus the hair thing means its not too enjoyable for me. It's something I've spoke to her about once or twice and she said she would get it fixed, but so far nothing. And when we're actually having sex, she just totally starfishes it, like just lies there.
Coming from a relationship where the sex was crazy (in comparison) and just my sex life in general usually being in pretty good condition, I have become really frustrated, to the point where I'll be having dreams about my ex/others while sleeping right next to her in bed.
Otherwise things are alright, like I said, shes closer to the kind of girl I'd like to bring up my kids than anyone else I've been with. And we never fight, like ever, don't think we've had a single fight this whole time we've been together. Its just sometimes we don't connect quite as good as me and my ex did, and I know its unrealistic to expect to cos 2yrs doesnt equal 5months, but me and my ex hit it off from day 1.
Its like we seem to be on different intellectual levels. Like the kind of things her and her friends get up to, it just seems a bit childish to me, I dunno.
The other thing is she has really fallen for me, like badly, and I'm gonna feel really bad if I break up with her, and I know she is going to be really upset. I dunno if I am making mountains out of molehills and I should just suck it up...Mmmm.
Also most of my mates have all dissapeared, when we go out its with her friends, and they're cool enough, especially one of them who is totally on my level in so many ways, like music, humour, just everything about her, but I can't dump her for one of her friends. But all my mates are on holidays overseas till the end of the year, or I don't see them anymore because I spend all my time with my current girlfriend and I'm sleeping at her place every night.
Anyway yeh, I dunno what to do and would love some advice or to bounce some ideas off of people. Like I don't really expect my ex to take me back, and I'm not sure if I would go back if I could, but should I be getting out anyway and just being single...with the 2 relationships being back to back its been 3yrs since I was single.
I really need to smoke and chill the fuck out, but I'm dry so thats not helping.
Cheers in advance RIU
), and your present girl is not interested, move on. Match your girl to your goals. Have some fun, but not so much that you end up with an STD or go to prison.....sow a few oats....then settle down.
