spouses!

EarthlyPassions said:

Aww, spouses.
I haven't been in a relationship yet, but she'd have to know that I smoke. My 'grow room' is an open doorway right next to my bedroom! I'm sure she'd notice to bright white light shining from the aluminum draped cardboard/duct tape fixture.

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choose your partner wisely

Not trying to tagteam you ...lol.. we love u!!

Kant said:

wow i'm being attacked by the tag team of lacy and puff. well lacy i am in fact a wuss. as for marriage...that's something i'm not even remotely ready for. I have a feeling that it's going to be one of those make or break discussions. which is why i'm not too eager to have it.

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Hey Bud Bat, Just tell her. If she tells you to give it up then I'd say give her up. Seriously. You are who you are and if that aint good enough for her then there will also be plenty of other things about you that aren't good enough either. If she really loves you she will love you for who and what you ARE, not who and what she can make you be. Do it now, get it out of the way so you can stop stressing over it. Be yourself, be happy.

And on a completely unrelated matter but speaking of bats, we went to my daughters orchestra concert last night and there was a bat in the auditorium that kept swooping around and buzzing the orchestra, it was cool, made me think of you!

Edit: Oh yeah, almost forgot. Mrs. Momma does not smoke and she does not have any problem with my partaking. She likes to mess with my head when I'm really baked too so I guess she does get to enjoy the high.

joemomma said:

She likes to mess with my head when I'm really baked too so I guess she does get to enjoy the high.

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Hilarity! I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend who didn't smoke as long as she would be comfortable enough to mess with me while I was high.
Adorable.

Kant said:

choose your partner wisely

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LOL, that right there is why I haven't been in a relationship yet. I'm too picky.
Lately I've been thinking of just jumping into a relationship for the hell of it. Being perpetually single is frustrating.

I used to think that there wasn't the perfect woman for me, and that I'd have to pick and choose stuff I'd settle for. I had a string (not a long one, I'm a gentleman) of relationships that made me fucking miserable.
Then I decided to just be honest with what I wanted and low and behold, the woman of my dreams presented herself to me. I can't argue why or tell you any secrets, but I will say this--when you meet the person you can live with forever, you just know it. No shit. You want someone who loves you, not fits into their mold.
I'm not saying that bumps in the road like smoking pot are the end of it, but if you can have someone honestly know everything about you and still wanna play with your tackle, you got it right.

My girlfriend smokes on an occasion..Not Like Me...I smoke Quite often..Daily...2-10 x a day depending..I just recently started growing to save myself some money, and Its pretty damn fun.... I mentioned it to my girlfriend once that I think It would be Fun to grow a plant..She freeked out..Says she would not be cool with growing.....She wanted to move in with me...I look at that as shee'll find my grow box..So her chances of moving in are pretty slim unless she eases up on the Idea.................

oh lacy you're gonna get a kick out of this one.


it turns out that my gf thinks i don't smoke and that when i do it's rarely done. oh man. i'm screwed. i'm not looking forward to this conversation.

I think the biggest thing to remember is security. If you are not honest and truly open with your significant other it will bite you in the ass. Kant, if you tell your GF you grow and she gets pissed at you(really pissed) she might call the cops and tip them off. I have seen many growers nailed by an angry ex. If its not today that she's angry, maybe tommorow, or next year. Be careful and keep looking out for #1. Love is a powerful force, but the big nazis in prison are more powerful. Peace brother-bat.

EarthlyPassions said:

Being perpetually single is frustrating.

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did someone say perpetual? you know you're on a marijuana growing forum when....

WillieNelson said:

I think the biggest thing to remember is security. If you are not honest and truly open with your significant other it will bite you in the ass. Kant, if you tell your GF you grow and she gets pissed at you(really pissed) she might call the cops and tip them off. I have seen many growers nailed by an angry ex. If its not today that she's angry, maybe tommorow, or next year. Be careful and keep looking out for #1. Love is a powerful force, but the big nazis in prison are more powerful. Peace brother-bat.

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Yeah be careful Kant, maybe its best to tell her you like to smoke everyday and that you would like to start to grow. If she freaks its time for a change, if she is ok with the idea your on a winner. If you say you grow and she freaks and calls the cops your are on a definite loser.

I am all for the truth but I don't post my name and address on here be careful Kant....

All the best

scias said:

did someone say perpetual? you know you're on a marijuana growing forum when....

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LoL. What can I say? I love english class, I'm a real egghead.

My girlfriend hates it, and as far as she knows I dont do it, she has never smoked with me, never wants to try it either, it sucks>.< as far as growing though she is fine with it...bit of an odd stance on that, she just doesnt want me to smoke it..but hey I wont give up this one love for any other love, I really dont ever consider changing for people, nor do I ask others to change for me..

my baby loves to smoke, she even loves looking after my plants for me when i gotta go out of town. i must be lucky!

Kant said:

It does, and obviously i can't keep it a secret forever but...i have no idea what i'm gonna say to her if she ever finds out or if we move in together.

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My wife doesn't smoke but accepted the fact that I grow for myself and smoke because it something that I really like doing. Its funny, we can be driving down the road and I will pull out my one hitter and she says "I dont want to smell that" as she smokes a cigarette.... lol. Its all good man, just approach the situation in a very positive way. My wife is a die hard straight edge and doesn't mind at all I get a few of her friends blazed. In fact she offers for me to smoke with them if we are at a bar.

I smoke daily and my husband doesn't smoke other than ocassional social thing with friends and then it's 1 hit and he's baked for hours..... it would be great to be a lightweight like that again....

He doesn't mind that I smoke. I enjoy smoking but I also use it lessen PTSD symptoms and although he probably would prefer I didn't he's understanding. I've batted around growing for a couple years and he has been against it due to us having 4 kids in the house (kids are curious ya know). But I told him unless he forbids me from growing I was going to, I just got sick of spending the cash and having dry periods. So I've got some pretty little plants in veg.

My advice like others have said is to just say you smoke and see how she reacts first. If she freaks you can't tell her you are or are planning to grow. If she isn't going to be ok with you growing and you start eventually you will have to choose anyway.