You showed someone pictures of your grow... Brilliant... Really, I wonder why I didn't think of that...
The way you determine the ripeness of your flowers is to check the trichomes. You want almost no clear trichomes, everything should be cloudy and amber, but if you don't want a total couch lock then you don't want too much amber.
I try to time it out so that I harvest when I'm about 10% clear, 10% amber and 80% cloudy. Every phenotype is different so you have to make a judgment call.
And stop showing pictures of your grow to people who can find out where you live.