Are you supposed to sit with low points?

so.nice said:

These past few days I've been feeling a little low. It's day 43 since I've smoked weed and around the same length for alcohol and coffee. Since I've been feeling like this I've been craving all three especially weed and coffee.

I can feel that it's me trying to escape this feeling and looking for something outside of myself to feel better. But how do we do that internally?

I've been eating a lot of fruits and exercising and doing yoga but I still feel like this. So does anyone know if I should just sit with the discomfort until it passes?

I'm trying to be mindful and think that this feeling isn't even a big deal but I keep returning to it..

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so.nice said:

These past few days I've been feeling a little low. It's day 43 since I've smoked weed and around the same length for alcohol and coffee. Since I've been feeling like this I've been craving all three especially weed and coffee.

I can feel that it's me trying to escape this feeling and looking for something outside of myself to feel better. But how do we do that internally?

I've been eating a lot of fruits and exercising and doing yoga but I still feel like this. So does anyone know if I should just sit with the discomfort until it passes?

I'm trying to be mindful and think that this feeling isn't even a big deal but I keep returning to it..

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so.nice said:

These past few days I've been feeling a little low. It's day 43 since I've smoked weed and around the same length for alcohol and coffee. Since I've been feeling like this I've been craving all three especially weed and coffee.

I can feel that it's me trying to escape this feeling and looking for something outside of myself to feel better. But how do we do that internally?

I've been eating a lot of fruits and exercising and doing yoga but I still feel like this. So does anyone know if I should just sit with the discomfort until it passes?

I'm trying to be mindful and think that this feeling isn't even a big deal but I keep returning to it..

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New Age United said:

We all suffer at times and there's nothing wrong with that. It's when it persists for several days that you could consider it a depression. I have recommended weed to a few people with depression and my buddy geoff is medicated for depression and it helps him significantly. I wouldn't recommend you turn to booze; I used to be severely depressed but then I mastered Zen and transcended my suffering, you can do the same. I would highly recommend the book " A New Earth " by Eckhart Tolle, you seem to be in to that stuff I think you would appreciate it.

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so.nice said:

Thanks dude I was really considering smoking but I'm stuck with the fear that it's going to mess me up for days and make me not care

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testiclees said:

weed doesnt make you care free it momentarily alleviates concern with cares.

your cares are part of being alive in the universe
stick with it dude
delayed gratification is gratification indeed

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so.nice said:

Yeah dude that's the part that's causing me the reluctancy... I just started going to a university a couple weeks ago and it's my first time having a 15 unit course load and ever since I started I haven't been able to push myself to put in hours for work and I feel like it's the stress of the school work piling up and the fear of income lacking behind and my body not being accustomed to this new pattern that's really causing me to want the coffee and weed and alcohol and that if i teach my body to just handle these things I can get over this stuff but if I smoke I will continue the dependency and mask the problem and maybe not even handle the issues that are presenting themselves (hw and income).

I do hope it is just the body changing it's patterns and the way it copes with issues

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testiclees said:

bro, do your best, work hard, have discipline and good intentions. The universe will work with you.

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so.nice said:

Thanks testicles

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New Age United said:

Some very good advice from testiclees. Now that I know what is causing you so much concern we can take a deeper look into your anxiety, although I know that weed has helped with my own anxiety I am not suggesting you go back to weed, I understand your concern your afraid your going to become a dead head and destroy any chance you have at succeeding in school.

Ask yourself a couple of questions and let me know what your responses are. If I could care less about the outcome would I be able to focus more on the task at hand? If I could relieve my anxiety would I be able to operate more efficiently and effectively? Is it OK even if I do fail? Surrender, just breathe deep and free. I'm not saying that you should not strive for success I'm saying your caring too much about the outcome of things and it is causing anti productive stress.

Perhaps this is not the time for yet another book. If you need help managing your anxiety and stress feel free to get a hold of me.

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so.nice said:

These past few days I've been feeling a little low. It's day 43 since I've smoked weed and around the same length for alcohol and coffee. Since I've been feeling like this I've been craving all three especially weed and coffee.

I can feel that it's me trying to escape this feeling and looking for something outside of myself to feel better. But how do we do that internally?

I've been eating a lot of fruits and exercising and doing yoga but I still feel like this. So does anyone know if I should just sit with the discomfort until it passes?

I'm trying to be mindful and think that this feeling isn't even a big deal but I keep returning to it..

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charface said:

Another thing forget is that it took years to get messed up.
Then they expect to feel correct in days, weeks, months.

You have burned in distorted thought patterns, blazed neuropathways and created habits.

Rewiring takes time and work.

I cant spell neuropathways,
I'm gonna live with it for no even though it is embarrassing.
When the pain becomes too great Ill put in the work.

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qwizoking said:

Once upon a time there was a successful doctor working in drug design and delivery. His colleagues gave him much praise, was recognized internationally. Was married. Had anything material he desired. But nothing could make him happy, he didnt understand. Years passed, divorvce and drug addictions came and went. People didnt understand why he was never satisfied, why he was basically a functioning druggy fiend man ho. All he could do with his mind but he chooses to waste it, staying high. Trying to forget this reality with massive amounts of xanax, cocaine, opiates, hallucinogens..etc. always anxious, bored never content..
Even as a grown man, he still tried to mature. Or get over this mental curse.

He took a 2 month vacation, to acapulco and other parts of mexico. Gave up all drugs and tried to find peace with this world. A new setting, really quite beautiful he felt was necessary. Worked out daily, ate great and behold he started to feel better. He had more energy, was happier. People told him how good he looked and how he had such a great personality, they never knew. He was doing great. He then returned to his life, and things slowly reverted back. He smoked some weed again, got so high it was great it had been some 3 months by this time. Without realizing it, he became depressed again, energy was being sucked away. Found xanax and cocaine again. Was this really from weed? Decades of staying high were somehow the cause of his need to be high? And low energy?

Now he battles urges to "party" and get on that level he desires. When he feels bad he works out and tries to go do something outdoors. Filling empty brackets of time, staying busy. Staying around good people.

So far so good

Good luck.
Its your story bro. Hang in there. Try and write how you want it to be. Dont just be depressed and except it

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