unclejoebob
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I haven't had the sex
I'm 31 and never had sex
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unclejoebob
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It's mostly a feeling of deep sadness and self loathing. I just spend all my time numb but I know deep down it's just filling a void inside.
Then again I guess with time maturity lets you see it for what it is and it really ain't shit.
I guess what hurts is the feeling that nobody wants you. It's more about ego than anything. Worst things in life usually are.
If you dive into the hobbies you love, keep doing the things that bring you joy? Someone else will see that. The thing about sex and relationships is that as soon as you tighten up and get jaded, you start stacking the deck against yourself. Do the things you love, and new relationships happen!
unclejoebob
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Hope so
StonedGardener
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You have to turn that fucking boat around , asap. If not, your current state of mind will breed more suffering ......acute anxiety , physical pain,
neurotic behavior , confusion, and even thoughts of suicide. The longer you " let things go " , the worse they get. You swim or you sink .
Do you get your ass out there and mix it up, meet people, socialize, make friends ( do you have any close friends) ? Do you have any handicaps/physical features that might hinder socializing....hitting on the ladies ? I have friends like that. Later stoner dude, get better starting now. " The devil ya know is better than the one you don't ". At least your not in a Congolese prison .
I ain't sure this is the place to get a good answer.
No gf = more free time.
If you hit 35 = favor for money
Else yes there are better things to. The opposite is your consumed by that nonsense
The woman meassure alot how you enjoy life and how you interact with your friends so maybe thats a good start
Oh and dont forget the manliness
No gf = more free time.
If you hit 35 = favor for money
Else yes there are better things to. The opposite is your consumed by that nonsense
The woman meassure alot how you enjoy life and how you interact with your friends so maybe thats a good start
Oh and dont forget the manliness
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Unga Bunga
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The #1 question...
Have you tried to get a date ?
Have you tried to get a date ?
lungbutter
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I suppose you could always join some religion/ideology where you have some kind of arranged marriage or sexual liberation.
Trap Star
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Sex is fairly easy to come by....
Women love penis...
If you have one that works...show it off.
Im sure youll find some takers
If you can flirt then you can fuck.
Its all about eye contact...& body talk
Go gettem tiger...
Lmao
Im 43...
I go on slut hunts...
A condom & my meat stick....
Its like fishing....
Then you can nail some pretty hot street sex.
Tbh, its really a bad habit but it works...
If i can do it...you can too
Just dont get arrested for flashing your package
Women love penis...
If you have one that works...show it off.
Im sure youll find some takers
If you can flirt then you can fuck.
Its all about eye contact...& body talk
Go gettem tiger...
Lmao
Im 43...
I go on slut hunts...
A condom & my meat stick....
Its like fishing....
Then you can nail some pretty hot street sex.
Tbh, its really a bad habit but it works...
If i can do it...you can too
Just dont get arrested for flashing your package
unclejoebob
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Yea na not yet. I'm a late bloomer. I mean obviously. Im like a cannabis plant that has taken longer to flower but....imma do dat tho maybe. Not as if I have the money for fancy dates and shit or i will in the forseeable future. Unless I sell weed or some shit lol.
What I do know now, surer than shit, is if u don't want it u don't get it. I base that off of my wanting it, but not bad enough to do a lot of shit. Shit that you may or may not necessarily want to do. Then again you want it TOO bad and its obvious and cringe and that shit don't work either.
Werd. Lol
Fladawg01
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Have you ever tried some of the online sites? There are plenty of women out there who only want a casual encounter and then there are those who want commitment before anything else. I've been married 38 years, the last 18 have been rough. If she leaves, i wouldn't be heart broken, but growing quite a bit more!
There are prostitutes as well, depending on where you live, if you really want to push it, but I'd advsie Go fish or other sites where you might actually find someone who is local and just looking to have the same.
There are prostitutes as well, depending on where you live, if you really want to push it, but I'd advsie Go fish or other sites where you might actually find someone who is local and just looking to have the same.
Unga Bunga
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Being too hung up on perfection and waiting for them to come to you ain't gonna get you laid .
Trap Star
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This works too...
Fetlife.com....tons of fuck meat there.
Hookers are a slippery slope...
You have to hunt for hookers...
That hunting becomes a very intense act
Once you find one...you have to know the ins & outs of safety....
You dont want to get robbed...
Keep a rubber...
An trick off some serious money
200 -400 will get you the full course meal...
Blowjob & sex...
But, being with a hooker is over the top. They fake a lot. Its a job for her...so any real connection is rare.
Chief_Broom
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We all love weed here but let’s be honest with the OP for a moment. Maybe weed isn’t helping you to meet someone you’d like to hang out with and eventually lead to sex.
Weed is great because it mellows you out and can take what was a stressful day and turn it around immediately (in just one toke). But the truth is getting outside of your comfort zone and taking risks is kind of stressful and if every time you get stressed you turn to weed you’ll never find yourself out there taking risks. If you never take risks you’ll never meet some gal who might find she likes you enough to give you the chance to have sex with her. Maybe you’ll get lucky and fall into a relationship through dumb luck, it happens all the time. But if you’d like to improve your odds or dare I say maybe try to meet someone you find attractive you’re going to have to change what you’ve been doing up to now to meet someone.
Taking a break from weed isn’t always about tolerance issues.
Weed is great because it mellows you out and can take what was a stressful day and turn it around immediately (in just one toke). But the truth is getting outside of your comfort zone and taking risks is kind of stressful and if every time you get stressed you turn to weed you’ll never find yourself out there taking risks. If you never take risks you’ll never meet some gal who might find she likes you enough to give you the chance to have sex with her. Maybe you’ll get lucky and fall into a relationship through dumb luck, it happens all the time. But if you’d like to improve your odds or dare I say maybe try to meet someone you find attractive you’re going to have to change what you’ve been doing up to now to meet someone.
Taking a break from weed isn’t always about tolerance issues.
unclejoebob
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Yea it's about reasoning behind it too. You want to keep shit fresh and not keep the needle in the same groove. I habitually smoked a lot to deal with anxiety and my own shortcomings when I was younger. But if you keep doing that as you get older my belief is it can make your brain think that you always have to keep getting high for the same basic reason and some periods of sobriety eventually can illustrate that old premises sometimes become invalid. You're just dependent now is all. Idk shit can just get silly and tragicomical at a personal level when you really evaluate yourself.
So yeah imma probably take a break at some point to try to reacclimate with a different baseline and smoke more just for relaxation, and ideally socially if possible.
Funkentelechy
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Sometimes just having the capacity to listen to someone can make the difference to someone that you'd like to get to know intimately. Many people feel alone even when surrounded by people, having someone in their life that sees them for who they are allows them to be willing to let down their barriers.
Sex can be amazing but what separates amazing sex from what is essentially mutual masterbation, which is fun too but not comparable, is a real connection to that person. The only way to make a real connection with someone is if you are willing to listen to their needs. Which requires being able/willing to step outside of yourself and your needs enough to hear them and have the capacity and the willingness to understand who they are.
Sex can be amazing but what separates amazing sex from what is essentially mutual masterbation, which is fun too but not comparable, is a real connection to that person. The only way to make a real connection with someone is if you are willing to listen to their needs. Which requires being able/willing to step outside of yourself and your needs enough to hear them and have the capacity and the willingness to understand who they are.
unclejoebob
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It's a certain type of guy though. I'm very average in most regards. I failed at "high society" as of yet because I do not hobnob with elites. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Just to each their own kind so I guess you attract someone who's on your level or in men's case usually the women you attract will be slightly lower than your level. That's just the way it works. Whatever you really want is just always out of reach. It is like a carrot that can never be reached but you will always reach for.
Hobnobbery seems overrated though. What do you do, stand around just in sheer self admiration and laughing with your cohorts about those lesser little people. It sounds like high school to me. Then again few people actually graduate from that mentality even in adulthood. Perhaps I'm jaded tho. To live is to be heartbroken. Paradise lost, ad infinitum.
It takes years and years of self cultivation to become what the hobnobbers refer to as a High Value Man. But it only takes two seconds for me to light the flame on the end of this pipe
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