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So I'm a ...
Something I Just Experienced
This is probably going to be a little different than most of the threads I usually post..
So I'm a really lone wolf kind of guy, spend probably 90% of my time by myself, I'm sitting here at the table browsing the internet, not really doing anything super important, just reading articles or whatever.. My sister and her boyfriend are outside with a few people getting drunk playing beer pong, earlier, about an hour ago, right when I was finishing cooking dinner, he came in and was visibly a little drunk, slurred speech, and was talking to me about his and my sisters life together, OK, whatever, I'm not going to be a dick, so I stand there and talk to him for 5 or 10 minutes, kind of hinting that I'm trying to prepare dinner and get ready to eat, walking around him in the kitchen, that sort of stuff. None of the hints are noticed, so I kind of mini snap inside my head and say "well, dinner time.." and he goes back outside.
Just now he came back inside, much more drunk, and began telling me the exact same story as last time from the beginning. Again, not wanting to be a dick, I sat here and indulged him.. As he walked up I was in the middle of reading something, kind of 'in the middle of something' looking, so he was standing there talking and after about 5 minutes inside my head I was having an anxiety attack at not being able to get a hint across to this guy. He's a really nice guy, I don't dislike him or anything, it was just excruciating sitting here with absolutely no defense! I broke after he pulled up a chair next to me and sat for another...
...Jesus fucking christ, dude just came back in for round 3 as I was writing this. SAME EXACT FUCKING STORY, except this time, he decided to tell me about drama they've been having on facebook!
...sat for another 10 minutes going on and on, over and over again, exact same stuff!!! I said "dude, you're pretty drunk, you keep telling me the exact same things like 4 times...", and he laughed it off and walked away again.
That can't be a normal reaction to have, right? I was trying to drop every hint in the book as polite as possible but the guy just wasn't getting it. I find these kinds of interactions happen pretty often with other people completely sober, and I have similar reactions. Especially if someone constantly brings up old stories involving me. I know a few people who do that, I don't see them very often so when I do, saaaaaaaaame story. I experienced it, I was there with you.. Yeah it was cool when it happened but it loses it's appeal when you hear it 40 or 50 times...
Small talk I guess.. small pointless talk about nothing really important that seem to inhabit most human interactions. How the fuck do you deal with it properly?
I'm straight up, I'd tell the dude to smoke a bowl or shut the fuck up. lol
lol no way I could ever say that to someone, way too passive aggressive I guess
Haha. I find it funny when people tell me the same story over and over but change it up every once in a while. When I catch them in a lie, I show no appreciation for their story so that they feel bad for lying.
But that's not really relelvant.
Dude I hate small talk. "Hey how's school and work?" "Oh STFU talk to me about fun stuff".
Again, not really relevant.
When my friends keep talking too much, I let them know I'm reading or doing something by saying "Dude, I'm trying to concentrate". I don't say it completely dicked off (lol dicked off) since they're my friends, so I say it with a friendly smile. When my sister would have her friends over and they'd annoy me, I'd just ignore them. Yeah I know, I'm a dick. They even thought of me as a dick. Oh well.
My advice is to get cool enough with the dude (if you want to) to the point where you can pretty much tell him to shut up and he'll just laugh it off and stop talking so much. If you don't like the dude all that much, I say you just ignore him.. It doesn't seem to work on your guy though.. Maybe it's because he was piss drunk IDK.
Originally Posted by Snowed
Lmao, well everyone can act a little different when they're drunk, I never black out and always remember what everything I did the night before, never understood that whole people are prettier when you're drunk either, fat chick still look fat. It's good that you kept your composure, some drunks can snap in an instant.
You have to use some humor, so as to not offend. Say something easy like, "bro, I need some me time", and when that doesn't work, something like, "Allright, Drunkie!" while pointing back out the door like your telling your dog to go lay down. Assertive without being an ass. Smiling while telling them to beat feet, click their heels, etc, helps too. If they get hostile, just smile, and say, "ah, no, bro, nothing but love, but I just need some time alone, thanks, though". If THAT doesn't work, a frying pan to the noggin is a great redirect of their attention.
Originally Posted by RainbowBrite86
Put some headphones in and listen to some music and the next time he comes and sits down to talk to you, you wont even hear what he is saying. Just nod in approval and let him be a groundhog day drunk.