punishment is to teach the child not to releive the parents anger when i was young i got spankins it was usually after a long explenation of why, very controlled like ok i am going to give you 1 spankin you understand why right i would say yes, swat, and that would be it.i think it becomes abuse when you get more than 2 swats or it comes out of left field that is what instills fear in children i always new when and why i was getting the spankin and wether it was going to be 1 swat or 2 nobody likes a spankin but i never felt abused.
ive helped raise many kids. it DOES take a village. and as corporal punishment goes you only need to get kids undivided attention. sometimes that takes a smack on the butt. but it's not the pain that gets their attention. it's the humiliation. conversely my grandfather only had to give us "that look" and we knew our limitations. i'd rather have a kid's respect than a kid's fear.
Originally Posted by prosperian
Ghetto's and jails are full of children who disrespeact their parents and ahve no fear of them.
Children need discipline both in the home and in school. The first thing a child learns in 1st grade is how to call 911 if they think they are being abused. That is just plain stupid. My little girl threatened to call 911 on me because I wouldn't let her go outside and play until she finished her homework. That was the last time she ever did that! I never spanked my daughter, just made her think I was going to. Worked great.
If as a teacher you walk into a class room with head phones on and refuse to take them off...your ass is mine. Oh, right up until I get fired for abuse. That's why kids don't learn shit in school these days and there are so many drop outs. Each child is different and they respond in different ways, the worst thing you can do is just let them do their own thing. They need guidance, that is what being a parent is about.
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Yeah my dad is pretty cool but he could be impulsive sometimes and say something he doesnt want to but like 30mins after he apologizes which pisses me off because its like dont say it at all..
my parents never whipped me but they taught me right from wrong.man now that i think about it i was a little shit when i was like 16 i had so many fights with my dad omg one ending in me being locked up for 6 hrs in juvie because i pushed him out of my way and he said i hit him.but thats the past.
I think some verbal abuse can be used if your child does something bad in limits ofc not curse at him...
example-child steals someones bike. how do you think that kid feels now that you stole his bike.where going to his house right now and your gonna apologize for stealing his bike and your gonna give him one of your toys.
tell you what i dont think he will be stealing another bike haha i wouldnt wanna go through the embarrassment of apologizing to that kid..
if your too soft your kid will think there is no negative repercussions and we know what that leads to.
Tbh my parents let me do to many things and never really teached me work ethic now im a lazy fucker lol
Then God said, "I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.
lol i know what your talking about with humiliation my friend one time prank called my parents and has father found out and he took him to our house and whipped him right infront of all of us.i think it was to far for something that little
Then God said, "I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.
First of all there is a lot of dumb answers and a lot of reasonable answer on this thread in my opinion. I got spanked with all types of shit when I was young . Hot wheel race track. Ping pong paddle. Hand. Etc there a lot of whinny people on this thread. If u got a spanking or disciplinary action juss take it as love. I mean fuck they could have not spanked you and juss give u away to some other parent gave u up for adoption or abortion in the womb. Ask your parent the prolly got displinary action as well. With every action there a reaction wether it b good or not. However I don't blieve slapping in the face or nething remotely close to it. Spank on the behind slap on the hand. Shit I know when I spankedmy little nephew it hurt his feelings more than anything. But he knew its not ok to hit his lil brother ne more. I gave him one swift spank to the butt as I put him in time out. After ten minutes in time out I made jm apologize and explained to him why it not ok to hit his brother in the face
Even at school I'd seldom get hidings from the teachers, most of them were of the opinion that I'm the kind of person its better talking to than hitting... can't say the same for most of the other kids, rural school with lots of farm kids.
Another good thing about a hiding, is its over when its over, noone walks around on eggshells, when I got a hiding at home it was always followed with a hug.
The only reason I would hit my kid is if they are being disrespectfull or if they are doing something dangerous.
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