My wife and I are the proud parents of an amazing 3 1/2 year old...we have just entered into the phase of who?what?when?where?why?how come?..and so on...We also love growing and smoking...We have always made the effort to be as open and honest with our child as we can be for the age bracket we are dealing with, and want to continue to do so...So we want to ask all the other parents this: How do you deal with the growing and smoking when it comes to your kids?
It is next to impossible to keep the grow a secret from our child, and as I spend a little time each day "tending to the crop", the level of curiousity continues to grow...how involved are your kids in the whole deal....We never smoke in front of our child, so thats not an issue at this age, but as time flys it surely will be...If your kids do know, when and how did you tell them? Are there any fears of what they will tell their friends if they know?
Looking for some advice.......

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Some say the end is near. Some say we'll see armageddon soon. I certainly hope we will. I sure could use a vacation from this bullshit three ring circus sideshow of Freaks... Learn to swim. Cuz I'm praying for rain and I'm praying for tidal waves I wanna see the ground give way. I wanna watch it all go down. Mom please flush it all away. I wanna watch it go right in and down. I wanna watch it go right in. Watch you flush it all away. Time to bring it down again. Don't just call me pessimist. Try and read between the lines. I can't imagine why you wouldn't Welcome any change, my friend. I wanna see it all come down. suck it down. flush it down....TOOL

i have a 12 year old son. this is an easy one. HONESTY. from day one. do not hide anything. be fully honest with your children. educate them on ALL aspects of what you are involved in. do not get them involved. set boundaries. i have explained the medical side and the recreational side. the rights and wrongs. he understands. he's 12 and has yet to sneak behind the wood shed so i think so far we are doing well. there will come a day when his buddies will pull him aside. at that time he will have already been exposed and educated. there will be no "dude it makes you feel good. you will be cool.....". he will have already have made an educated decision.



credit: my wife and son helped with this answer.

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I don't hide anything from my children.....I have 3 6,4 and 1. I just feel by hiding things from then, that is gonna lead them to believe it's wrong....I grew up in a family where marijuana was accepted......I don't believe I am a bad parent at all, they simply know what marijuana is as "Daddy's Medecine" If my kids choose to smoke marijuana at a age where they know what it is, so be it......There is absolutely nothing wrong with marijuana, when we question it like we are right know, In my opinion it's giving it a bad name or at least making it look like it's wrong.....MY kids are around it all the time and I have no problem with that....They don't even make a big deal about it because I've never kept it from them to begin with...It is nothing more to them as say eating food, or watching tv. I don't regret any of the decisions I made.

FDD and Zeke, thank you very much!! Those were the responses we hoped for....we plan on taking the same approach with our child...we still have a few more years before it really becomes an issue, but WE need as much practice being parents until then....Neither one of us do any drugs whatsoever, and I dont even drink, thats not to say that I havent in the past, but somewhere around 30 I grew up and left all those buillshit chemicals alone...My parents NEVER talked to me about drugs or drinking, hence my first experience with booze and coke started around 13...then one day in my late 20s I woke up in the hospital with tubes hanging out of me and a doctor telling that according to my toxicology report I should have been dead...Cant imagine my beautiful child ever going through that...

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Some say the end is near. Some say we'll see armageddon soon. I certainly hope we will. I sure could use a vacation from this bullshit three ring circus sideshow of Freaks... Learn to swim. Cuz I'm praying for rain and I'm praying for tidal waves I wanna see the ground give way. I wanna watch it all go down. Mom please flush it all away. I wanna watch it go right in and down. I wanna watch it go right in. Watch you flush it all away. Time to bring it down again. Don't just call me pessimist. Try and read between the lines. I can't imagine why you wouldn't Welcome any change, my friend. I wanna see it all come down. suck it down. flush it down....TOOL

Yeah, I totally understand where you are coming from.

I have a 5 year old girl. We grow and smoke weed. As for her knowing what it is, she doesn't. She asked what the plants are and we say plants.Cause we all know how kids like to tell stories to thier friends about what happens at home.
We know this first hand. My hubby got a speeing ticket and the next day everyone knew. So to we just don't smoke around her and we keep her away from the plants. Right now I believe what she doesn't see or hear won't hurt her. When the time comes (within a couple of years or so) We will address the issue. I don't want to be a hypocrite and tell her that she can't do it. I want to be there for her and let her know about it all before she has to make that choice. I would much rather her smokng it in her own home, than on the street or in a car to get busted. Same goes for alcohol. My parents were very open and I believe that helps huge. Just be open and honest with yourself and your kids. I don't see myself never smoking weed again, therefore my kids are going to have to know what it is.

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Here's a question for you, what do you tell your son about mr.police officer man who comes in for a DARE assembly and tells your child that people who do drugs are evil. Or that MJ is bad? I tried to explain to my girlfriends 11 year old that it was not so bad and that the police officer is only doing his job but that they are human too and are not always honest. I also told him to respect his teachers and elders but to question everything, 11 year olds do that anyway. I'm stuck on this one.

I haven't had to deal with that yet, but when it does come up, Im sure I will be ready

My hubby is a Paramedic and Aux. Cop. He knows what they tell the kids. He has to tell them himself in classrooms and stuff. I know, very hypocitical eh?
When the time comes I will expalin the other side of things. My daughter has comed to learn there is always 2 sides to every story. We will have to show her the other side (our side), then she can make her own choice. That is all I know to do. Give her the tools for life and be there for her.

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I no longer have to worry about it, my girlfriend and I split but it was a question I didn't know how to answer at the time and this thread reminded me of it. I also shouldn't have said the cop said evil more along the lines of bad/criminal. That's a tough question to answer I agree. I also understand what the officer was trying to to do and I appreciate it for the most part, but to continue the MJ is criminal and bad for you is OLD and NOT TRUE.