Unusual Sexual Issue

Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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I can't cum when I get intimate.

I find this extremely unusual as I've heard my entire life how a lot of guys bust right after entry and how premature ejaculation is pretty common.

I can get the job done myself no problem, with or without the use of porn, just NEVER with someone else.

Been on a sexual level with 4 different girls, same problem. This problem has significantly damaged one of my previous relationships.

I can get aroused fine, stay aroused fine, I just can't peak... I figure this has got to be a mental issue, some kind of mental block in my brain...

Does anyone have any advice how I might solve this rubix cube? :confused:

I've got a girlfriend I've been with for a while, we're pretty comfortable with each other and she's relatively open minded..

Everything is welcome.
 
Macko

Macko

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Sometimes, guys get so used to the feeling of their own hand, that they have a hard time reaching their "peak" by the feeling of a woman's vagina. This is understandable, of course, because no vagina can ever match the tight grip of your own hand! The best thing to do is to stop masturbating - at least for a few months - but continue to regularly have sex with your girlfriend. This will "retrain" your penis to associate the sensations of the vagina with climax. The more you do this, the easier it will be to orgasm when you have sex.
 
Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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Macko said:
Sometimes, guys get so used to the feeling of their own hand, that they have a hard time reaching their "peak" by the feeling of a woman's vagina. This is understandable, of course, because no vagina can ever match the tight grip of your own hand! The best thing to do is to stop masturbating - at least for a few months - but continue to regularly have sex with your girlfriend. This will "retrain" your penis to associate the sensations of the vagina with climax. The more you do this, the easier it will be to orgasm when you have sex.
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That sounds about right. I'm willing to give this a go. Should I consult a doctor about doing that? I've heard if you don't get off your body kind of does it itself via nocturnal emissions, just want to make sure it's all 100% safe.

The longest I've gone without doing it myself is like 3 or 4 days, can't imagine a month! But I'll give it a try, and I'm pretty sure that would help.

Thanks for the suggestions guys, I appreciate them.
 
logzz

logzz

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Dude this sounds like a fetish issue. A lot of people have issues male or female with this. Do you have any thing in particular?
 
boseke420

boseke420

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well the problem might b masturbation because i knew this guy that had the problem but he stopped masturbating and in a few months he was fine i wish u the best bro for u and ur girl

much love
-boseke
 
Padawanbater2

Padawanbater2

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logzz said:
Dude this sounds like a fetish issue. A lot of people have issues male or female with this. Do you have any thing in particular?
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Could be that too, plus I'm a much more visual person, and she can't go very deep with oral, which I'm really into.. :(
 
Rusty Crutch

Rusty Crutch

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Macko said:
Sometimes, guys get so used to the feeling of their own hand, that they have a hard time reaching their "peak" by the feeling of a woman's vagina. This is understandable, of course, because no vagina can ever match the tight grip of your own hand! The best thing to do is to stop masturbating - at least for a few months - but continue to regularly have sex with your girlfriend. This will "retrain" your penis to associate the sensations of the vagina with climax. The more you do this, the easier it will be to orgasm when you have sex.
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Good call Macko. I had the same problem with a girl I went out with a few years ago. I had broken up with my ex about 2 months before I met her and hadn't had any nookie for about 4 months. I was having to fake orgasms because she thought there was something wrong with her (starfish). Regular masturbation de-sensitizes and usually decreases penile width. If you quit for a month or so you will be able to get a load off much easier. Just relax, empty your mind and take it slowly. You don't have to go at it like a sewing machine.
Just remember, any more than 30 seconds and you're doing it for her...... :blsmoke:
 
Dr Greene

Dr Greene

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Perhaps you could school her on your body. Maybe she is just performing with you the way that she learned with other dudes and your body simply responds differently. Sit her down and have yourselves a little hands-on sex education class.
 
Ring'n

Ring'n

Active Member
Get some rest, dont smoke yourself out before getting some, and find a woman that drives you nuts....
Soon enough you will be a one minute man yourself...lol

It is all about your level of excitement, but proper rest and for some reason smoking yourself out also play`s a factor.
 
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fdd2blk

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Padawanbater2 said:
I can't cum when I get intimate.

I find this extremely unusual as I've heard my entire life how a lot of guys bust right after entry and how premature ejaculation is pretty common.

I can get the job done myself no problem, with or without the use of porn, just NEVER with someone else.

Been on a sexual level with 4 different girls, same problem. This problem has significantly damaged one of my previous relationships.

I can get aroused fine, stay aroused fine, I just can't peak... I figure this has got to be a mental issue, some kind of mental block in my brain...

Does anyone have any advice how I might solve this rubix cube? :confused:

I've got a girlfriend I've been with for a while, we're pretty comfortable with each other and she's relatively open minded..

Everything is welcome.
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have you tried sex with a man yet? gay is the new straight. :bigjoint:
 
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