hello....help what do u do if .....

justugh

justugh

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hi

those that know me ......yes for real no shit no clue hence here

1 close friend found out got the big C (cancer)
2 i am a social retard those daily interactions with other ppl u have is alien lang and i have no chance on figuring this kind of stuff out on my own....when left to my own i always make it worst

what the hell i am to do to make them feel better or less scared ( reminding u once i learn something it takes massive amounts of drugs to forget and sometimes that does not work ........i know things about ppl i do not want to know and haunts me when i talk to them....i actually let friendships die due to what i learned)

what is the right thing to do here .........some of u ppl are asses others actually try to help so i appeal to those nice ones......what is the thing to do

1 not a smoker
2 not a huge drink only 4 or 5 beers in a 18hr day .....does not want to get drunk
3 would kick my ass if i gave them anything from my personal supply ...
4 if i was to dose just self there is a very very very good chance happy max would come out and that is not something they would want to see or released anywhere with in stripper clubs or bars

the final bit they are female hence why i am stumped on what to do my normal get them fucked up so they relax and think about it differently method is not going to work here ........not a troll
 
justugh

justugh

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Singlemalt said:
Just be sincere and ask them if there is anything you can do for them, to help or comfort or anything they'd wish you to do. That's a good start to initiate a dialog. Then you take it from there
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i tried
they asked me to close a door that was open on a outbuilding i did i came back asked if there was anything else i can do they said no and thank u (stood there for 5 mins nothing was said i thought i heard arguing with god stuff)

that is where it is right now ......i do not know what i am to do

if it was a guy i kidnap them and force them to do something fun to forget for 15 mins or so let brain work shit out then let them back to deal with it .......this has been the method of choice for the last 24 years for me (most of the guys i know are tokers or drinkers or both ) .....hell most of the ladies i know....... she is one of the only sober ppl i hang with besides the ones doing it temp for up coming tests
 
justugh

justugh

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tangerinegreen555 said:
What kind of cancer?

The terminal no hope kind or does she have a chance at getting better?
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from what i know breast cancer
2nd time first was good kind fixed right up
do not know she yelled i have to start kemo next week

i know breast are a huge thing and losing hair is anouther big thing
 
justugh

justugh

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Singlemalt said:
Give it some time, a couple days. Then try again, or have something in mind, say a picnic or day hike or fishing. People need their own time to deal with shock.
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well one of my oldest buddies in the world is coming here tomarrow(4 pm i pick him up with a joint pack of smokes and beer) be here for a week ........been about a year since i seen him he wants to do stuff plus he wants to do work stuff

we can distract her with stories of our dumbass adventures
 
OrganicGorilla

OrganicGorilla

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I have a good idea. Why don't you and your friends all shave your heads when she starts to lose her hair from chemo. That'd be pretty cool
 
tangerinegreen555

tangerinegreen555

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justugh said:
from what i know breast cancer
2nd time first was good kind fixed right up
do not know she yelled i have to start kemo next week

i know breast are a huge thing and losing hair is anouther big thing
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Getting better is bigger than losing a breast or hair.

Your opportunity to help may be after chemo when she's sick from just the chemo.

A friend appreciated a good heavy indica. He got high to begin with, you'll just have to offer later and tell her you think it will help with side effects if she'd like to try it.

You can only offer. You can't force a person.
 
justugh

justugh

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GrowGorilla said:
I have a good idea. Why don't you and your friends all shave your heads when she starts to lose her hair from chemo. That'd be pretty cool
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nice idea but mother nature took care of that for me and my buddy since he shaved off the dreadlocks has always been shaved clean (plus i think he is bald too but we are guys and do not talk about that shit sober so i can not rem 100% )

i will see if i can talk him into dying himeself breast cancer pink i will do the same ........a giant pink zulu be like a acid trip ( be fun to go running around portland like that )
tangerinegreen555 said:
Getting better is bigger than losing a breast or hair.

Your opportunity to help may be after chemo when she's sick from just the chemo.

A friend appreciated a good heavy indica. He got high to begin with, you'll just have to offer later and tell her you think it will help with side effects if she'd like to try it.

You can only offer. You can't force a person.
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she use to smoke she is a grower but last time she had a panic attack and it wreck for her .......she was hoping one of the bubblegums would be cool
i have strains of all kinds thc from 8 to 28% cbds from 2 to 22%

i just got her to try the THC salts for her feet .......figrued handles that well then try a 1 to 1 joint (thc cbd) then something stronger if she wants

Johnei said:
Bring her big basket of fruit every couple weeks, even if she doesn't want it, stock her fridge. Antioxidants to help her. Once they're there, she'll munch.
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good idea then i can raid her frig for anything bad take that for munchies
 
justugh

justugh

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thanks guys

so i got leave it alone for the next few days then when buddy and i are going to do something fun like tubbing down a river kidnap her .....keep fruit in her place raid the frig for the bad stuff and keep her smiling tho dumb extreme acts that max is good at ie dying self pink if not self then the beard and put a pink band around hat .....i do not now if the dye will come out whole body

crap got to look that up now ....walking around pink or faded pink for the next 30 years would sux
 
curious2garden

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justugh said:
thanks guys

so i got leave it alone for the next few days then when buddy and i are going to do something fun like tubbing down a river kidnap her .....keep fruit in her place raid the frig for the bad stuff and keep her smiling tho dumb extreme acts that max is good at ie dying self pink if not self then the beard and put a pink band around hat .....i do not now if the dye will come out whole body

crap got to look that up now ....walking around pink or faded pink for the next 30 years would sux
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Seriously don't do that. What she needs now is support and she will think about it and she needs to think about it. She's probably going to need rides to and from chemo etc... You feel pretty shitty with chemo, radiation and hormonal suppression. So she may need some help around the house basic vacuuming and cleaning and cooking meals, taking the trash out etc.... She may also need weed for the nausea that can ensue. If you can help her with weed when she needs it, even just trying it out can be intimidating if you know nothing about it.

She needs to be able to talk about how scary this diagnosis is and people do die from it. Facing it a second time is bad news especially if she is starting with chemo instead of surgery. So don't try to take her mind off it. Let her talk about it. Be there and listen, hugs do more than words sometimes.

It's nice you want to help but don't kidnap her or force her to pretend not to think about it. I imagine she can't think of much else. Let her vent.
PS Don't paint yourselves pink or do any other showy method of support. It will only put her mind right back on it whenever she sees you on the rare instances she's not thinking about it.
 
justugh

justugh

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curious2garden said:
Seriously don't do that. What she needs now is support and she will think about it and she needs to think about it. She's probably going to need rides to and from chemo etc... You feel pretty shitty with chemo, radiation and hormonal suppression. So she may need some help around the house basic vacuuming and cleaning and cooking meals, taking the trash out etc.... She may also need weed for the nausea that can ensue. If you can help her with weed when she needs it, even just trying it out can be intimidating if you know nothing about it.

She needs to be able to talk about how scary this diagnosis is and people do die from it. Facing it a second time is bad news especially if she is starting with chemo instead of surgery. So don't try to take her mind off it. Let her talk about it. Be there and listen, hugs do more than words sometimes.

It's nice you want to help but don't kidnap her or force her to pretend not to think about it. I imagine she can't think of much else. Let her vent.
PS Don't paint yourselves pink or do any other showy method of support. It will only put her mind right back on it whenever she sees you on the rare instances she's not thinking about it.
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well i am not that good at cleaning ......i actually have a maid that comes in 1 time a month to handle all my stuff (i am a guy shit like that does not bug me ....not lazy just apathetic)
but i know she like my maid lady ........i am pretty sure i can pay for her house to get cleaned plus mine

crap that means i have to deal with emotional stuff......i am really bad at this my head does not work like the rest of u .....i smile at the wrong times and say the wrong thing i do not mean too it just what happens

do u think flying in her sister and paying for her to have a hotel room for a week is something good .......or flying in someone that is close from her past she likes


me sitting there letting her vent has never worked for me before i get my goofy grin and she thinks it means something bad (truly i am high as balls so i do not rem stuff because i do not want to know all that stuff about anyone) the 2 times i did not do it she said something about her husband and kid ......so i call them up said something to them so they could fix it and i got yelled at

someone tells me a problem i try to fix it ....i try to help
 
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