So I have had this relationship with a girl for the past 6 years of my life.

She is hands down the only girl in my life that I have come across that I can confidently say I am in love with.

Heres were it gets odd.

We have never been girlfriend or boyfriend, just really close. Ive always had my feelings out in the open for her as she has to me as well. There hasn't been any hidden feelings for a very long time.
Now as far as our physical relationship, there really isn't one. Shes done this whole I am not 'into you, however, I am going to kiss you because I am curious bs for a little bit' but nothing ever more than that & the occasional spending the night.

I have always kept her distanced to a certain extent from a lot of my friends. I feel the reason for that is the fact that our whole relationship is so complex and meaningful to me that I tend to just not want to have to deal with all the questions & worries that my boys bring about.

So to stop all this blabbering and attempt to ge6t to the point.

I finally invited her to my best friends house to jacuzzi, drink beers, and just relax. She came over one night had a good time, came over the next night and ended up hooking up with my best friend.

I walked in on them and simply did not say one word, but grabbed my stuff and left the house. I was pretty drunk & I am not sure if I am taking the right actions or even if my thought process is in the correct ballpark.

He destroyed any amount of trust I had for him simultaneously disrespecting any consideration of my feelings. Worse, he continued to lie about it until he realized that she had told me everything that had happened.

I feel that I have the right to be extremely mad at him, but I also am not sure what to think of her.

We have no ties as far as a relationship and she of course has the right to hook up with guys. However I feel that it was still disrespectful of her to do what she did. I do know that I can forgive her as I have no control and no right to tell her what she can and can't do. I also know that what my homie did was totally fucked, I feel like If I see him again I will hurt him beyond recognition.

What I am trying to figure out is what is a reasonable way of going about things. I don't entirely want to lose him as my friend but at the same time, it is heart wrenching for me to know that he did this. Is it reasonable for him to be forgiven, what would you do?

I apologize if this is all over the place, but thats whats wrong with me right now, my mind is scattered and racing at a million miles per hour, thus the reasoning behind my coming here for advice.

Thanks

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obviously dis guy aint ur homie go to his house and smash his face in! as for that bitch ass slut spit in her face and tell her to fuck her self, or something like dat. thats just what i would do but im a violent guy.

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the lethal dose of marijuana is about 1,500 pounds, consumed all at once...
.True.Pride.

that's retarded. maybe this girl just isn't into you.

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I have the urge to drink another fif and let shredded cheese melt all over my hairy chest cuz I'm hawt awwwwooo.

yh but come on if ur homie knew that you were onto her then thats fuked up

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Everything i write is made up all pictures i post are from the internet...
the lethal dose of marijuana is about 1,500 pounds, consumed all at once...
.True.Pride.

for sure but smashin his face isn't gonna get him this girl. he needs to tell her exactly how he feels about her

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I have the urge to drink another fif and let shredded cheese melt all over my hairy chest cuz I'm hawt awwwwooo.

Ok dude first off, your relationship is not complicated. You are in what I like to call the "friend" box and that is the WORST place to be with a woman unless you are gay. You need to stop being so nice to this girl if you really want her. Women like a little spice a challenge and mystery it is part of their fucking genetic structure. So if you want her here is what you do.

1. First put aside your emotions and stop acting like a women.
2. Continue to be friends with that guy not because he is not a douche bag because he is. You do this do show her you don't really care and you are your own man.
3. Don't call or talk to this chick and let her call you for at least a couple of weeks, just send her a text if she keeps calling saying you have been meaning to call her but have been really busy
4. If you see her around say hi but act busy and non-chalant
5. GET WITH OTHER WOMEN!!!!!! I cannot stress this enough find women friends hang with them, hook up
6. Get in shape, work out, get some style, start looking and feeling better, STAY ACTIVE! whatever you do
7. Let her come to you and when she does don't go repeating your mistakes, act like a man play little games with her and then fuck her, the physical part is necessary bro

Ok I'm not trying to be a dick I know you probably feel like shit and are really confused too. Women want men who are solid and they like a challenge too. What ever you do GET THE HELL OUT OF THE FRIEND BOX you will end up killing yourself if you stay there! You can't let women rule your emotions.

Bros before Hoes!

just tell her that what she did hurt you. but i mean...if shes not into you "that way" theres not really a whole lot you can do to change her mind. clarify with her where the 2 of you stand. are you just friends, or are you more...be honest and tell her how much you care about her...but dont be mad or anything if she doesnt feel the same. i would be pissed at ur buddy too. u need to sit him down and tell him that what he did really pissed you off. if hes really ur friend he will apologize. theres no sense fighting about it. but as for the girl...u really need to have a long talk...be patient, tell her how you feel...and listen to what she has to say. and dont make her feel bad for anything...maybe it will work out really well...maybe you'll just stay friends, either way...u need to talk it out. i know i sound like a total girl right now...but being distant and trying to be macho is not the way to go about things. maybe give her some space for a few days...a week at the most...but definitely make the effort to talk it out with her.

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

Whatever you do DON'T do that trust me there is no talking it out with a woman. You can't TALK women into feeling attracted to you hell if you could do that all the nerds in your high school would be getting laid at the jocks would be SOL. Trust me bro I have been down this road many a time before and now I date all kinds of girls get laid more and might have in fact found a girl that is really cool and who likes me too. I dated a chick with bi-polar for years and I can say I still love her but there is no way in hell I will ever get back together with her. I am having more sex than ever and meeting women that are WAY better prospects for the wife department.

fuck that, neither had enough respect for you to not "hook up"... wash your hands of both of them.... don't get upset, just walk away.....

tell her, she fucked up and she should have known better, and ciao......

tell him the same....

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~cheers