I know this is my first post but I have been a reader for a while now. Love the site.

After nearly 3 years of being single and having basically nothing relationship wise I have jumped back into the dating/seeking relationship thing. Life has been great the last 3 years, I developed a better outlook on life, lost wieght, feel great, and I am much happier over all. This has made me more out going and in turn more attractive to women. Now I can find decent looking women but I feel as though I have no relationship skills, I think I obsess and worry to much entirely.

Heres the story I'm about to move out of the family home finally, Im in college full time and work when I can. Ive got a good chunk of money set back to fund living costs and tuition for my final 2 years of college. I am now involved with a girl that is fucking amazing, Ive known her for a few months. The reason I have known her for a while is because she had been dating a friend of mine that I have known for almost a year. The last months or 2 she has randomly called me to chat, she seemed to want more out of her relationship, because hers seemed one sided and mostly about the sex. I knew this girl was about more than that and we seemed to connect. Niether of us ever made advances until the the 3rd time they "broke up", the 3rd time in 3 or 4 months of them dating. We hooked up a week later, we went out, she came home with me and stayed the night. I fixed her breakfast and dropped her off at home the whole nine yards it was great, feels strangely natural and amazing.

Problem: My friend is a great controller/manipulator, and this girl has a heart .
So basically he will try to continue to manipulate/control her because he cant find someone else to fuck at the moment ( he has cheated on her repeatedly). It has been my plan for the last 6 months to move in with my boys. But now I feel like everything has changed, and I need to make some decisions. If I need to I can afford my own place, it might actually be better. I just feel horribly guilty and a little afraid of what might happen with myself and my boy if myself and this girl continue to see eachother, after she cuts him off completely. Sorry for the long post but this is big shit.

If the pussy is good keep fuckin it

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Sup dude , personally i wouldn't move in with bunch of dudes when i was studying.Add to that an ex bf of my current gf.

Some young dudes like to party at college but if you wanna pass you course id live alone or with girls.

I dated one of my good friends ex's after they went on a break and he ocntinued to call her , and harrass her untill i threatened to beat him up and it made it really hard for our other friends. In the end she cheated on me ,bottom line is no matter how much you like this girl , 90% chance is you wont marry her.....but your mates will be your mates always.

If she went behind her bf's back and called you and then broke up with him for you etc what makes you think she won't do the same to you once she's bored of you?

Girls are sluts and that's that mate.
Don;t trust anybody , they're all out to get you.

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Girls are sluts and that's that mate.
Don;t trust anybody , they're all out to get you.
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What you trying to say here? I beg to differ my friend.

As for dating your friend's ex, you are only asking for trouble. There is an unwritten rule that you stay away from friend'e ex's at least there is for me. No matter how much you care or like them, stay away cause it will ruin your friendship with your buddy and her in the end.

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Yes, but a lot of guys are different in that way, and going out with a friend's ex doesn't bother everyone the same way (not saying it wouldn't bother me, but then again I've never had a friend who was with a guy that I even thought I wanted to hook up with).

This is a lot to chew on, I'll have to think about it. In the meantime, just keep things on the downlow and it's up to her to let HIM know that it's OVER. If she can't... <shrug>

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What you trying to say here? I beg to differ my friend.




Agreed.

Infatuation is a funny thing, you will think you are all head over heels for someone and a few months later you will realize that is was just that INFATUATION. somthing to keep in mind. remember you have been single for 3 years . also did you say you have only known this friend for less then a year?? You could always just ask wot he thinks of you going out with her, chances are he doesnt even care. Doesnt sound to me that you have had too deep a relationship with either this 'friend' or girl.. and one more thing 'mates are not always mates' you can lose friends just as easy as your counterpart. well good luck in woteva ur choices are.

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Sluts....all of yah.you two specially..






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You are lucky I scrolled down to see the j/k, lol. Cause I was going to let you have it for calling me that. You better watch it buster.

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Thanks for the replies and advice everyone. It was fast, the sex was crazy and thats about all it was. Im such a dumbass when it comes to girls. Seems to be once you jump into the dating pool you just continue to swim though, so this whore wont be the last. She went back to him, as I sorta expected in the back of my mind but let the "infatuation/crazy sex" blurr my thoughts. I more than likely still won't move in the people I spoke of anyway. Im slowly learning that girls are all liars, cheats, and man eaters until proven innocent, and thats basically the way Ill have to treat em and play the game until I finally discover one girl that isn't any of the dirty words I just typed. Live and learn.

Life these days is crazy, very eye opening. The last time I dated (when I was younger) I would follow a girl like a puppy and believe every word they said. Now I know most of it is lies and or an act all together. Luckily I'm more concious of my stupid feelings and chemicals running through my young body that just wants to move a mile a minute. When I was younger I would let these emotions get the better of me and end up just putting my arm through a wall, sometimes Id still like to do that, but I know I'll only look like a fool and feel the same afterwards + bruised knuckles and a hole in the wall.

While I know many may find it stupid to attribute mental growth from the use of a substance (weed), I feel as though it has "evened" me out, I dont get out of control anger anymore, and I dont have road rage and speeding tickets like I used to. I will admit that I smoke a lot when I am in a bad mood, it allows me to let go of the depressing thoughts and laugh about them and see them in a different light, almost as though I'm viewing the bullshit from outside my small mind, or I am just able to seperate myself from the feelings. Sadly I see my older brother show all the signs of the high tension, anger and road rage that I used to see myself consumed by. My brother has never smoked weed and he never will. We look, sound, and act the same other than his anger and road rage. The only difference I can figure out is the fact that I smoke and he does not, he has anger control problems and I no longer do.......Any input on that?

Oh yeah, did I mention I have the horrible skill of attracting girls with horrible histories. Ive gotta work on that, I have the tendency to be a care taker and give a shit......How do I stop that exactly? lol