Hubby and I both smoke together daily..We have been since the early 70s! I have the green thumb so I grow and we both smoke..

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I guess there's a reason I'm still single....haven't met the right stoner girl yet

Its your call but I would start jotting down little reminders of why you like to smoke etc. and perhaps make her some dinner, real special and all, and let her know.
I could never tell my guy that he can't do anything. We both respect that we have free will and the right to do as we please but we also know that we wouldn't take advantage of each this freedom.

I honestly couldn't have a relationship with someone who didn't understand that part about me because it's a HUGE deal to me.

Yeah. You can't keep it a secret forever. Its not good for the relationship BUT more importantly, its not good for your heart and soul.
Be true to yourself!
We Love you bud bat!

Well me and my hubby both smoke daily. I have smoked for years and hubby just as long as he has known me . I still tend to smoke more. As for the growing, we both do it and approve of it, lol. I do most of the tending, watering, nutes, research, cloning etc. Hubby just fixes the stuff ie: clogged pumps, draining and filling, lifting stuff and makes any modifications that may arise. He basically does the stuff I can't (heavy lifting etc, same as my outdoor gardens, lugging and lifting the shit, lol). And of couse we both share in the harvest. I couldn't imagine it any other way. I married my best friend.

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Peace, Love & Weed

That wouldn't work well at all. don't/can't cook so if i did that she would become immediately suspicious. i have no idea what's going to happen. so i'll do what i always do, just run with it as long as possible then wing it when i cross that bridge.

hahaha. use him for manual labor. i approve.

Just be truthful with her Kant, if a women hates anything is to be lied to, tell her straight out and let her know you could have kept if from her, but you want a relationship built on trust. Reinterate the fact that it is a plant and how its part of you lie style. But keeping it from her will just hurt your relationship, i am with Lacy, and we are married, you cant control your spouse/mate. In the end you have to decide(if she is totally against it) what is more important, will you marry her someday??

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Absolutely! Trust isn't something that can be bought. Its one of the most important aspects in any good relationship. Trust is priceless and most certainly a characteristic women are looking for.
You tell him Puff!!!

If she doesn't know this part of you Kant, then she doesn't really know you.

As far as the dinner thing, so what if ya can't cook. Wing it with the dinner not the news about weed.
Surely you're more creative than that Kant.

Take her OUT to dinner then.

It sounds like you are afraid of confrontation.
Me too!

Hubby doesn't smoke. or help me with my grow but he doesn't hassle me about it either. He is gonna help me build my grow room. Been togther 18 years now and he is also my best friend.
Life is good.

Aww, spouses.
I haven't been in a relationship yet, but she'd have to know that I smoke. My 'grow room' is an open doorway right next to my bedroom! I'm sure she'd notice to bright white light shining from the aluminum draped cardboard/duct tape fixture.

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wow i'm being attacked by the tag team of lacy and puff. well lacy i am in fact a wuss. as for marriage...that's something i'm not even remotely ready for. I have a feeling that it's going to be one of those make or break discussions. which is why i'm not too eager to have it.