i just had the worst night ever. im just wondering if anyone has any advice for me...or any feedback. well...heres the story...its gonna be a long one...

i have (well...had) a friend that i've known and been friends with since the 9th grade. she was family to me. her boys call me auntie sarah. well i really needed a fun night out so last night her and i and 2 of her friends went to one of the bars here. the night was a total blast...honestly it was one of the most fun nights i have ever had...until the end of the night. theres these guys that they met at this bar 2 weeks ago, and they were there that night too hangin out with us...well at the end of the night the guys invited us back to a hotel room they were staying at to have some drinks. now...i know what you're all thinking, its my own fault i should have known what the hotel room would mean...but this is not the first time we have partied in a hotel room with guys...and its not the first time we've left the bar with guys either...we always just hang out and have some drinks and shoot the shit...its just a fun way to unwind at the end of the night. and i also want to mention at this point...everyone here knows that im still a virgin, and that i have some mental problems...and she knows very well how i am...because she was one of my best friends. and she was acting the whole time like we were just gonna hang out with these guys and that nothing was gonna happen. well...in the room things started getting a little sexual...she was laying there on the bed with one of the guys...he was in his underwear...and her one friend was laying on the bed next to her with another one of the guys. and im in there trying to tell her not to do this shit...not to do something stupid...and then we talked in the living room. and at the start of the night we agreed not to babysit each other so we could just let loose and have a good time. but i was under the impression that we were to still use common sense. i was having some fun too...i have my nipples pierced and im not shy about them, and when people ask to see im ok with showing them, and the guys wanted to see, so i showed them and we were talkin about piercings...so apparently by me doing this im just as skanky as the rest of them. HA. well...i chose to leave the hotel room and go home before the psychotic episode kicked in. i didnt feel like going to jail. and when i got home i sent her a text message saying "please dont do anything stupid." and i got one back from one of her friends telling me "shes fucking him." so i sent one back saying "tell her im pissed." and the reply was "(the one other chick) is getting it on with this one guy, and (my friend) is getting it on with one guy, and im getting it on with so and so, leave us alone." so i called her cell phone. and i lost it. i was livid. now...i realize that shes a grown woman able to make her own choices...but she has 2 young boys, both from different dads...and i really thought she had more brains than this. not only that but i felt so uncomfortable at the room...becuase sexuality in my face like that makes me very uncomfortable. which she knows. i cannot believe that she put me in that position. if she knew the night was gonna go this way...why even invite me out? and why get me to go to the hotel with them? she could have pulled me aside and said...hey this is whats gonna happen here tonight...u might wanna go home cuz u might get uncomfortable...but she didnt, and she doesnt even care that she hurt me. am i not supposed to care about my friends? im protective...i didnt wanna see her do something stupid...i was trying to look out for her...am i wrong? please help me...i dont know what to do...i never want to see her or talk to her again...i dont need friends like that...

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

I don't think a so-called real friend would want special attention when treated 100% equally. You did the right thing, for you. Fuggit about it . . . you'd all been drinking.
A lot of people, I suspect, have come to realize that love really isn't necessary in good sex. True love sex is a whole different thing.
You may find saving yourself one of the sillier things you do/did in your life? Maybe not.
You sound young. I'm old. Life's what happens when you have no plans.

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I'd giva ya everything I got . . . for little piece of mind

yea im fairly young...22...and i mean...this guy was gross...i swear this is the truth...buddy had shit stains on his boxers...thats gross...and thats when i started trying to talk some sense into her...when the guys started getting undressed. and then i left shortly after. this threw me into a full psychotic episode...it wasnt pretty...

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

Hey Sarah, you did the right thing for you. I mean the fact that your still a virgin seems to me to mean you are very smart and in touch with your self. Too many young women think that in order to be liked they have to have sex with a man. First thing is you can't tell your " friend" anything. It seems that she already has made several bad choices in the fact that she had 2 children with 2 different Dads that to me says she isn't smart enough to have any form of birth control. Not anything against the children. I'm not saying that but damn, to have a bunch of girls come over and I think going over there it was "implied" they were going to hook up. I think you are the only one who didn't realize this. You can only answer for you not her, the fact she put you in the situation to me means you think more of the friendship than she does. I would take it for what it is and stop thinking of her as family. Find someone who has the same values as you and give them a try. Just cause you know someone for a long time doesn't mean they won't change, Maybe you grew up and she didn't. She will get a STD especially when a guy goes out with the intention to get some pussy with shit stains on his underwear. Thats just fucking gross. Just drop the friend. I saw your pic on the RIU girl thread, your young and beautiful. You'll find real true friends now that your an adult hold on to them. The psychotic thing isn't relevant you can't have it so someone has to babysit you. Be a grown up and deal as best you can with it. You just happen to be in the era of my kids all jumpy and fidgety let's give them some pills to fuck with their brains a little more. Prozac and all that mental drug shit isn't in my opinion the way to deal with kids. I'm just assuming on this part, you don't have to tell me why or what. It's none of my business. I think you did the right thing got the hell out of there and you can't be your "friends" keeper. P.S. don't share a toliet seat with her ever!!

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Good seed, dirt, light, water, what's the big deal?

yea i know what ya mean. and the whole babysitting thing is just what we do together to avoid these kind of situations, it not really babysitting so much as just looking out for each other...its just what we call it...and i know i cant be her keeper...but i just want to help u know? i want to look out for my girls the way i had thought they would look out for me...but its ok...i have better friends...i have a very close knit group that she wasnt a part of...so im just gonna stick with those friends...cuz they would never do something like that...ever. oh well...i guess maybe its better this way.

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

That is what I wanted to hear move onward and upward.I know this sounds funny but my daughter is 25 and she was a little "hefty" when she was younger and she ended up with "friends" that weren't really friends I taught her everything and was never hesitant about any answer to any question. Now years later these friends are all on their 2or 3 or 4th child all from different dads and miserable and my daughter is just experiencing life the way a 25 year old should no children to hold her down. Sounds like you got a pretty good head on your shoulders, it's hard to let go of the old friends but you gotta look out for you period. If they don't fit in well so be it. remember they must not be that happy if they are trying to find love in a one night "orgy" from what it sounds like. You will find your love from that someone who just catches your eye one day. Life is for you to enjoy and travel and talk on RIU threads and well just whatever you want to do. I am sorry that they did that to you and I do understand the watching out for one another, just too bad it ended up that way they can't be proud of themselves.But you can hold your head up high. Rock on Lil Sarah

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Good seed, dirt, light, water, what's the big deal?

Tomorrow your friend will probably feel like crap about the whole situation. Talk to her. I have had a situation in which my best friend and I were totally in different places- I kept getting betrayed- she gave my young, naive friend who had never done any drugs a rohypnol and told her it was tylenol- young friend ended up in jail. Same night she stole money from me for heroin. Anyway she kept taking from me again and again and I was so burnt out but in the end she sorted herself out and we're still friends. Best friends in the 9th grade; now we're 31.

Sometimes it's worth it to stick by someone. However I will say I took a step away from said friend for a bit over a year. When I found her again she was ready to turn things around. Take a step away if she's a toxic person, but talk to her either way.

In my opinion you should try to work things out if the relationship was important to you, but maybe give it some time. We've talked before & I think your smart(pretty too I saw your pic) so you will make the choice that's right for you.

hmm thanks guys...i really appreciate everyones help...i love my RIU family

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

hey Sarah did you hear from her yet? If so, what did she have to say for herself?