So I became an atheist about the time I got married. My wife knows how I feel and she knows I read a lot about religion (she is a devout "I am nothing without God" Christian.) So I have been thinking about becoming a "pretend christian", by that I mean tell her that I have "seen the light" and converting to her religion and getting into the church.

What say you mighty potheads?

You shouldn't pretend who you are in my opinion. You should instead discuss your feelings with her & realize it's O.K. to have different views. Love should overcome that difference just like any other.

being atheist while your spouse is a firm believer... that is very very hard to work with. i suppose if you aren't offended that she loves God more than you, you can work it out. (no offense or anything, that's just the way it is for believers. God is before everybody)

if she's happy being a Christian, that is something you should think about.

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"And those who resisted were dragged out from their homes. This necklace was fashioned out of their teeth and bones."

................................confused::confu sed:I say it is one of the most rediculous things I have ever read.
1st of all if you respect this woman you are seeing then don't redicule her by doing such a thing.
I don't personally believe in religion BUT others do and it is their RIGHT to do so without the interferance of us non-believers.
There are more wars created over the religion than anything and to start off a relationship with such a HUGE lie is just not right and is unfair for both her and you.

Don't ever pretend to be something you are not.
Many people spend their lives trying figure themselves out.

Its outrageous that you would even consider this idea.
Do you really think she will think more high;y of you?
Or even better question.....will you 'think' more highly of yourself?

If you are any kind of decent human being this SHOULD not sit right with your consciousness.

Many people have a very high regard for religion. Most of them have been raised this way and to take this and make a mockery of it, just isn't right on any level.

I don't believe in religion BUT I do believe in GOD big time. It is every person's individual right to believe what they want to, including you.

Don't disrepect yourself like this.
If you do then you are just living a lie.
How many other changes will you make just to please your lover?

It sounds like a relationship that could end up like this:




and unless you are into this.......
think again more wisely

well said!

Don't do it. Your wife will figure out really quickly that you're full of crap.

If you simply want to go to church with her and share that aspect of life with her, just say so. Tell her you don't believe but you want to go with her. That it's such an important part of her life you want to share it. But be upfront; don't fake a conversion! She would be really devastated if you lied about this. There is a lot of baggage here. Don't play with her emotions.

No part of a marriage should be based on a lie.

LACY!! ur back! lol. and feisty as ever i see...lol. i can understand where he's coming from though...his wife kinda has a stick up her ass...(no offense matthew!). but hun...dont pretend to be a christian. its ok to believe different things. and it will definitely come back to bite you in the ass if you do pretend. if you are an atheist...then be a proud atheist. your wife should love you exactly the way you are...you shouldnt have to change for anyone.

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so i love how my thing says "teaching how to roll" because i cant roll worth shit! lol

well yeahhhhhhh

Lying about that is retarded. My woman's old country italian catholic, and im basically agnostic. we communicate well, and we both maintain a certain amount of discourse with each other's beliefs, but i could never tell her "Hey Babe, I think I'm Catholic now!"

Actions like this actually represent a severe disrespect for the tenacity of a "believer's" conviction. It basically means that you don't comprehend how important it is, or that you don't take it seriously. Believe me, she takes that shit seriously.

If you're just looking for something to believe in, well, that's a different story. Jump on in. As far as I'm concerned, one's no better'n the others. My dad once told me that "religion and US politics are very much alike. They basically all mean the same shit, it just came from a different animal." He still gives me shit for voting...

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...For all Stoners share a love of things that grow. And yes, no doubt, to others our ways seem quaint.

why would you even want to do that?

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Hell naw. Dont pretend to believe in something u dont. Your wife will understand.

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