first time grower any help or tips would be appreciated

Time. Let mother nature do its thing. Find a nute program and stick to it. Keep it simple.

What kind of nutes should I be using? And how do you think the big ones are going for how old they are?

you're going to need a LOT more light. You can get highter wattage CFL's for cheap. I can see the stems are quite stretched.

I'm getting two cfl grow lights today and another 20 watt light for the seedlings will that be good?

id go with at least four daylight (6500K/blue spectrum) bulbs per plant for vegging and at least six warm white (2700K/red spectrum) per plant for flowering. Full spectrum is nice, but it emits unuseable colors and is somewhat inefficient. Get those lights as close as you can without burning the leaves, like 2-4 inches away.
The bigger plants could use some LST since the nodes are so stretched.
What kind of soil is that? What are you feeding them? How many hours of light and dark do they get? How big are those containers?

let your soil get completely dry between feedings

They are on a 18/6 light schedule. The two big ones were on a 24 hour light schedule up to 2 weeks old then were put on the 18/6. Just got two more lights for the bigg ones they are now under 2 28 watt panasonic full spectrum cfls and I'm getting another light for the seedlings the same as the other one. I'm feeding them miracle grow and the two big ones are in two litre pots

Should I let all the plants dry out before watering or just the big ones?